Anecdotal ways to bridge this kink with a FWB/SO who you think might have noticed it? (How much do we think the gen public is aware of it?)
Hello! The short and sweet of it is I’ve (26F) got a situationship (29M) who I think is just a bit of a hungry-outdoorsy type, but recently I’ve wondered if him eating like 8 slices of pizza in a crop top or into needing to change pants isn’t my ass being clocked.
I’ve maybe dropped a hint or two (jokingly replying ”sexy” to texts that involve food or his bmi being 26, but like, i say that to a lot of things??), but unless I’m really giving myself alway in person somehow (the other day I was what-do-you-want-to-do-to-me-ing and he said “drop my body weight on you???”) I’m feeling a little confused about what’s going on. I’ve never engaged with this kink irl before and quite frankly never expected to. I don’t feel like most people are aware female feeders are a thing, much less fit, offline dudes? I’m an outdoorsy type myself if that adds context.
Anywho, the current pattern is that he demolishes some food in front of me, I feel if anything turned off by it in the moment due to the moral ambiguity of the situation (he’s mentioned having body image issues in the past), then go home and replay the spank bank material.
I think it would be good to break this pattern. Has anyone had similar experiences of being clocked, or are willing to share how they brought up the topic generally? Bc this is just a FWB thing I’m considering taking a swing & seeing what happens. Thanks!