I need advice because I am confused
Hi everybody. This is my first post, so please be kind to me. And I'm sorry that this is so long.
I, 19F and my dom 32M have been together for a few months now and I'm new to this lifestyle and am autistic. I also have a bit of trauma from my childhood which I'll get to more later because its relavent but so far, from all of the stuff I've learned from my more experienced kinky friends, he seems like an "ok" dom on the surface. He checked all of the boxes. Hes respectful and hes asked all the right questions. He always wants to know how I feel and what I need. We have created a safeword verbal and non verbal. I've learned what he likes and doesn't like, I've been experimenting about what I like and dont like. Everything seems great right? We played for a few months then things start cracking a bit. Back to the trauma thing. We got really vulnerable one night and I told him about something very traumatic that happend to me when I was 4. I've told him that I am an age regressor strictly SFW, no sex or anything involved. And he told me that it probably wasn't good for me to be doing all the time and I agreed and told him I've spoken to my therapist about what to do moving forward blah blah blah all that stuff and then we fell asleep. Then a few nights later we were playing and he started doing things to try and make me regress as we were playing. This was not negotiated beforehand nor do I want to engage in sexual acts while regressed so I told him I wanted to stop and we did. We talked about how I didn't feel comfortable doing that, I cried a bit and he told me he wouldn't do it again but that he wanted me to be a "Yes girl". Then our next playtime happens and he does it again and he tells me he wants me to remember what happend to me when I was 4 and he said I should reframe my memory so then I was the one who "wanted it". I was disgusted at this point and safeworded again. I was upset this time and he told me it would be ok and we did aftercare and all that stuff. The next morning we talked about it and how i didn't like how he did that and he told me it was a little girls job to serve older men and I told him it wasn't and he said something about how over thousands of years kids and women have been doing it and im absolutely disgusted so I would like yalls advice on this.
Thank you ♡♡♡♡
edit: I also remembered that during play he would mention playing with our own hypothetical daughters when I told him how I didnt like certain things like the women and children thing he would tell me that he just wants me to be a "yes girl" and that he would never actually do things like that and hed never break my trust but he wants me to be so deep in subspace that I'd do anything he'd ask. And now I wanna throw up because I remembered that. ew :(