I’ve basically been an online sugar baby for this guy since 2018. I’ve never met him in person (thank god). At first it was a ton of money. But now he thinks “we are in love”. And the money has started to drop off significantly. I get probably $1500 a month from him for nonstop texting all day. I do mail him the occasional panties and send the occasional sexy photo of me every once in a while. The problem is, this guy has become a stalker and it’s ruining my life and I don’t know how to drop him. He’s found out my full legal name, he’s found out the make and model and color of my car, he’s found out my address, everything. If I don’t respond to his texts for two days (when I try to softly ghost him) he “panics” and says he will call a welfare check and have police come and check on me, or he will “get on a plane”. It’s stressing me out so badly and I’m in way too deep. I have kids and a life, and I can’t have him doing that. I feel obligated to reply to his texts even though I’m miserable and just want out, because I’m scared he will come find me. I’ve stopped sending and replying to any sexual texts. He will send me texts saying “I NEED you. I can’t LIVE without you.” He will send me a picture of his room that has 3 computers set up, all with different collages on them of me that he’s made, he will have the audio going of my voice in the background, and he will have his d1ck out in the photo. He will send me videos of himself eating his own c*m from a cup and moaning my name, with my picture printed in the background. Im so sick from this that I’m having panic attacks and heart palpitations over it. He’s married and over 20 years older than me, he’s mentally deranged. Do I just ghost him and explain to the police during the welfare check that he’s mentally unwell? Do I send him a text telling me to leave me alone? Do I text him that I’ve found someone in person that I want to be with and slowly fade? Do I fake my own d3ath? I have to plan my getaway fully before executing this.
If anyone took the time to read this, thank you and I appreciate it. I know Its stupid and it went on way too long, but I’m an idiot and now I need to deal with the consequences of being an idiot.