Hi! So I’ve been seeing my SD for a while now. We had a very steady every 10 to 14 day situation. PPM.. consistent, good. Then we started having dinners and going to Movies… those didn’t come with sugar, but I really do love his company.
He’s been working on a big case, but we still see each other almost weekly but it’s less of our original “meet ups” and more movies and dinners..
We really care for each other.. i know he cares about me a lot. Genuinely... it just feels right with him. And again, I know he really really cares for me. Dare I say “love”.
He got me a couch and offered to pay for massages.. but I’m finally actually pouring into myself. This means more shopping.. more conveniences. Before it was more of me just catching up..
I want to continue spending time with him, but I also want a steady (supplemental) income. My dog is going into a training program, I’m going on a trip with some of my friends, my car had a thing, I’ve been shopping and just moved so.. I want to enjoy all of that. So I’m spending more and getting less from him right now..
He has said he wants to help me however he can.. but he does also ask me if I actually like spending time with him. I really really do!! He’s a very sensitive guy so I don’t want him to feel like I’m using him but I’m also sure he likes seeing me happy.
He got a reservation at a restaurant I’ve been wanting to go to, so I’ll see him next week.. how should I bring it up? I don’t want to make things weird but I think an allowance is fair.. he’s been so sweet so I don’t think he’ll say no but I also don’t want him to feel like it’s transactional. I truly don’t think he’s trying to be cheap or sneaky either.. I think he just likes spending time with me and could use some direction.. I just want to make sure I’m intentional with how I bring it up.
Please advise 🙏🏽