Why do male doms keep trying to "switch" me?
i've been exploring being a domme for about a year now. mostly online, some in-person. i know what i want. i know what i don't want. i'm not confused about it.
but every time i talk to a male dom just casually, just trying to make friends in the community there's always this moment where they go "oh, but have you tried being submissive?" or "maybe you just haven't met the right dom yet."
like. no. i've tried it. didn't like it. that's how i know i'm a domme.
it's exhausting. i don't go up to male doms and say "have you tried kneeling?" so why is it okay for them to do the reverse?
i signed up for feeld last week. put "dominant" as my role. wrote in my bio: "not submissive. not looking to be fixed. don't message me if you're a dom looking to switch me."
guess what every single message was.
i'm not trying to be mean. i'm just tired. i want domme friends. i want to talk about scenes and dynamics and the joy of making a grown man beg. i don't want to be someone's project.
is this just how it is? do other dommes deal with this too? or am i attracting the wrong people somehow?
would love to hear from anyone who's been in the lifestyle longer than me. tell me it gets better. or tell me i'm not crazy.