literally, at what age are you ladies starting the conversations about sex with your daughters? what are we teaching for hygiene?
what to look out for ?
how not to be manipulated.
self esteem talks?
I just want to hear from other moms.
tips we could lend to one another especially with what we’ve learned from dancing.
I have three young girls.
I had a dance for a woman that wouldn’t let me be.
She followed me to several tables and sat down with us, and I was like «hey, I’m at work pls don’t follow me» and she got soo pissed at me loool
That maybe the reason you don’t have any money and you’re always complaining about being broke, not being able to afford anything, stressed out about bills is because you spend all your time focusing on every single other thing in the club that is irrelevant, instead of making money . No I am not talking about the state of the economy, that’s out of everyone’s control. I’m talking about things that are within control that have zero focus and effort to them because someone’s too busy wrapped up in bullshit that doesn’t MAKE THEM MONEY. Not even trying to be a bitch, but a lot of these girls should not be dancers. This shit takes effort, consistency and mindset. I think the biggest problem with a lot of people is the mindset because if you’re constantly telling yourself that you’re down bad, you’re broke. You have no money. Everything‘s hard. Everything’s a mess. That’s all your life is gonna be. I don’t think people realize that we create our own reality. Our thoughts subconsciously become action and that action is the results we see in our day-to-day lives.
TLDR: Look in the mirror every day and come to know that you are that rich bitch and you’re on your way to more and more success every day.
I’ve been dancing for a couple years and I’m honestly struggling (emotionally) with doing it full time.
When I had a vanilla bartending/serving gig AND dancing a couple days a week, I was having the most fun because I wasn’t ONLY dancing- and my other job was also at night so there was no interruption to my sleeping schedule.
Now that I’m dancing full time, it’s really catching up to me. Some weeks I’m making great money and having fun, but other weeks I hate my fucking life and feel so disturbed by men’s behaviour.
I want a 9-5 but I’m also not willing to give up dancing 100% because the weekend money is just too good.
How hard is it to manage a day job with stripping? if you do this how many nights do you go to the club?
Thank you in advance, honestly this sub is sometimes the only thing that keeps me sane because most of my friends are civs who just don’t get it😭❤️
there i said it!!!
give me the solo traveling middle aged loner please god
I'm so tired of clicking on posts and seeing some girls pussy and the post has 30 upvotes in 2 minutes. even not bot-posted images are subtle advertisements 9 times outta 10.
at least make them hosted by imgur or make them be mod-approved or something to deter the bots. please 🥺🙏😭
I literally need to see the sunlight every morning or else I go insane.
how are clubs with no vip rooms?? i would made most of my money from the rooms, but the club in auditioning at doesn’t have them.
My life over the past few days has crashed and burned. I haven’t eaten in 4 days, I can’t stop crying, but the bills are due. I have to go. I can’t keep sulking. I know when I walk into the club im putting on a persona and acting as someone I’m not but it’s really hard to push past everything I’m going through right now and put on the stripper act. Who knows, maybe going to work and pretending to be someone else for a few hours will help me cope. Money always does make me feel better. TBD❤️🩹
just curious what your longest break was to hopefully not feel so awful about it. this saturday will be a month since i’ve been to the club. i have bipolar disorder and have been in a horrendous depressive episode. currently it feels like there’s no end in sight. im trying my absolute best to convince myself to get back working on a regular basis but i feel i need more time. it has been kind of stressful because im not even sure how long my club allows to not show up before you’re no longer allowed to work there. my other question would be what’s the average clubs allow? i’ve heard 60 days.
Anyone else 🤧
If I never became a stripper I might still be obsessed with being stick thin. I grew up in a rich, predominantly white neighborhood and I’m a millennial so the beauty standard was thigh gaps, skinny arms, hip bones, and no ass.
My first week at the club I overheard a convo between 2 girls where one girl told the other one “damn girl you gained weight, your ass got huge! “ and instead of it starting a huge fight like I was expecting the other girl said “omg I knowwww thank you!”. My mind was totally blown. It was the total opposite of everything I’d been conditioned to believe (if it jiggles it’s bad).
I had a bf I was with before I started dancing and for the first 6 months after. If I weighed more than 112 pounds at 5’6” he would tell me to be careful and that I needed to clean up my diet. He could tell if I had gained 2 pounds and he would march me to the scale. I was down to 105 at one point and I felt like I wasn’t small enough. Him and I were on a very strict program and we enabled each other to under eat. No bread or pasta, no sugar, low fat, almost no dairy. 1200 calories a day. Every day for 4 years.
I had to start eating more when I started dancing bc my energy demands went up. I started wanting to lift weights so I could be strong enough to work longer shifts, bust cool pole tricks, and not get injured at work. I started wanting a bigger butt so I could shake ass better. I stopped eating and working out for aesthetics and shifted my focus to wanting to be healthy. I’m not skinny anymore but I could care less. I’m athletic and strong af now. I can do things with my body I could never do before. Now I eat 2200 calories a day and I eat every type of food. I’m 125 ilbs and I have some cellulite on my thighs. I see all these influencers and celebs getting scary skinny again and saying things like the gym makes you bulky and im glad i feel no desire to jump on the bandwagon.
Did dancing make yall more or less insecure?
ive been working more bec its supposed to be my clubs on season, but its been slower than expected. i still make money but holyyy
I wanted to start a discussion about how to really max out income/tips. I wanted to share these ideas but I was wondering if anyone had any less obvious ideas for how to really see a massive difference in income:
What did you do differently to take your income to the next level?
I get it's slow, but worrying about the next girl's bag isn't gonna add to yours. I can't tell you how many times I've been talking to a guy and some girl purposeless sits close to us to try and listen to whats being said. On the bright side, I end up pushing the guy to go to the VIP room or get dances faster, but it's the principle. Or girls assuming because I'm sitting and talking with a guy for a certain amount of time that he's not paying me. I can't help it a man wants to pay me to talk to him while the girls making assumptions about me have to do the most for some money. And I'm not the only one complaining about this behavior.
A lost of the girls complaining about it being slow could make money if they focused on their own money instead of assuming and watching other girls get money. Everyone has bad days and it's summer. Things will get better eventually. The fact that it's slow makes me hustle harder and focus on my own money. Because if I focused on how dead it is rn, I would go insane.
do other miami dancers make the same amount of??? this is wild work and the fomo is real
Okay guys, I started stripping in May 2023, and honestly, it changed my life. I came from an abusive relationship, had no money, and was living in shared accommodation.
Becoming a stripper gave me the financial freedom to leave, rebuild my life, and become independent. Now it’s 2026, and I’m planning to retire at the end of this year. I’ve bought my own apartment and almost paid it off, I’ve travelled a lot.
completed my education while working at the club, and I’m hoping to leave with around $30,000 in savings. I also found a healthy relationship this year, and I’m planning to settle down with him and move to another country.
I’m excited for my new chapter, but honestly, the transition scares me.
I know I probably won’t ever earn this much money again, and I’ll probably miss the lifestyle, the money, and parts of the club.
How did you guys handle leaving stripping or a career where you earned really good money? ❤️
Part of me it’s not ready to go but also I’m tired :(
And I want to settledown :(
sorry but when I’m working irdgaf if YOU haven’t made any money. idc if i’ve made $10k and you have made $0 don’t say some stupid shit to me.
“i see you’re having a good night”
“if he buys you vip you should try to pull me in”
guy walks in the door “do you mind if i talk to that one since you already made money”
what I’m making is none of your business and it’s not my job to worry about your bills and mine. this is especially prevalent with baby strippers but it’s happened with vets too. if I’m not making money that’s on me not anyone else. i would never put my stress on the shoulders of other women who are just trying to survive.
maybe if you spent more time working on your hustle and less time feeling sorry for yourself you’d be making more idk
anyway that’s my rant for the year ✨ love yall
i love to put some 1’s to the side and tip my girlies on stage at the end of my shift🥹🫶🏼
my club is so sisterhood coded and supporting eachother is just what we do! curious to see if anyone else does the same!