r/stripper

I never draw attention to unless I’m friends with them. I know it’s human nature but it’s just so weird knowing that these random guys who are there to protect us are raging with hormones and want to fuck us while we do our job.

I have fine shoulder length blonde hair. I usually wear 26inch Bellami clip in extensions at work but I'm starting to get traction alopecia. Thinking about trying to switch to wigs instead. I've had tape ins and sew-in hair extensions in the past and they completely ruin my hair at the time.
Does anyone have any experience with wearing wigs from Hairvivi at work? I want the longest option they have but I'm worried that if I'm giving a lap dance and a customer accidentally tugs on it, it'll slide off or something crazy. I also have zero experience with wigs so I'm hoping for something relatively beginner friendly.

As someone who never had any money of my own, the money I earned from this job has absolutely changed my mood and outlook on life and hopes/expectations for the future and having my own

Definitely made me happier

Wish people didn’t lie to me ab it all my life

What the hell happened to this brand… they used to have a lot of cute unique shit & now she selling shein rompers that are $7 for $25 after shipping :/ makes me sad to see how far they it went down hill.

Edit: he does tip and tips very generously! I’m not really complaining, more so curious about other owners.

Literally not trying to come off rude at all, so if you feel the need to say something defensive because you feel like I did boo hoo, you can scroll I’m just curious.

Anyways, I actually have seen so many pimp posts, how to look out for them, etc.

I dance at a smaller club, def not as big as NYC or Miami by any chance, and it’s very very rare to see any Pimps. However I have seen a few job by vibe and they usually just look like some overly dressed gas station crackhead that flexes money and won’t spend so it’s never my time to even waste my breath if one says “hey” I can literally smell the fact they don’t want to spend.

But I’m curious, how do girls actually start talking to these people and get pumped out, personally I get sick and tired of talking to anyone if they aren’t spending or the well gets dry.

I want to know because I’m curious and I hope I can spread awareness with this post too.

Also curious, how come these idiots aren’t banned from clubs via ID?

Edit: I am borderline sociopathic, and I have aspergers. I am not the best at reading emotions or being manipulated because I’m too reason based/logical/assertive 🙂 and yes this is aspergers.

Many individuals with this neurodivergent profile possess exceptional skills that thrive in specific environments, including:
High levels of focus and concentration.
Advanced pattern recognition and attention to detail.
Strong logical reasoning and independent thinking.
Communication Differences: They may engage in one-sided conversations, speak with an unusually flat or monotone voice, and have difficulty picking up on sarcasm or subtle body language.
Psychology Today
Unique Strengths: They are often exceptionally detail-oriented, honest, logical, and demonstrate remarkable memory and focus within their areas of interest.
Empathy: They can struggle to naturally "read" or return emotions, which can sometimes be mistaken for a lack of compassion. Many individuals with Asperger's are deeply caring but simply process social and emotional cues differently

Edit: “your attitude if bad blah blah blah” I’m literally giving the same energy lol. I asked a simple question and all a sudden I’m attacked for a mental disorder I have, and I’m aware of. And 2.) very idiotic comments that serve no help what so ever.

So in a few months Im gonna have to start scouting other clubs due to mine closing. Im wondering how many shifts or nights I should give a club a try before ruling it out?

I used 2.4% hydrogen peroxide cleaner, a towel, and a toothbrush. Spray generously all over (tape over or carefully avoid charger port on flashdance shoes). Let it sit for 5 minutes and then wipe the hard part of the shoe with the towel. Lastly, use the toothbrush to get in the creases on the sides where the straps meet the shoes and dead skin and dust collects. (You can also use a butter knife if the dirt is pushed way down in the crease). If you need them to dry quickly, use a blowdryer; Stay mindful of heat so you don’t melt or distort your shoes or catch them on fire.

Boom, they look brand new! I was starting to get grossed out putting them on, even though custies couldn’t see it in the dark ass club anyways. It absolutely helped me feel more polished and put together for work, though! I used a lemon scented cleaner, and my shoes smell faintly citrusy.

I began at a club in portland about 3 weeks ago. Already, I've been SA'd and multiple customers have attempted to pressure me into prostitution. My club doesn't allow weapons of any sort. Any self defense tips?

what a relief it is to talk to someone who truly understands & has been in our shoes.

previously I had a therapist who I felt like would judge me when I’d talk to her about what I do at work & my experiences. so I broke up with her & I found someone who is specifically a sex worker therapist & it’s just … wow.. what a difference.

I guess this is why I joined this Reddit page a long time ago - to talk about the shit we go through & to have a circle of people who will actually listen & get it.

anyway, just sharing my thoughts- I’m glad to start the week off on a good note.

happy monday🦋

General signs, giveaways, clues etc

Hey everyone, I just wanted to get your thoughts.
I’m a 23-year-old female and I’ve been dancing for almost 5 years now. I can honestly say I love the job and it’s genuinely changed my life in so many ways.
Recently, I started working in real estate as a sales associate. I work Monday to Friday from 9am–5pm, and Saturdays I’m doing open homes until around 3–4pm.

My shift at the club starts at 8pm and I usually stay until around 5am.
I’m seriously considering quitting stripping because I’d be working six days a week, and Saturdays would be a double shift. I’ve done back-to-back doubles before and they honestly drain me. The drive home is the part that worries me the most because I’m scared I’ll fall asleep at the wheel one day.

On top of that, because I’d be working Saturday night, I’d spend all of Sunday sleeping and recovering. It feels like I’d never actually get to enjoy my weekends or have any time for myself.

The only thing making this decision hard is the money. Real estate isn’t paying much at the moment. I’m on a pretty basic salary of around $60k plus commission, whereas one night at the club is usually around $1,000.

Part of me thinks I should just keep doing one shift a week for the extra income, but I’m not sure if it’s worth sacrificing my health and weekends.

I’ve also thought about doing one week on and one week off, but then that’s only two shifts a month, and I wonder if it’s even worth it. At that point, maybe it’s better to just leave dancing altogether.

The fact that I’m even thinking about quitting feels like a sign. I almost feel like I’m looking for validation that it’s okay to move on.

Has anyone else been in a similar position? What would you do?

Did something happen this weekend? I think we've had 4 questions this morning by 3 different people about pinps.

Some of us aren’t power seeking but to stay sane in this job you NEED to understand power dynamics because customers play these games all the time. And it’s in a man’s nature to challenge and test us.

It’s literally soooo dead in here tonight. I be doing dumb shit on stage when it’s dead, like the Macarena, sprinkler, etc. I think Gangnam style is too extra tho lol.

Ughhh how do you guys entertain yourself when it’s DEAD. I’m talking like 2 customers 20 dancers dead🤧

I really need this shit for my mental health idk if anyone else can relate. As much as it can break me down sometimes it is a love hate relationship. Money aside sometimes I really do need the flashing lights the outfits and being around other autistic hot girls lol.

So I took a week off to go see my family and also the city where my sister lives in. My friend set me up with a guy and we seemed to have hit it off spent 2 nights together and then he didn’t rly wanna talk to me after so I had to sit in my childhood home for a week fucked yo over it. (where I went thru a lot of trauma) doing nothing and I really could have used the club as a distraction. I’m so sensitive and anyone I open up to and doesn’t work out feels like physical pain in my chest.

I feel like I actually belong at work unlike any other place on earth. My mental health got so bad at home that I came back early but I came back in the 2 days we are closed. I can’t WAIT to get back in there cuz I wouldn’t have been ruminating over this guy for the last week if I was working 🙏

I started stripping a month ago. I love stretching, but i’m not especially good or knowledgeable about it. should i stretch before or after stage sets? after lap dances? what stretches? for how long? do i just stretch at the start and end of the night? thank you🩷🩷🩷