u/DadByDaylight1

I (45 White Man) recently slept with a Pakistani coworker (23) and she was the best I've ever been with, so much energy and like a need to please, is this why? just discovered this subreddit, is this actually a thing?

I (45M) work at a University in the US, and recently cheated on my wife of 22 years for the first time. We (wife and I) haven’t been more than amicable roommates really in 10 years I’d say. This last semester, my dept at the school added a new Program Assistant to help us teachers with various things; events, scheduling guest lectures, etc. She (23) is originally from Pakistan, Muslim but casually so lol, so no hijab or anything like that, just dresses standard biz-causal.

We became close pretty quickly as my office hours overlapped pretty fully with the hours she worked on campus, so a lot of time just hanging out in my office between student visits/appointments etc. i am naturally a very flirty person, and shes very attractive, I'm a sucker for dark hair and eyes etc, so I definitely was flirting most of the time, and she dished it back just as readily.

At the end of this last semester we had a little party in the office when grades were done being submitted, with drinks etc. She did not partake of the drinks, but I absolutely did. When most of the staff had gone home, she came into my office and sat on my desk to chat, which was normal, but I was drunk and put my hand on her leg and before I knew it she was on my lap, and shortly thereafter back on my desk with her pants off and me between her legs. It was a fantastic time. Now if I am being honest, I didn’t feel guilty about it, more just shocked at what had happened. I went home, she went home, I slept in my bed with my wife, etc. I kinda figured it was a one time thing, and didn't talk to her or see her again until a few weeks ago.

I went to campus to meet with a student (summer classes are online but if someone needs individual attention I will meet at school), and she was there setting up for a prospective student tour thingy. She popped in after my appt had left and casually sat on my desk again. We talked about how our summers were going, and she casually mentioned that she and her husband had gone to Hawaii.

I had no fucking idea she was married.

She had never had a ring on, never mentioned it, etc. She is only 23 so I never even questioned it. I asked wtf, and learned that she was in an “arranged marriage” since 21. I don’t know if that made me feel more guilty because I was a party to her cheating, less guilty because I wasn’t the only one cheating or what, but for some reason it definitely triggered me and I closed the door and within 5 minutes we were repeat offenders.

We met up again this week, and I think I enjoy both the fact that she’s someone else’s wife, but also that she’s Muslim, i am not religious at all but something feels way more fun about doing this with someone who is in a strictly religion/culture based marriage and just kinda blowing that all up without HIM knowing. I feel way more emboldened now as well, hence being here, sharing, exploring etc while my wife sits on our deck chatting with her awful friends.

I (45M) work at a University in the US, and recently cheated on my wife of 22 years for the first time. We (wife and I) haven’t been more than amicable roommates really in 10 years I’d say. This last semester, my dept at the school added a new Program Assistant to help us teachers with various things; events, scheduling guest lectures, etc. She (23) is originally from Pakistan, Muslim but casually so lol, so no hijab or anything like that, just dresses standard biz-causal.

We became close pretty quickly as my office hours overlapped pretty fully with the hours she worked on campus, so a lot of time just hanging out in my office between student visits/appointments etc. i am naturally a very flirty person, and shes very attractive, I'm a sucker for dark hair and eyes etc, so I definitely was flirting most of the time, and she dished it back just as readily.

At the end of this last semester we had a little party in the office when grades were done being submitted, with drinks etc. She did not partake of the drinks, but I absolutely did. When most of the staff had gone home, she came into my office and sat on my desk to chat, which was normal, but I was drunk and put my hand on her leg and before I knew it she was on my lap, and shortly thereafter back on my desk with her pants off and me between her legs. It was a fantastic time. Now if I am being honest, I didn’t feel guilty about it, more just shocked at what had happened. I went home, she went home, I slept in my bed with my wife, etc. I kinda figured it was a one time thing, and didn't talk to her or see her again until a few weeks ago.

I went to campus to meet with a student (summer classes are online but if someone needs individual attention I will meet at school), and she was there setting up for a prospective student tour thingy. She popped in after my appt had left and casually sat on my desk again. We talked about how our summers were going, and she casually mentioned that she and her husband had gone to Hawaii.

I had no fucking idea she was married.

She had never had a ring on, never mentioned it, etc. She is only 23 so I never even questioned it. I asked wtf, and learned that she was in an “arranged marriage” since 21. I don’t know if that made me feel more guilty because I was a party to her cheating, less guilty because I wasn’t the only one cheating or what, but for some reason it definitely triggered me and I closed the door and within 5 minutes we were repeat offenders.

We met up again this week, and I think I enjoy both the fact that she’s someone else’s wife, but also that she’s Muslim, i am not religious at all but something feels way more fun about doing this with someone who is in a strictly religion/culture based marriage and just kinda blowing that all up without HIM knowing. I feel way more emboldened now as well, hence being here, sharing, exploring etc while my wife sits on our deck chatting with her awful friends.