r/stripper

When I go into the night I suit up and put my boots for another round of cheap thrills.
The smell of the cologne and perfume mixed is sweet like cherries and patchouli and by the end of the night the fragrance has wore off.
Just like the euphoric rush of rum or whiskey. Driving into the deep of the night I felt a dark feeling come over me.
It was almost like the weight of my misdeeds became a reality and I was faced with myself yet again.
The reality is I never wanted to face the reality of being with someone else while wishing I was with the one.
As I would sit in their lap grinding myself against all I could think of was to close my eyes and pretend it was him.
Sometimes the trickle down my cheek on the way home knowing it was never meant to be in this lifetime. How I missed him. I only wanted him to feel me softly like the Lace off of a Satin Garter.

DISCLAIMER : I have nothing against extras as long as they don’t ruin the business and remain occasional.

I need to vent because I just came back from a contract in a supposedly “very good club” that is actually just a BROTHEL disguised as a strip club.

It was a TERRIBLE experience for me.

The girls don’t dance, don’t enjoy dancing, and honestly don’t know how to dance. They also don’t know how to sell, don’t know how to hold a conversation, and the entire system revolves around ending the night in the client’s bed. If you don’t do it, you’re treated like the “~weird (stupid and cupid) girl~” of the club.

The client chooses the girl, and if he doesn’t choose anyone, you’re NOT allowed to approach him unless the manager randomly assigns someone (usually his favorites). So if the manager doesn’t like you or simply doesn’t know you enough yet, you basically NEVER make money and miss every client.

The girls constantly steal clients from each other, argue over money from their extras, scam the clients, and are incapable of providing any actual customer experience. All they want is to do the bare minimum inside the club and then go FCK with clients outside.

A lot of these places in Switzerland are basically brothels pretending to be strip clubs (Lausanne, Geneva, etc.).

DON’T GO THERE if you’re not an escort. If you’re an escort, good for you: you should try (there are very wealthy clients).

Here's what you need to know

None of the dancers are happy to see you at the club

Money is tight and a lot of seasoned dancers are leaving with sub 200$ at an average night. So no one is going to be excited for you or surprised that it’s your first time ever in a strip club. They are irritated not because theyre catty, but because the manager is making hiring decisions regardless of the fact that the dancers are struggling to make money as is and clubs are still at max capacity of dancers.

Don’t be overly eager to make friends

Dancers will tend to be cold to you. If you stick around they will open up. Don’t come in the club trauma dumping and telling your whole story.

No one wants to be the one that was too nice to you and you end up latching onto them the whole night because you don’t know anybody and are anxious.

Most dancers don’t want to talk on the floor or have the open seat next to them occupied by another dancer for very long. Especially if they don’t know you.

Don’t come in your first day asking for tips and advice. Nobody trusts you yet and they and you are their competitors. Why would they put you on to all their game when they don’t even know if you’re mentally stable yet??

If you’re giving extras: fingering, touch dick etc. People will catch on quickly its not a secret. people will see you as fucking up the bag for everyone and will talk shit about you.

Be grown. Even if you’re a teenager, in this environment you are an adult. No one will mother you, and people may take advantage of you. This lifestyle is expensive. Strangers are not entitled to give you rides, alcohol, hits of their vape etc. Generousity between dancers is reciprocal.

If you can withstand that and remain chill, normal and self regulated people will begin to befriend you over time.

fifties and hundreds🤑

What is it with clubs never valuing the staff and dancers who breathe life into them??

I recently left my old club due to a change in management, where the new guy literally ruined the club. The long-term, beloved, reliable manager was shoved onto the back burner, and they brought in a new guy from Miami who EGREGIOUSLY overhired and made it impossible to earn money individually. The ratio of dancers to customers was constantly so off that you would pay house fee just to sit alone all night, hoping for an opportunity to talk to a customer. We’re in the Midwest in a slow, ghetto, blue-collar club. Having 30+ girls on a weeknight or a multi-stage rotation where no money is being thrown is just embarrassing. I worked there making good money for years, and watched it slowly decline to the point it wasn’t even worth showing up anymore. They didn’t care that the majority of us were making nothing, as long as they got to collect our house fees, and someone would inevitably sell a VIP for them to take a 40% cut. The club continued doing fine financially, it was the individual dancers who suffered.

Obviously I had no choice but to leave, so a few months ago I moved to a new club. Things have been better there, the ratio of girls to customers is proportionate, and the manager is cool. He and the other staff take so much more consideration for the dancers than what I normally see nowadays. Everything has been looking up, then the other night he told me that it would be my last shift working with him. He went on to explain that he is taking another job because he has managed at the club for over a year, yet they are still paying him less than what he would earn as an entry-level employee elsewhere for far less work. It’s sad to see him go, but I completely understand. I’m worried now that the same thing will happen here that happened at my last club. I’ve never seen an honest person work out as a club manager, it’s always the sinister ones who thrive at the expense of the dancers. These clubs are just like their customers. Cheap, greedy, and always seeking new hires who are willing to do more for less.

I had previously posted on this thread that my partner disapproved of my job and well we did in fact break up due to my job. We agreed to remain friendly due to the fact that we both had a lot on our plate and needed the support.
Now going back to my home club recently one of the lovely ladies I work with let me know that she actually saw him at the club maybe a couple of days after we ended everything. When I confronted him about it he proceeded to just tell me he didn’t want to talk anymore which was silly on his end but I accepted.
Now the concerning part is that he actually showed up to my club again except this time I was working. We didn’t say hi or anything however he would intensely glare at the customers I would talk to, after when I went to the back for a dance he actually ended up taking a dance with another one of my coworkers (many of my coworkers did not know we were dating). What disturbed me is that after my shift about an hour after I got home he started knocking at my door and spam calling and texting me and unfortunately I ended up having to call the cops because my anxiety levels were too high and I couldn’t do anything.
I’m not sure if maybe I should ask the club to not let him in anymore or if i should switch clubs or if maybe that’s a bit much for the situation. I couldn’t sleep over this and I’m not sure if I want to be worried every time I go to work.

My club is becoming notorious for having terrible service. Too many customers tell me they’ve been waiting for 20-30 minutes to get a drink. Also, whenever I’m sitting and having a conversation with someone, and they decide to buy me one, I often have to get the waitress’s attention myself (and not just any waitress, even if 4 of them are sitting around on their phones, that specific table’s waitress) which can take another 10 minutes because she’s not there… SHE’S IN A FUCKING VIP ROOM WITH A CUSTOMER!! It’s so annoying and it’s fucking up my money. I literally saw two customers who were supposedly too broke for me take the same girl downstairs!! I’m great at my job but I can’t compete with this Madonna-Whore complex… I know I’m not the only girl who has complained to management about this and it literally makes me want to leave. I still make good money there and I know I should be grateful but it’s so demoralizing ugh

Seriously I worked yesterday, even went in early and made $40. And today $10. Im not making enough to even pay my bills anymore and I’m usually a top earner, I’ve been doing this for 3 years and it’s always sustained me I wish I was smarter and saved it all when I was younger but here we are 😭

I actually want to die 😭😭😭😭😭😭 I made a bunch of money tho and have to fucking go in tomorrow and exchange my money I seriously am soooooo embarrassed I never drink at work for this reason

Honestly i’m not sure if i’m just in a mood lately or what, but I got a corporate job about two months ago and have been occasionally dancing on weekends. Right now, it’s been two weeks since I’ve been into the club. I still see all the posts of my old coworkers and bosses. I used to miss it a lot towards the beginning, missing that freedom and fun.

Lately ive been plagued with more- disgust and disturbed kind of feelings?
For example, I just saw a picture of my coworkers out ”promoting” with the boss and the owner. I know that some of these girls are sleeping with them. We all know that happens. I used to just think of it as a matter of fact, but this time, i’m nauseous.

Thinking back to the club i’ve realized there’s a lot of weird parts of the club i used to just shrug off like “it happens!” Being outside of the club- it’s like , what the fuck? why though?

I don’t want to get fully turned off of the club. It was such a big part of me for the last four years. but looking back on my time with some distance, some of it’s just really bothering me.

So for the girls that danced for a while and are now onto other things- what was your experience? How did you deal with the transition? Did your view of stripping as a whole change at all? Is this normal?

TLDR; Dancer for 4 years now in corporate america finding views of the industry changing after distancing from the club. Asking about other ex dancers experiences with leaving the industry.

i don’t think people realize how emotionally demanding stripping actually is. one of the hardest parts of the job is that you have to be “on” constantly especially now when clubs are slow and customers are more selective with money.

if you’re not bubbly enough, flirty enough, confident enough, energetic enough, sexy enough, funny enough, approachable enough, men can feel it immediately. and when they feel it, your money reflects it. there’s no clocking in and quietly doing your job while having a bad day. your emotional state is literally tied to your income.

and it becomes 100x harder when you’re mentally ill or going through something devastating in your personal life. heartbreak, grief, depression, anxiety, trauma, burnout, whatever it is. you still have to walk into the club looking perfect and act like you’re having the time of your life for hours straight meanwhile internally you feel like your world is collapsing.

i think that’s what makes this job uniquely exhausting sometimes. you cannot really separate your emotions from your performance. if i worked a normal job and had a horrible week mentally, i could probably still survive financially by just showing up and doing the bare minimum. in stripping, the bare minimum usually makes you no money. you have to sell fantasy, attention, energy, confidence, connection. and customers can absolutely sense when your spirit is low even if you think you’re hiding it well.

some nights i’ll sit in my car before work trying to force myself to become a completely different person before i walk inside and sometimes i can do it. other nights i genuinely can’t. sometimes i literally have to disappear into the bathroom for 10 minutes just to cry, fix my makeup, stare at myself in the mirror, and try to pull myself together enough to go back on the floor smiling again like nothing happened. and then there’s this guilt spiral because now you’re mentally struggling AND not making money because every minute off the floor matters.

idk. i just feel like people glamorize this job a lot online without talking about how emotionally brutal it can become especially for dancers who are already fighting battles in their own heads every day. i know i can’t be the only one who feels like this.

Or really just any of these payment apps? I made both my cash app and Venmo after they rolled out their policy where you have to use your real name and cannot hide your last name. I’ve heard some people say if you use a fake name it won’t let you transfer funds into your bank account and from what I remember they made me even verify my name when i made my account. Is there any work around to this / alternative app? I feel like i’m missing out on money I could be making if i offered a cash app. Also i’m aware of business accounts but i’m not too particularly sure if that’s the right move.

I used to have a bag, that is now beat to death and looks raggedy bc the lining has frayed but has made me SO much money, and before that there was another bag I ran into the ground that was my good luck bag, so I’ve retired it to a smaller bag from fashion nova, and attached a rabbit foot as a charm to, and honestly it’s cute but, it’s bringing me no luck, so I’m considering using one of my real designer bags (LV Pochette Métis, medium size bag), since I literally never use it anyways. Do any of you use your real designer bags and do you feel like it brings you luck?
I’ve been in this industry for years, I’m not looking for a saving grace, but moreso luck in talking to the right people at the right time, and holding space in the room with my look to sell more VIPs! (Does anyone else feel like certain bags/shoes do this?lol)
Just looking for ideas as to your thing that if you don’t do/have you know changes your night up.
Thanks! And I hope yall all make a big bag all weekend💕

What else do u guys use for shimmer?

Ive used TF soleil blanc, Palmers shimmer bronze oil

I need more variety. Any suggestions?

Can be scented or non scented. I have tons of perfume lol

It’s my fault I know….I’m just pissed because I had some limited edition outfits in there. Like taking literally EVERYTHING is crazy. I don’t care about the SHEIN trash that I bought years ago. Only a handful of girls at my club wear lingerie I’m talking like 3. If I catch anyone wearing my outfits there will be hell.

Always use a lock, even if you work somewhere ”girls don’t steal”

Anyone here currently work at the new sunset strip. And if so how do you like it. I’m thinking of auditioning but it’s a ways out for me and want to hear feedback. (The dancer’s resource app is out of date) TÍA ❤️