I had a dance for a woman that wouldn’t let me be.
She followed me to several tables and sat down with us, and I was like «hey, I’m at work pls don’t follow me» and she got soo pissed at me loool
So recently I met this guy randomly on the street. We locked eyes and he came to me and asked for my nr.
We have been going out and he’s a sweetheart, he also knows I’m a dancer and he doesn’t judge me for it- he’s genuinely curious about it.
However I found out we have a lot of mutual friends.
And now I don’t know if I should keep meeting him. Because what if shit hits the fan and he outs me/talks bad about me?
I’m very lowkey about dancing so it’s a bit scary.
Our mutual friends are not very nice people either. They have been mean girls in the past.
So yeah, maybe an unusual post, but would appreciate any thoughts.
We have some new baby dancers at our club that treats this job as a party and a place they can flirt with customers.
It’s annoying as hell cause they be giving away WAYY TOO much for FREE, like???
Sometimes they sit with them for hours(!!)
I’ve told them to not sit too long cuz then they don’t wanna buy and they just say «but I’m having fun» or «I’m having a good conversation» and they get offended so I’m just not gonna say anything more.
It’s so annoying because why are we teaching the customers to be cheap?
And plus you look like the b*tch because you’re trying to make a sale, while this other b is happy with a drink she doesn’t even get paid for.
Oh my loooord it’s frustrating because the club is small too.
In my home club the girls are so niceee, we take shots and vibe with each other, the club gets full and I make a lot of money.
Then my stupid ass chose to help out another club on the country side and I haven’t even made 50$.
Nah this feeling freaking sucks. Never doing this again. I’m so frustrated with myself.
So everyday after my shift I get this immense anxiety «did I do something wrong», «did I piss someone off», «was I acting weird»
And most of the time I don’t, I have fun with the girls at work, we drink together and vibe, but we also hustle and work good.
Tonight I had a great night. I had privates back to back, I was drinking a bit but not too much, I had a good vibe with the customers and the girls - but I just have this crippling anxiety that I did something wrong.
Do you also get this feeling/thoughts?
Maybe it’s the alcohol honestly
If so how is it?
I love a lot of things about this job, but my issue is that I’m very sensitive to energies and others people emotions.
So after a heavy shift, I am just laying in a dark room the whole day, feeling super low and down.
And this is no good, I want to get help and tools to get stronger.
I have tried to do research but I can’t find something specific for SWers
Idk why but last night was heavy for me emotionally.
Customers were rude and difficult to sell to, I got too drunk and at some point was crying in the locker room while everyone else was busy 💀
Omg nights like these are tough! And it made me realize I cannooot get drunk like that again.
Luckily I wiped my tears and went out again.
I did make 500 but honestly I’m not happy with that amount for a Saturday.
But it’s still better than nothing.
How do you deal with heavy energy like that?
Like negative and mocking energy from customers?
I hate that it affects me so much
Yesterday I Was talking to a guy who wanted to do one hour private + champagne with me.
We’re talking for a bit and then another dancer joins us and is talking about going all together.
I didn’t know how to handle it, so we try to do all of us, but then the guys just left.
It really shit when you lost possibly good money, but I have to learn from it.
I genuinely don’t know how to handle a situation like this for the future.
So last year was my first time working in a strip club (as a bartender) and I was lowkey horrible 😂😭
Like, bless my soul i tried my best and my intentions were always good, but these girls were stressing me OUT
They were so mean and making faces at me behind my back and trash talking me, to the point that the managers had to talk to them and tell them to behave better.
They calmed down.
So, 1 year later im meeting my fears and I wanna go back, but as a dancer this time.
Because it’s the best club in my city.
And let’s see, if it’s absolutely horrible I’ll find another one.
Damn, wish me luck 😂💅🏼🥂
I rather not post a picture of me here, but I want to change my name.
Now it’s Angelina - inspiration: Angelina Jolie cuz she’s so beautiful and she has this dark feminine aura that I want to exude.
Cataleya is also so beautiful and exotic + a hint of this dark feminine energy. I’m just afraid the customers are gonna be like (????) not understand/remember my name
Ariel is more sweet/ Disney princess vibe and it’s not really my vibe. But it suits my hair.
I have red long hair, I am tall, a bit on the curvier side, half Latina, half white, green eyes.
I think my vibe is more on the dark feminine (at least I want to be) cuz I think it’s so sexy and mysterious.
But what name would you choose?
Thank you babes 🌺
Im sorry if this is the wrong forum to ask, but I’ve been on different webpages for yeeears and I can’t find anyone serious.
Yet I know so many dancers who have SD relationships that they get money from, on top of making bank in the club :’)
We have cameras in the clubs and very strict rules about sharing contact info, so I don’t wanna risk my job because of that.
I’ve also tried to chill in fancy and expensive places but with no luck hahaha
I just end up meeting creepy guys who wants everything but paying for nothing.
Working in Europe but it can be quite bad, so I am considering Canada.
But is it good?
I know this is an impossible question to answer.
So I’ve been travel dancing for 5 months and I’m exhausted.
I hear that in my hometown is pretty good money and clubs, but it’s also quite a small city with 3 clubs.
However what are the odds of being seen? I know several girls who work in small cities secretly for years and they’re doing good.
Should I just risk it?
I’m tired of traveling, I just wanna have my own place and make money 💰
I know this varies heavily.
But I did something «illegal» and its freaking me out.
I received tips in VIP (which is not allowed) + I took his nr (which is not allowed)
And I thought I was slick with it, but one of the workers commented about how she saw the tip in the camera, and I didn’t give her the actual bill he gave me, and she reacted like «oh? I thought he gave you more?» and I was playing stupid.
And now I’m regretting it, it’s causing way too much anxiety :’)
Super annoying that we’re not allowed to receive tip in the private room, it doesn’t make sense to me.
However the nr thing I can understand but still
Several times I catch a customer staring at me, while he’s with another girl.
Obviously I don’t interrupt them cause that’s rude as hell, and I also don’t look at him back.
But I hate when they wanna go with you and don’t say anything to the girl they’re with.
And then the girls manages to sell hours of VIP (which is good for them but yeah)
So I had a small boob job and a bbl, but it looks pretty proportional for my body as I am a slightly «bigger» girl.
Yesterday I started a new club and I can hear these dancers making comments about my body, and at one point laughing, and I turn around and say «what?»
I’m trying to not care but it’s so exhausting when girls are commenting on your body all the time.
And I know it comes from insecurity, cuz no girls who are secure within themselves feel the need to put others down.
I try to not let it go to my mind, but it’s doing it a bit, I’m not gonna lie.
Also here in Europe it’s not that common with BBLs so maybe that’s why it’s so «funny» for them
So me and some girls had this discussion, and I disagreed with that statement.
Yes, I can understand that if you got the hustle in you, and you can adapt- then yeah you can do good most places.
But, I’ve noticed a huge difference in location/clubs, and not every club is for every girl- and that’s okey.
That doesn’t mean you’re a bad worker, sometimes the glove just doesn’t fit.
Idk, what are your thoughts on this?
Hi babes,
So my stage name now is Angelina (because I wanted to embody Angelina Jolie and her dark feminine aura) 🗿
But now I’m not really feeling that name, I think I want something more sexier, exotic, fun..
I’m half Latina, half white, (I would post a photo but I don’t want to share my face here) :P
Long brown hair, curves, green eyes, a bit shy but I’m working on that
Thanks in advance 🫶🏼
Specifically dollhouse, bada bing, crystal club?
Or blaze, string, lotus in Oslo?
Genuinely wondering where it’s best to go