I have been wanting to try pegging for a long time. My girlfriend brought it up to me once before and she said that she would never do that, and that she found it weird.
So I was hoping to hear if your SO said something similar and ended up enjoying it in the future?
A little background.
Wife (F48) and I (M58) have been on the rocks for a while. Last Fall, everything came to a head, and she almost left. Our main issues were division of housework and my 1970's mindset.
That was an eye opener for me and I took immediate steps to correct that. I proactively started doing the bulk of the chores and updating my mindset. In the beginning, she was suspicious. The only way to prove myself was to show her, which I have been doing.
Our sex life had gone away. She stopped undressing in front of me. I have not been pursuing sex, but showing respectful affection. We have been affectionate but I have not passed first base. I am good with that. I want to fix us before we go there again. On a few occasions, things have gotten heated and she "finishes" while I kiss her to help her get there. My underwear stayed on.
Recently, she has been more "flirty". She has done little things she knows turns me on. She's flashed me a couple times, has not been covering up around me. I really don't want to ruin any gains we have made and for her to doubt my sincerity by initiating sex.
Does anyone have any thoughts?
I plan to keep working on being a better partner and take cues from her for physical intimacy. I want her to see my desire as a positive, not just trying to get laid.
What is something that immediately comes to mind when thinking of a good sub quality. Is it an action? A mindset? A routine?
I know we all will have different opinions. I’m just trying to expand my perspective, I wish to more and be better for my partner.
Please let me hear your thoughts
When did you and your partner really start your flr? I know there is a adjustment period, where both have to find themselves in their roles. But when and how long did that take your your relationship? Was it like a switch in the end or did it come gradually? Step by step? A certain point where you could both tell that the relationship has changed for the better?
We would appreciate your story. We are both very new
Thank you so much