Recently, my SD told me that he has developed feelings for someone else. Our SR has never been very emotional, so I didn’t expect this to affect me as much as it did. But to my surprise, I’ve been feeling quite heartbroken. I didn’t expect myself to feel attached, but clearly I did more than I thought. I didn’t show much of my reaction when he told me, and he didn’t say he wants to end things between us (at least for now). But ever since then, I’ve been stuck in my head, thinking about all the “what ifs.” It’s gotten to the point where I’ve even lost my appetite for a few days, which is unusual for me. I guess I’m just trying to understand what I actually feel about him, and why this news hit me so hard.
Has anyone experienced something similar in an SR? How do you deal with these kinds of emotions while keeping things balanced?