Okay you get to ask me 3 questions and I have to answer honestly. Obviously personal questions regarding where I work/live/my name will be ignored.
I’m easygoing and confident, just a cool dude. I’m like a librarian in that I can talk about almost anything!
Send me a message with your first question for me and then maybe we’ll end up with your hands against a tree ;)
Married. Father. Like many of you, I’m in a relationship that’s been running on autopilot for far too long. What I miss most isn’t even the sex, it’s having someone I’m excited to talk to, though I miss thrilling sex too.
I want the good morning texts, the inside jokes, the flirting throughout the day, and to check my phone even when I know you haven’t messaged.
I’m not looking to blow up anyone’s life. I’m looking for an actual connection between two adults who understand the realities of marriage, family, and discretion. If chemistry develops, great. If it becomes something that makes both of our days brighter, even better.
I’m intelligent, professional, available and funny, and located west of Boston along the 495 corridor. Happy to travel within reason, exchange photos early, and actually make plans that we both intend to keep.
If you’re missing affection, attention, and conversation, and you want something real rather than endless chatting, please message me, I’d love to hear from you.
Let’s make each other’s days a little more exciting.
Edit: I got blown off yesterday by a redditor, too much anxiety, which I understand, but I want someone who is ready. We can talk through the anxiety together as long as we have communication
Edit: penpal** !!!!
Married in a dead bedroom. I’m looking for excitement but not to change my situation. I have no interest in a penpal so if you’re not local or not looking to meet up, please don’t message me.
About me: I’m fit and fun, and have experience in this game. I love my wife, I’m not going to leave her. I just need a little more than she can give. I give good opsec.
You: 25-45 or so, in the general Boston area. You’re in good shape but you don’t need to be a Greek goddess. You’re fun and respectful but not looking for an exit affair.
What can we tell each other?
Edit: just so you ladies know, this is an edited copy/paste from a woman’s post as an f4m. It’s dead accurate for me so that’s why I’m using it, but it’s also a bit of a social experiment considering this post got her over 100 replies from men. I’m curious how many replies I can get from women using it because when I’m too honest, or say something like “I want to send you home to your husband with a smile on your face, he’ll be happy to see you happy” I don’t get any responses, so now I’m trying something different.
If you’ve read this far God love you
34M looking for a woman who feels overlooked, underappreciated, or like she’s missing real attention and connection. I’m drawn to chemistry, conversation, affection, and making someone feel wanted again. Not here for pressure or endless talking, just something genuine, exciting, and discreet with someone who’s ready to actually meet.
I’m a cool dude, sarcastic and I love learning new things. Always down for a drink, a laugh, and a reason to sneak out for that extra “errand” on Saturday.
Happy to share pics of my handsome smile :)
34M looking for a woman who feels overlooked, underappreciated, or like she’s missing real attention and connection. I’m drawn to chemistry, conversation, affection, and making someone feel wanted again. Not here for pressure or endless talking, just something genuine, exciting, and discreet with someone who’s ready to actually meet.
I’m a cool dude, sarcastic and I love learning new things. Always down for a drink, a laugh, and a reason to sneak out for that extra “errand” on Saturday.
Happy to share pics of my handsome smile :)
34M looking for a woman who feels overlooked, underappreciated, or like she’s missing real attention and connection. I’m drawn to chemistry, conversation, affection, and making someone feel wanted again. Not here for pressure or endless talking, just something genuine, exciting, and discreet with someone who’s ready to actually meet.
I’m a cool dude, sarcastic and I love learning new things. Always down for a drink, a laugh, and a reason to sneak out for that extra “errand” on Saturday.
Happy to share pics of my handsome smile :) to anyone ladies wanting to feel and be given what their husbands can’t
34M looking for a woman who feels overlooked, underappreciated, or like she’s missing real attention and connection. I’m drawn to chemistry, conversation, affection, and making someone feel wanted again. Not here for pressure or endless talking, just something genuine, exciting, and discreet with someone who’s ready to actually meet.
I’m a cool dude, sarcastic and I love learning new things. I do drink socially and rarely smoke week but otherwise I take good care of myself.
Happy to share pics of my handsome smile ;)
Okay so here we are.
So I’m just a dude, a cool dude, a dude with a fun job, a sarcastic sense of humor and a missing piece in my life. It’s nagging, the feeing of wanting to be wanted. Couple that with the need for physical touch and voila I’m on r/affairs!
I won’t lie, I’m 5’8” and 155 lbs so I’m not a big guy by any means. I’m pretty ripped but not from the gym, just hard work. My friends consider me handsome and I’m not blind either, I see some of you ladies looking back at me more than once when I’m out and about.
So why am I on Reddit if I could just go pickup a girl? Well that’s because I think in-person implies that I have a place to bring you back to, and I don’t. Also I’ve just always wanted to meet a stranger from Reddit for some NSFW activities ya know?
You? Please be normal and willing/able to put some effort into the conversation, I live a one-sided life at home and I’m tired of being the only one who tries.
Let’s share pics, I promise I am who I say I am :)
Let’s start something that puts a smile on our faces when we see each other’s names pop up on our phones.
That said, I’m in the market for a beautiful woman interested in building trust before our trysts.
I’m a likable, handsome guy who is wicked sarcastic and ready to build something with someone new! Ideally we get down and dirty sooner rather than later but let’s build the tension with some chemistry first, no?
I’m located along 495, happy to travel and share pics so you know I’m real and not lying!
Send me a message with more than just “hey”, tell me about you and what you’re looking for. Then let’s get to it :)
Not looking to change anyone’s life — just add something exciting to it.
I’m looking for a secret connection with a married woman who misses flirting, anticipation, chemistry, and having someone who’s just hers. Someone who understands the thrill of sneaking away for an “extra errand,” exchanging knowing smiles, and building something intimate that exists outside the routines of everyday life.
I’m not here to pressure anyone or complicate anyone’s situation. I value honesty, discretion, attraction, and consistency. I want something that feels easy: great conversation, shared anticipation, mutual desire, and the kind of connection that leaves you smiling at your phone when no one’s looking.
I’m attracted to women who enjoy being desired and appreciated — the kind of woman who likes dressing up because she knows someone can’t wait to see her.
Let’s start with conversation, photos, and seeing if the chemistry is there. If it is, maybe we give ourselves the summer we’ve both been quietly craving all winter.
Please say more than just “hey.” Tell me a little about yourself, your vibe, and what you’re looking for.
34M just a regular dude looking for something that starts with real connection first, then the physical experience. I think the best chemistry comes from good conversation, some flirting and some actual effort.
If we click mentally and emotionally, then let’s meet and see if the physical chemistry is there too. Looking for a drama free secret with someone who misses that spark and excitement as much as I do.
I’m 34, married, and on paper my life looks pretty dialed in. Career is solid, I take care of myself, and I show up where it counts. But if you know, you know—sometimes something’s just… missing.
I’m drawn to women who have their lives together but still feel that quiet itch for more. Moms especially—there’s something incredibly attractive about a woman who balances everything for everyone else, yet still wants to feel wanted, seen, and a little selfish sometimes.
I’m not here to blow up anyone’s life. Discretion, respect, and emotional intelligence matter to me. I’m looking for something that starts with conversation and builds into real chemistry—playful, flirty, maybe a little dangerous in the best way.
About me: fit, clean and confident without being arrogant. I enjoy good conversation, humor, and actually listening. I’m the type who remembers the little things and knows how to make you feel like more than just a role you play in your daily life.
About you: married or single, but craving something extra. You miss being desired, you like tension, and you’re not afraid to explore that side of yourself.
If this resonates, send me a message. Tell me what’s missing for you lately.
Fit guy here—straightforward about what I’m looking for: something physical, but with a bit of build-up and intention behind it.
Maybe you’re craving a spark that’s been missing, or something just for you—low-key, discreet, and a little exciting. I’m not into rushing things, but I’m also not looking to drag it out—happy to share pics early on and meet once we feel that mutual interest.
About me: in shape, easygoing, quick-witted, and I know how to keep things interesting.
If you’re into a little anticipation and something that adds a spark to your day, send me a message.
Fit guy here—straightforward about what I’m looking for: something physical, but with a bit of build-up and intention behind it.
Maybe you’re craving a spark that’s been missing, or something just for you—low-key, discreet, and a little exciting. I’m not into rushing things, but I’m also not looking to drag it out—happy to share pics early on and meet once we feel that mutual interest.
About me: in shape, easygoing, quick-witted, and I know how to keep things interesting.
If you’re into a little anticipation and something that adds a spark to your day, send me a message.