u/Classic-Air-746

A little background.

Wife (F48) and I (M58) have been on the rocks for a while. Last Fall, everything came to a head, and she almost left. Our main issues were division of housework and my 1970's mindset.

That was an eye opener for me and I took immediate steps to correct that. I proactively started doing the bulk of the chores and updating my mindset. In the beginning, she was suspicious. The only way to prove myself was to show her, which I have been doing.

Our sex life had gone away. She stopped undressing in front of me. I have not been pursuing sex, but showing respectful affection. We have been affectionate but I have not passed first base. I am good with that. I want to fix us before we go there again. On a few occasions, things have gotten heated and she "finishes" while I kiss her to help her get there. My underwear stayed on.

Recently, she has been more "flirty". She has done little things she knows turns me on. She's flashed me a couple times, has not been covering up around me. I really don't want to ruin any gains we have made and for her to doubt my sincerity by initiating sex.

Does anyone have any thoughts?

I plan to keep working on being a better partner and take cues from her for physical intimacy. I want her to see my desire as a positive, not just trying to get laid.

A little background...

Our (F47, M58) marriage was slipping away. For many years, she felt like the bulk of the housework was her burden. She felt like she had no voice, wasn't heard or seen. In a moment of clarity, I saw the error of my ways and begged her forgiveness. She did not believe me. I decided to show her.

I did not suggest FLR because I didn't want her to feel like I was trying to her her into a kink for me.

I started taking responsibility for the housework. I deferred to her and cheerfully did the work. Over the past few months, I have reached the point of being able to exceed her expectations for housework. I also had conversions and asked questions designed to explore our relationship from her point of view. I listened to her and reacted accordingly.

The tension that has always been present in our relationship is better, we talk more, we cuddle every night. This week, for the first time in a very long time, we were intimate. It was very one sided. She had an orgasm and I never took my clothes off. I thanked her and rubbed her back while she drifted off the sleep.

I think I am doing the right things. We talk more and that seems to be the best part.

Any thoughts?