u/DarkCloakWarper

God estim gets me so wet 😖

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This will be a long post:

Preface : If you've done estim play for a while and have hung around here or several other places, read the wikis, etc- then you'll already know this, but if not- What i am describing here in is advanced Estim play- Sharing Circuits, which should really be done only after you have an idea of how estim play works, general safety, once you know the feel of electricity, and have an understanding of things like the Inverse Surface Area rule , and how electrode size matters, etc.

Over years, I've sought after and gathered reports on the types of estim play where people share circuits. This does include Violet Wand Body Contact Probe type play, but also extends to Estim units.

Part of this, is due to how perhaps two decades ago or so many across several estim forums noted that Shared Circuit Electrified Sex, is the holy grail of estim from a sensation and play standpoint, and how it vastly exceeds even solo estim , which caught my attention. The other half, is that playing with a partner when you are the electrodes literally controlling where you send the electricity physically, is an experience nothing else can match.

I've spent a bit of resources,money and efforts to continue to look into it, but not just for when I would have rare opportunities to experience it, but to help inform the community, because this is one of those areas of estim where people who have indepth experience, don't talk about it at all(including on here). I think there's been like one sex blogger who tried it and discussed it (notably using audio estim as well- a very rare combination) Girl On the Net 1 Girl On the Net 2

Some of it is because of the risks- I have accounts from people who did this dangerously in the 70's and 80's using stereo amps and speakers, for example. (They raised the power up to the point they got serious poke zaps from separating, or kissing even- which boggles my mind and makes me wonder how much power was going through them.) Some of it is because information flow is really bad, and electroplay is still not widely known in kink, at this point, in 2026- though it's getting better than before, slowly. And of course, some of it is safety - with anything there's risks, and good and bad ways to do stuff, and I was determined to absorb as much as possible on that front in regards to electrostim techniques. So yes, i've seen Ruru's attempted testing - and have noted how those on Fetlife, here and other places have felt about these types of tests. I've also seen Folsom and ElectraStim) I've also seen the Folsom and ElectraStim's materials on electrified sex as they have promoted shared circuit play(Folsom's aren't around anymore from what I can see on their sites.) https://us.electrastim.com/pages/how-to-share-electro-stimulation-with-a-partner https://us.electrastim.com/pages/can-my-partner-i-use-different-electro-toys-at-the-same-time

I also believe that we have to make a serious effort to share novel experiences and cases , so we can further demystify things. For safety reasons, for education reasons, and for furthering the field. Yes, everyone reacts differently to electricity because bodies and brains and nerves are different , but overall a lot can always be applied and learned from others.

This is an ongoing mission of mine to learn about.

Anyway- I wanted to give the subreddit some observations I have made during a personal experience.

I had the very rare opportunity to do hours and hours and hours of shared-circuit heavy petting and making out recently, with someone. This did not go all the way to electrified sex, so I cannot personally speak on that in-depth yet at this time(I eventually hope to in the very long term).

This was alongside Body Contact Probe play with both Solid State and Electromechanical Violet Wands I own.(Not at the same time, it';s known that violet wands can damage estim devices, even though a lot of media (Wired Pussy, ElectroSluts, and more) uses them together- as we also have a case or two on Fetlife of estim boxes getting messed up and broken from being used near them.)

 

 

First off: Body Contact Probe Play: Using a Nova Solid State, and a ElectroMechanical, there was a lot of play. I have taken to enjoying giving electrified body rubs and massages, and could and can speak on that a bit- but overall, what i've learned is that one really wants to do this with their fingertips with decent pressure. A lot of this will be obvious to anyone else who plays with electricity - but you have to tread the line between sparks, which will slightly sting you(and the person you're giving this to)- it gets to be a bit much to keep doing this continuously for any length of time, as opposed to occasionally ,to zap them more intensely- You can use the flat bottom part of your fingers, and if you use one finger or two, you'll feel the current , as will the other person( it'll be a serious tingle if you put one finger on one of their fingers, and then a bit less with two, and from then on it drops off severely)

If you have all 5 fingers on one or both hands and run them up and down their body, it'll (especially with electromechanical wands)- feel like a vibration to you and them, not like electricity as much, and this allows for a electrified massage of sorts that is unlike anything else i've ever felt. Both giving and receiving it is interesting. There is a difference in the current feeling if you use the backs of your fingertips as opposed to the flats of your fingers, I prefer backs of fingertips for more intense sensations. Do not use only nails, as that means your finger is barely in contact, and that will be a sparky, and a bit intense and a little stingy for individuals finger to sustain. Don't let gaps get too big, if going for sensual play- this would be more for tormenting someone intentionally.

If you run them over the right nerves, or places like armpits, areas around triceps,etc ,etc, you will get small muscle spasms, and to a more amusing degree, doing something like hitting a armpit will send current up nerves that cause their hands and arm to twitch visibly a bit, before they know it, for a brief second. Someone who knows anatomy or is able to identify nerve clusters, etc in major muscle groups and so on will be very powerful here

Going to skip forward to kissing. Violet Wands are said to be good for electrified kissing and making out, but after a lot of time doing this, I ran into the phenomena of surface area- hard. If you just kiss someone, tongue to tongue, and try not to touch them elsewhere, you can feel the tongue tingle(Water/wet areas step up the feeling by like a quarter to a half i noted multiple times. ) Once a leg of yours touches them or whatnot though, the current drops off extremely fast, and it does NOT matter if the violet wand is at full power, or brought up to full power, it makes a very minor difference in feeling due to the power spreading. I had tested the finger to finger tingle and noted that with much more contact the dropoff is severe- this applies as well to electrified kissing. I did not get to test electrified oral, that is something said to drive people crazy and be a staple of this sort of play. I also hope to eventually get a lot of this in to get an idea over any particulars of current there.

Other types of kissing resemble the fingers thing. You can lick someone's body, but if your tongue is seriously on their skin, it's deadened a bit. If you are too loose and get a gap, you'll get a bit of a spark which will spark you and them, and you won't really be able to do intentionally with how it feels on your tongue, but with the wetness, it's not as fun since the sensation is a step up. So if you are very careful, you can lick someone electrically.

I'll briefly mention this since it's not talked about but is known. With any electro play like this, especially violet wands, just dragging your fingertips up and down someone, the buzzing is LOUD. It does differ based on the type of wand, but we already know mechanical and solid state wands don't put out the exactly same frequency, and 'wave' etc of current. The buzzing is more of an indication how thin the contact is ,as you drag your hands. Could it be used as an instrument? a one note difficult one, perhaps.

Reminder to people: Electromechanicals get hot after about half an hour, turn them off and give them breaks, and switch to other violet wands like solid states, until they cool down. Solid States do not overheat, but electromechanicals are smoother in feel(I dislike the "thuddy" term everyone in the community has used to describe them, it never has sat right with me.)

 

 

Estim: After the violet wand play we went to heavy making out and play in very minimal clothing, though we weren't naked during this testing. This involved sharing an electrode and touching each other, practically laying on them and kissing them, etc. So we did not use the thin clothing layer between us, or the garbage bag /plastic sheet thing many do to focus current to one area or two, etc.

-The overarching thing I saw and observed, was the surface area rule effect. Just grabbing someone's hand ,and turning up the power if we both have a estim pad on - it often took getting to a quarter to half power, just to feel something. But, when you grip their hand hard, the current is felt a lot more- it's the opposite of violet wands due to the low voltage not allowing for sparks, and the current being dominant. I knew this and have noted it before, but the surface area rule massively affected things.

Kissing- we kissed a bit, and electrified kissing was better to do with this, as you can someone hold someone or have a little bit more contact, and kiss- and turn it up until you feel the tongue buzzing.

What really surprised me here though- was , with any mroe contact, like more than a leg or arm on each other, like two thighs on thighs, or laying on someone kissing them- the current drop off is extreme. After it goes from one or two body parts, the surface area is so much- that the tongue tingle, dies out very fast, and if you turn up the power to compensate, it does not work. I went up carefully to about half on my Coyote 2, and briefly went up to max on my Tension Lover version 1, and it did nothing at all. And if i move away from them, there was not a spark(due to the low voltage)- there'd be a bit of sensation that came back where we were still in contact when separating while making out, but not much.

Notably: after hours of this, we actually got sweaty- and this made a difference. With us both seriously sweaty, still having estim pads on each of us and touching- It mirrored the above situation, with one difference. IF i had a whole arm or leg on their arm or leg- the buzzy feeling and tingling was seriously stepped up to the point it felt as if i'd put both pads on my arm from a channel, and turned it up a bit, well past barely feeling to a bit of a buzz. Not super duper really intense, or bad- but here, skin to skin contact (with firm pressure still, very light touching does nothing and no power flows)was VERY noticeable to both of us, and this was played with by running a lower forearm up and down their forearm, legs, etc. Kissing itself was not changed. Having a lot of skin contact, being on top of someone, having more than one or two limbs on someone still resulted in no feeling at all even with sweat.

Electrodes were mainly kept on the lower body(you'll also noticed Electrastim advises this), though we briefly tried some other configurations like on both arms, just to test the tongue to tongue kiss test only, starting very low until we could feel it. It did not make a difference. Except- you will feel the current near the electrode location, so current density matters as it goes from the electrode where it's the highest, so indeed for this sort of thing I was reaffirmed from hands on testing that since it doesn't matter, having an electrode on your lower body is the way to go. AKA, do not put one on your upper body like above your heard, etc. The current density from the electrode, isn't doing you any favors in this sort of play really, (except if it's near or on someone's groin, etc, which is what you probably want for extra sensation play), so no need to move it around.

I did briefly worry when we both had one on our legs, as I thought the electrodes were nearly touching, but this didn't matter during heavy petting,as there was so much surface area, nothing was an issue and the current still would travel, not just go thru the skin to their thigh, then their electrode. It probably would have moreso if you could super press your thigh into theirs, and ONLY that, but even then ...no, the current ended up very constant behavior wise.
You DO have to be careful of pulling wires off of the other person, but that is standard for estim unit play in general, nothing special here.

There was brief electrified fingering attempted, but a funny obstacle popped up that i've actually seen in old ElectroSluts footage of examples of attempting this- a pad on the other person and a pad on your forearm, and trying to finger- this DOES work very ,very effectively, as you're able to direct current around, but your fingers are a small wire gauge, and the other person may need more power, which is good and all- but as you move your hand and fingers around, that repositioning will cause the current to shift in your wrist and start to lock up your wrist one way, when the feeling is intense and you're actually wanting to up the power more. The solution is to lower ti briefly then raise it again,but this effect kept happening as the current shifts and hits the right muscles. It was far more intense in the wrist than fingers being used interestingly. Funny enough, when trying to look into this afterwards, I went over my material, but i also asked Gemini of all things to see how good it was at pulling estim resources from the internet, (it's okay at best from a searching standpoint, and a little bit sycophantic as it's known to be,(and is obvious to anyone with in-depth knowledge in the field they challenge it on) ), and it actually suggested having a pad higher up on the arm in future occurrences, so the current would spread out more a little bit and not trigger the wrist lockup thing as immediately.

Nothing to note really after hours and hours and hours of this. The persomn i was playing with at the time observed the estim tingling that sometimes lasts a little while, and enjoyed it.

I have not delved into audio stimming yet, so I cannot speak to that like GirlOnTheNet experimented with when it came to shared circuit partner play. The idea of estim audio files, combined with shared circuit play or shared circuit sex, is another bucket list goal I have to focus on and further look into , though i worry over how unwieldy it could get.

The toughest part of all of this? Yes, finding someone interested in estim to begin with, who is willing to learn from you about all the safety rules, and after that, is willing to get quite a bit of novel stimulation that they have never felt anything else like in their life. And they have to understand that estim really is unlike anything else - because of the sensation of current and it buzzing(and being adjustable, where vibrators aren't , not like this), the muscle spasms and the feeling from that , and the fact that running currents through erogenous nerves IF you experiment and get the current paths right, will get someone off frighteningly fast(but you MUST spend time experimenting with placement of electrodes). Those three things are what make estim unmatched, but it takes being curious, being always knowledgeable about how power will flow, etc. And estim is still a huge mystery to people in general.

If you find someone who is sorta interested, but not interested in learning about the safety, or the inverse surface rule, or isn't all in, that's no good for estim- let alone this sort of play. Seriously, who they are as a person, should play a role here.

I may add to this as I remember details, or whatnot- and am open to questions. Yes, the big factor that I did not get to, electrified sex, is the missing piece. I'm fully of the opinion now that whenever I get to that eventually, I will not be seriously surprised- I can already make some predictions, like how- once someone's connected, the connection point will be so much that kissing someone during it- there likely won't be any sensation in the tongues ,even being a wet area. Sweat won't probably make a difference off the bat, due to how insane a lot of body skin on skin contact, changes the current flow. I also suspect, there will be minor differences in feeling between someone using anal electrodes vs pads on their groin vs lower back vs buttocks vs thigh.

 

 

Do I recommend this sort of play to the community? I'm going to say that my experiences and observations just from this line up with what everyone else says(as well as my knowledge i have gotten over the years.)

This is advanced electro play, not play for a beginner who has never done estim.

Be familiar with estim, understand current flow, what you should avoid, understand the inverse surface area rule, and that placement and how it affects current is key.

I hope this inspires others to give in-depth observation reports over electroplay. No, getting data for the sake of data shouldn't really be the main focus when playing with a partner , but you can still take notes where possible (and better if you find the rare person who is gung-ho to help you experiment, but this is the hardest to do of it all). I have been into this for decades because of how different it is from every thing else, and I still see as pretty magical in the feeling of it, and the effects and tricks one can do.

I'd love to try something stronger, but I don't think I could push myself as far as I want on my own

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