I heard recently that if you have herpes that receiving erotic spankings or other "impact play" can activate the virus at the base of the spine. I'm interested in if others have heard this and if it is actually true. Thanks much.
Je cherche des espaces où s’initier à des relations de soumission soft
J’ai vu le site Fetlife qui propose des munchs pour mieux se connaître et des rencontres Play
Encadrées et sécurisées
Ça ma va bien
Ils proposent aussi des formations de shibari qui me tente beaucoup
Mais les participant(e)s sont essentiellement straight
Est ce un problème pour un gay ? Quel niveau d’acceptation ? Quelque un peut-il partager cette question avec moi ?
He wanted me to be his stepbrother home from college, who was inexperienced and innocent. He was my older brother, who gave me a spiked drink that made me a little incapacitated so he could touch me. After a while his boyfriend would come home and catch us, but would also take advantage of me while I was basically asleep.
I wasn't sure about the whole thing, but it went pretty well. I haven't done any roleplays before, but I get the appeal if people can keep it going and stick to their "part" for lack of a better word.
Is roleplay just a lost art or are more of you into this than I know?
I don't know why exactly I've found myself here, but I feel compelled to get something off my chest and this felt like a good group to share with. So thanks in advance!
As quick context for this pickle I've gotten in, I'm a 45 yo guy. Yes, this story is about relationships. Yes, there's a sexual nature to some of it. But it's surprised me, so looking to you perfect strangers for some unbiased guidance.
You see, I have this gf and things are pretty good. Not perfect, but whose relationship is? And it's by no means terrible either. It's pretty dang good. But if I'm being honest...and again, why not be honest on a sub like r/GayBDSMCommunity lol...I've always had this fascination (or should I call it a fantasy? A fetish? Some other F word?) with men.
Like many guys, maybe I questioned my sexuality at one point. Even experimented with some light play back in the day, but ultimately I would say I'm straight for lots of reasons. Nevertheless, those thoughts never totally went away. They bubble up every once in a while, and recently they did in a way that I felt like I needed some masculine attention. I didn't know quite what I was looking for, but I gave it a shot with a post on reddit.
Harmless, right? Just a post and let's see who comments. Just that attention should be satisfying enough, and then I can go back to my normal life as the straight guy in the neighborhood, leader at work, etc.
So I drafted this short little post about how I was a straight but novice bi guy looking for some guidance from a Dom dad type. And it got some reactions!!!
To be honest, I'd seen this movie before though. I figured I'd get a comment or two. Maybe a couple DMs. Then we'd ghost each other in some form within 48 hours...maybe sooner.
But now the crazy part.
I still don't quite get it, but I got drawn in...almost hypnotized...by this one guy's messages. There was just this energy about his writing. And he was investing real time and energy into our interactions. He seemed genuinely interested in me, and I wanted to answer him.
Now don't get me wrong, I know much of this was for his pleasure. He was a Dom after all. But somehow he quickly convinced me that I would be better with his guidance. And somewhere deep down I realized I wanted to be better. Sure, some for me...but mostly for him. I had always been intrigued by the things men were into, but the bigger rush for me was in seeing if I could help make their fantasies real. That focus on pleasing others was all that really mattered. There was something so satisfying about not having to be the decision-maker, but to be the decision follower instead.
It started out so simple.
Answer this question. Take this photo. Tell me about this or that. But before I knew it I was hanging on every sentence. What did he want to know next? Why did he want pictures of all my shoes...my socks...even my underwear. But I got such satisfaction from fulfilling his requests. Soon he was using those things to decide what I'd wear. Maybe first choosing something like just my underwear or my shoes for the day. Then it was my full outfit. I had no choice. I had to follow his orders.
Then came the first shopping challenge. I didn't own any sex toys, but I had to go to a hardware store and find something that would work as a cock ring. And I had to prove that shopping trip was successful of course. I went to multiple hardware stores that day. And I loved it. And I bet you can guess what became a regular part of my outfits after that purchase.
It's progressed slowly but surely from there. Exercise requirements. Outfit requirements. And yes, even cockring requirements. This past week I had to leave my cock ring on my desk at work overnight, leaving me hoping of course that no one would recognize what it is. I had to remind myself it's just something from the hardware store. That's believable...right?
I never know what tomorrow or his next message will bring. But it's always been exciting, hypnotic, and something I'm excited to take on. I know it's for him...but it feels like I'm getting better too.
Am I crazy? It's been such a weird and unexpected turn of events! Should I cut it off or keep going forward and totally obey? How do I decide? I need your advice!
Thank you in advance.
Recently I’ve found that the ammount of young good doms and subs is lacking, so I thought I’d reach out especially as I’m mostly a switch. Anyone of the above age range who wants to chat leave a comment
Most people seem pretty frustrated by it, but I guess I don't really use the features that have been removed or altered, so it hasn't been as impactful for me.
The one thing I would like to understand is the "feed", since I'm still unclear of what would show up there.
Hello everyone. I have been subbing for a Dom from the start of this year. As this is my first time experiencing it, I would like to get some advice regarding how I am feeling right now.
Since the start, chastity has been on/off and my Dom has been slowly training me to get used to a longer duration. I started off with 3 days, and now I am Day 15/20 and while I don't wear a collar 24/7, I do have to wear one whenever I go to his apartment. However, I started feeling very lonely on this chastity journey as I get to see my Dom and have a play session only once every other week. During the days that I don't see him, we hardly chat, besides me sending him a picture of my cage and my Dom just giving a like or a "well done" and somehow the conversation stopped there. One thing that makes me really sad is that I asked if he would be free on Day 20, which is the day I am supposed to be released, but he said he will not be in the city, period. He didnt really offer any alternatives. (I will get so horny if he suggests to extend it further until he comes back) I was really hoping that he would be more involved in this journey, maybe start to tease me a little more etc. Thus, I would like to ask these question(s) : am I being too needy? Is this my 2 weeks chastised brain chemistry screwing with me? Should I/How should I approach in handling this?
Since I discovered I'm a sub, I've been trying a lot of things, but I have something I specially enjoy and is Humiliation. But not in a sexual way, more like something traditional, like we were in school and you are my bully, I like when a master makes fun of me.
I think this is really weird, because I like to be ashame, is there someone like me here?
Building an M/S dynamic that I'm literally not allowed to get out from. And what I mean by that is being monitored and kept in such a way that I literally can't get free, and an escape attempt would just cause me to be locked up in the house.
Not being used sexually against my will exactly, but having it so that my will does not matter either way. So maybe I don't want it to happen, maybe I do, but either way, it will happen.
Being forced to be a chore slave. Making food for Master, making coffee for Him, keeping the house nice, ironing clothes, etc. Basically, unless I'm sick and genuinely medically require rest, I should more rarely have a break. If I get better and faster at my tasks, that just means I now have more time for something else.
Forced chastity and denial... permanently. Being caged by or against my will and having to downsize all the way to a flat cage. The only time it should ever come off is if it is causing medical problems or needs to be cleaned. Oh, or if people who didn't consent to see it would see it. Never getting any sexual release, ever. I am a slave, I don't deserve that. I'm lucky to keep my cock and balls at all. That's paired with having to get Master off at least once a day.
Water/fluid play, as part of humiliation and domination rituals. Having to drink His piss, swallow His cum and spit, as a means of dominance and humiliation. They would either have to be consumed plain, or they would be added by Him to my food or drinks. I'm not into fluid play, but I am into the idea that another man has the power to make me drink his piss, and I'll have no choice but to.
Bondage. I'm not into bondage in quite the same sexual way as others are, but I am indeed interested in it sexually sometimes. But to me, that's not its core purpose. I'd like being penetrated while allowed to struggle in bondage, yes. But it has non-sexual uses, like literally just being used to detain/contain me. Master wants to pretend I don't exist, I'm in a chair with my hands and arms roped to the armrests, my legs to the chair legs, and my body to the rest of the chair. I'm blindfolded, I have something that makes it so I can't hear, my mouth is gagged and probably taped, and I'm just in some random corner for however long He wants.
Total isolation. Being made to totally isolate from any friends or family, having any means of contact taken from me, or having Him control my means of contact entirely... Not to say I shouldn't have any friends or social life, but I should be able to easily separate from that. That's incredibly empowering for Him. It cuts all of my power to protest or reach out to someone and hands 100% of my reins to Him. He could do all of the above to me and more, and I could be absolutely unwilling, but this fundamental means of control means He has the full power to make all of that happen anyway.
Body modifications. I used to be more hesitant when it comes to modifications, but I've changed a bit since then. I'm a firm believer in branding, up to and including hot iron branding. Piercing, hair removal, hair colors, tattoos, neutering, etc. (You can't choose to be straight up neutered without a valid medical reason, actually, but it'd be cool to try and find a way if me and Him wanted that.)
Dynamic. All of the above is very interesting to me, but so is Master also being a regular romantic partner. Ideally, my dynamic would never truly stop or pause, but there would be times when not much is happening in the way of power exchange. Title and respect would ideally be permanent and ongoing. What I mean by that is, I'd never just call Him by His name. I would ideally always be required to use Sir, Master, or any of the similar. But under that, I want to be able to do regular boyfriend things. Go for a walk, sports/hobbies, cooking, etc. Not just for me, but I think He also deserves to feel like He is with a human and partner, too.
That is all fantasy stuff that I realize can't all be happening all at once. Some of those things may not ever happen. One or two isn't technically possible at all. But it'd be cool if they could be explored or considered. Perhaps brought as close to reality as they can be.
I also realize that this isn't everyone's cup of tea. In fact, there may be around like fifty people in the world who actually like this stuff. The rest may condemn it as abusive and impossible, but they'll never actually get to see what happens.
For a long time i have struggled with the idea of race play. For the longest time i was telling myself that this is wrong and you shouldnt engage in it etc. But i have finally reached a point where the complexity of the racial dynamic and what it implies turns me on way too much.
Being a POC i feel like i'm letting down my community, but i cannot help desire what i desire. Has any other slave gone through this.
Ok so I am slowly getting there in age, but I feel like any apps, bars, or events I look into or attend, I am always the youngest or one of the younger ones there. It makes it intimidating to go to events alone and try to meet people. I don’t have a problem at all meeting and hooking up with older guys, but it’s nice to have “peers.”
It’s been really hard to find any like-minded guys my age. I’m mid-20s in a major city. But it seems the kink crowd skews 40s and above.
Can anyone else relate?
This is going to be long. tldr - do other subs also struggle to look their doms in the eye? is this common or a phase?
Context: M39 (bottom/sub) have been with my husband/Dom (M49) for 10 years, married for 6 - we have a 1 y/o son. Husband was a big vanilla bear when I met him with no d/s dynamic but as we explored during COVID, his ruthless dominant side emerged. I find it super hot that he spends his entire day taking care of the family as a loving, considerate albeit grumpy dad and then is able to switch to beast mode, where he subjects me to insane, extreme stuff that I would not have imagined when we met. He pushes my boundaries and makes me feel like his property. I do feel like I'm living the best version of my life right now and I love it.
However, I've been struggling to maintain or make eye contact with my dom/husband. It started during sex where he would dominate me with so much intensity that we would reach a point where I'd just starting whimpering and not be able to look him in the eyes anymore. But then it leaked into regular life and now I struggle to look at him when talking to him. I don't know why exactly - I used to feel like this as a kid when I'd be reprimanded by dad/figure of authority when I'd done something wrong. I'd spend a lot of time looking down at their feet and this is what I find myself doing these days. As a husband/partner and the parent-in-charge of baby bedtimes/meals/trips, this is obviously leading to some struggles in communication. I just find myself very nervous around him sometimes. He is able to switch between these modes effortless but I'm struggling to not let the sub mode bleed into regular life. I would like some advice on what to do - do other subs also go through this feeling? WDYD?
I think one of both of the following reasons could be contributing to my intimidation:
The Disparity: Hubby is a taller, well-liked, local Canadian bear who is outgoing and loud. He has a much bigger dick, is smarter and more knowledgeable (although we are both well-educated) and earns considerably more. I'm an introspective, quiet-ish immigrant and I struggle to be heard in any room/make friends. An year before our baby was born, we both decided to retire as we had reached the financial goals needed for that lifestyle. This has been great for me, I love being a full-time dad, but hubby felt under stimulated so decided to get a new job. While our income disparity was always present (he was earning 5x me when we met), this new job puts him in a completely new earning bracket (I was doing five figures, he is currently hitting seven figures). This insane disparity coupled with the fact that I went from being half of a young retiree couple to suddenly feeling like a trophy husband as a SAHD has definitely ignited my insecurity.
The sex: Despite me asking for some romantic sex every now and then, hubby's inner beast always comes out and sex always ends up being aggressive. Every session now includes dom slave dynamics, humiliation, CBT, body worship, TPE -eventually I just bury my face in the covers and just let him throw me around and use me any way he wishes. And I get used, dozens of positions, both holes being pounded from every angle, tons of very aggressive verbal commands (race play/size play/master slave) and insults until I become a whimpering mess, licking his feet while stroking his cock to get him hard for round 2. I love every second of it but it is intimidating. (Do other subs?) The breaking point was last week when we were cuddling after a very intense fuck and he ordered me to get ready for piss play (1st time ever). Got me on my knees, slid his cock in my mouth and started pissing down my throat. He kept staring at me hard when he was doing this, he got hard, grabbed the back of my head and started face fucking. Intense eye contact throughout, and I couldn't look away. He looked so angry or indifferent or something as he thrust into me. I kept seeing that look next day over breakfast as we were going over the schedule. It felt oddly disassociative, making caring mundane conversation with this man who treated me like street meat last night and gave me lockjaw. I couldn't make eye contact and it's sort of been the same since. Maybe this incident broke something?
He's planning a special weekend for us at the cottage (where we have a bit more privacy) - he has all sorts of stuff planned including pissing inside my ass and then fucking his load into me. I'm a little apprehensive.
Thoughts/advice?
Looking for an opinion, is it gay if I’m not attracted to men but I’m super into being submissive, I’ve subbed for years online through kik, omegle, Snapchat, for a while I thought I have to be gay because I’m so in subbing but I realized it was because it was online so it didn’t really matter that they were guys
Curious for your opinion
Hey, kind of a random one, but when I’m talking to doms and planning to meet in the coming days/week, and they’re telling me how they want it to go, it’s often very hot and I find myself erect basically the whole time. Issue is, if I jerk off and cum I’m not as horny for the next few hours and not as engaged in the conversation. It’s also unhelpful if I’m texting with them and constantly hard, because I need to go about the rest of my day after. How can I manage this? Thanks!
Whenever I sub online, and I am given permission to cum, I find it really hard to keep going. Should I give my dom like something to force me to if I can’t control the impulse myself? I try not to show face a lot as I’m extremely dl and only share it if the dom is trustworthy and good, but maybe I should be more lenient?
So I’ve never been a sub in person only online, but after reading lots of stories I’m debating finding a dom to sub to for like a month or more. But like, not simply being a sub but being owned, either as a permanent pup or caged boy. Do y’all recommend?
I’m bi but am dl irl and never been with a man. I’m 21 but have spent years online domming and subbing. I would consider myself quite good at both, and have had subs for lengthy periods and had good experiences. But idk… there’s just something about subbing that makes me incredibly more excited? I don’t use the term aroused because both do that, but when I sub for a dom and serve them it’s like I go crazy, and I think for the right dom I’d even do anything, no limits. I’ve done kink tests, sometimes it says I’m more dom sometimes more sub, so Idk. Anyone the same?
I’m a late 20s fit, successful guy in a major city. I’ve mostly dated guys my age or younger, and have usually been a top. Always been kinky and switch, often submissive.
Lately, given a lot of learning, experiences, etc I think I want to commit to a dom/sub relationship as a submissive. For me to feel submissive, I need the guy to be generally bigger/stronger than me, successful, sometimes older, and a controlling top. I want to be told how to dress, aesthetic requests, and committing to whatever he’d want sexually and at home, while remaining normal “bro-y” out and about.
What would you call this in less words? Where would you find it?