I am very tired of the Ghosting/Blocking. Reddit/Grindr
This is a vent but I am tired. Its always the same. I am a switch and see it on both sides. It is impossible to build a Dom/Sub relationship because for some reason, everyone thinks they want a dom/sub, but they truly dont. You can talk to someone about a dom/sub dynamic and you think you are having a great connection. Talking about boundaries. Whats important for the other and bam: Blocked.
Doms often force WAY too much personal info at the start just to get their attention, despite checking the boxes of what they are looking for. I am never texting a dom whose kinks and body preferences dont align with me. They always demand a face pic, just to block upon recieving one. It is very humiliating, which is why I refuse to do so at the very start. This almost always gets me blocked and when I do give in, I still get blocked. Also, if it goes past the first 'session' they get bored of you and ghost. Many 'doms' often forget that being a dom is actual work. It is a relationship that needs to grow. You cannot force and force and then throw away as soon as you get bored.
Subs on the other often block before anything starts or right after having an orgasm. It is very annoying to take the time to discuss everything, reassuring that this is a safe space and that I am always open for a talk about the dynamic. What works, what doesnt. What I as a dom should consider. Having the sub agree on that, just to block anyway. Every sub has different needs. But as soon as the talking stage is over, most block.
I have come to the conclusion that most find the idea of being a dom/sub hot, so the beginning of it all gets them going, but the actual dynamic is too much work. So they rather jump from beginning to beginning instead of sticking with a person.