r/Affairs

Hello:
Not new to posting or this subreddit (posted under my other account crazy radish last until
I locked myself out of the account lol and clearly Reddit is too hard for me to navigate lmao) . I am
married looking for an AP. Have had some dates and have been stood up a few times too and nothing has worked out quite yet. Perhaps my logistics and expectations are too much but here I am trying again.

I am petite size medium/small, curvy, very pretty, prettier than average. I say this with all kindness and respect. I look like Alicia Silverstone(currently) if she was prettier I need lest Botox and injections and that’s just not my
Thing lol! I have most mornings off and some late nights as well my husband is a shift worker (yes married!). Blonde hair, blue eyes. I do not usually date older men, black, or East Indian men. I don’t have telegram or any of those apps upfront sorry. I am also though ~ not a bot or scammer or OF seller lol.

I am looking for someone who wants to picture share early to establish attraction, is very attractive, lives locally to Sacramento area ONLY (not the bay valley etc) has a flexible schedule, and is in good shape. I value kindness and laughter and please no D pics. I want an actual connection and an affair. I have a career and a family and mostly happy not looking to change things, I miss intimacy and flirting and romance. Looking for someone who is actually going to meet up and not waste my time, if you aren’t sure about this please respond to one of the many other ads here instead of mine :) Cannot host and cannot secure accommodations. Thanks for reading and happy hunting!

Hey

I’m slim but strong and active and I would say attractive but everyone has a type. I’m very kind, easy to talk to and adventurous.
I’m looking for an affair partner that isn’t afraid of an emotional connection too. I’m definitely attracted to fit or muscular men with dark features and somewhat emotionally intelligent. I am a very sexual person and haven’t been able to express that in my situation. I also appreciate somebody that I can talk with where it doesn’t feel I have to pull teeth to hold a conversation with them.

Somebody that is trustworthy, level-headed and discreet is obviously mandatory as that is what I will bring.

(married but with bad sexual intimacy)

Some connections feel disposable. I’m not interested in those.

I’m looking for one person who enjoys sharp conversation, playful tension, and the slow build of something that feels a little dangerous in the best possible way.

I’m intelligent, curious, and a bit mischievous. I can keep up in a clever back-and-forth, but I also know when to soften and let someone else take the lead. There’s something appealing about a confident man who knows what he’s doing and doesn’t need to announce it.

Discretion and emotional intelligence matter to me. I’m not looking to rearrange anyone’s life or create chaos. Real life stays intact. What happens in our little corner of the world stays between us.

What I do enjoy:
- banter that turns into tension
- someone who can lead without ego
- chemistry that builds instead of rushing
- consistency and mutual excitement

I’m drawn to strong personalities, quick minds, and men who understand that the best dynamics come from trust and communication.

If you’re the type who enjoys a woman who can spar with you mentally but melt a little when the moment is right, we might get along very well.

Worst case, we have a great conversation.
Best case, we find something a little addictive.

Hi! So I am sure it’s more of a me issue rather than anything else but I have done this before. I have found two great loves in this space and looking to see if that is a possibility again.

About me: I am 46, married, mom of school aged kids. I am Latina and live on the south side of the city. I am short and have a mom shaped bod. Don’t expect perfection but if you’re looking for imperfectly perfect that’s me.

You: Have great hygiene, have done this before, are between the ages of 35-50, have impeccable Opsec and are funny. Have the capability to voice/video chat, are available but understanding that at times we are both busy with home.

I just really am looking for a reason to be excited again. If you are looking for a full on connection I am your girl. Also for the love of god please do not give me a simple hey you message.

Hey there! Married but feel unappreciated and unwanted, looking for someone to form a connection with. Someone that I can meet with regularly but also have meaningful conversation. I promise I am a fun time, but would need to get to know you first :) see if we vibe! I’m not looking for something strictly online, so I hope to find someone close enough to travel to or meet in the middle.

I am looking for a man who would ideally be in his 30’s, nerdy and maybe have a dad bod going on 🤭 someone who is able to hold a conversation and make me laugh. I’m pretty open minded and love to get to know people! I’m more so interested in a connection, no so much looks but it’s always a plus!

A little about me - I’m 5’5”, brown eyes, black hair, and some tattoos. Some would say curvy, but you can be the judge of that! I’m dedicated to my career but have a lot of flexibility in my schedule. I have lots of hobbies but consistently into reading, hiking, baking and cozy gaming.

If you think we might be a good fit, shoot me a message! Let’s chat :)

Looking for a man to develop a deep connection with and to go beyond the routine of the every day.

• Discretion and respect • Genuine passion and chemistry • Thoughtful conversation

Are you:

• Someone confident and emotionally inteligent • Have a sense of humor • Have the ability to be discreet and respectful. • Preferably localish to the Portland Metro

Having an affair is not taken lightly as it is an important undertaking and with the right partner is very fulfilling. Don't you agree? Do.you think it is the worth the time.and effort?

Hey y’all! I guess I should start off with sharing a little bit about me. I am 33 and I have been married for about 8 years. I’m pretty tall at 5’10, plus size/curvy but well proportioned, and am a mixed Mexican and Black woman. I have quite a few tattoos and can’t wait for my next one! I enjoy anything artistic. I paint, write poetry, enjoy baking, thrifting, working out and hiking. I’m a self proclaimed coffee snob as well, so ask me all of your coffee questions…if you’re nice I will answer. I also am a major music lover, I enjoy all genres but my favorite right now is country. Tell me your top 3 country artist if you’re a fan too. I am a shy person at first but open up over time with the right person. I have posted before but it’s hard to meet the right person.

I am ultimately looking for the person to give me butterflies and to build a special, meaningful connection with. **I am not the hook up type,** I’m more of a hopeless romantic. I do prefer men in their 40s. I’m so bad at these but if you’re interested feel free to reach out!

Hey! I’m (not a bot) seeing way too many ghosts here! Sick of building “connections” and then it’s like a magician came in and made it all disappear! Married and looking for a real connection. A slow burn that builds into something more. Someone you can’t stop thinking about. If you have time to be genuine and not disappear on me then let me know your favorite season and why. Prefer someone willing to eventually meet if the chemistry is there!

I was originally looking for something deep and passionate that awakens the fire inside both of us. Something that makes life colorful again after our needs and wants have gone unmet for months? Years? I wanted to be all in with my person. The problem? I’m a short, pale, blonde BBW and that is exactly what nobody is looking for 😂 so scratch all of the above. What I crave most of all is just someone being around. If you’re looking for your person but are insanely lonely in the meantime, come hang out with me! We can share laughs, vent about all of the dumb shit that happens throughout our days, talk hobbies, travels, music, whatever. As a fat chick, I promise I won’t threaten you with my affections so don’t be deterred 😂 just 2 people passing the time and keeping each other company. Who knows, we might even become friends along the way! I welcome anyone who wants conversation!☺️

\\\*notabot

I’m married, and I’m not looking to change my situation.

I’m looking for one person who feels like their marriage has hit a bit of a stale patch, someone who craves excitement, meaningful conversation, and a deep connection with someone who truly sees them.

I’m fit, youthful for my age, and someone who feels deeply and loves deeply. I’m fun, funny, affectionate, and genuinely enjoy life. I have a great life, but I’m missing that spark, that feeling of being seen, wanted, and truly connected.

I have a lot of love and affection to give, and I’d love to spoil the right person with it.
Looks aren’t everything, but attraction matters. I’m drawn to someone who is fit, professional, confident, enjoys online chats and deep conversations, and wants to feel noticed and appreciated.

I’m not someone who sleeps around. If you’re looking for something casual with lots of different people, I’m probably not your person.

I’m looking for one special connection, something genuine, exciting, affectionate, and emotionally intimate, with the chemistry naturally spilling over into the physical.

If you’re craving the same kind of connection, maybe we should talk.

Married, attractive, raised in #NYC, and passionate about my career. Outside of work, I enjoy gardening, cooking, and the simple things that make life feel a little more special.

I’d love to hear from you and see where a genuine conversation might lead. I’d prefer someone on the East Coast, so meeting up someday is actually possible.

I’m sorry to say this, but I do have a preference for someone fit, under 45, and with hair. Please include your profession in your message 😊

xoxo

Edit: RIP to my inbox 🥲

Good morning all :) I’m a born and bred Pittsburgh local looking for a discreet connection with someone who understands this lifestyle and can show me the ropes. I’m not looking for long-distance, online-only, or something that feels like endless small talk with no direction. I do want to take some time to talk first, get to know one another, and of course ensure that the chemistry is there.

I’m looking for a man who is confident, tall, charismatic, attentive, and handy. I’m usually attracted to late 20s/early 30s. I’m simply not interested in 40 or above. I like someone who can flirt, communicate, make me laugh, and actually hold a conversation. Discretion is obviously important, but I don’t want someone who uses that as an excuse to be cold, inconsistent, or impossible to read. At the end of the day we are all adults and can communicate in a respectful manner.

About me: I’m 5’10”, thick/curvy with brown eyes, brown hair, tattoos, and piercings. I’m in a master’s program, into anime, love intellectual conversations, and enjoy nature when I get the chance. I also love wine. I can be independent and guarded at first, but I’m also curious, affectionate, and drawn to people who make me feel seen and wanted.

I’m looking for something exciting but not reckless. Someone relatively close enough to travel to or meet halfway. If you’re what I’m looking for and I’m what you’re looking for, send me a DM with your name, age, and a bit about yourself :)

Hey! So we both know why we're here. I'm in a dead bedroom situation and looking to find it somewhere else at this point. I'm not looking to change my situation or yours, just looking to have some good sex again. Something along the lines of a FWB or fuck buddy type situation.

Ideally, I'm looking for someone local. Or at least able to travel to the area on a somewhat consistent basis.

As for me, I'm right around 6ft, dad bod, very discreet and a high sex drive. I'm in the Grand Rapids area and have some ability to host during the morning/early afternoon depending on how schedules line up. I can have a pretty flexible work schedule if need be. Also able to come to you most days if you're not too far.

If you've gotten this far, send a DM!

Hello! I hope this Sunday is treating you well. Married mother of 1 in a marriage that has lost its excitement. Looking for someone around my age (under 40) & area (southeast US, close to GA), real life good looking, fun to chat with, open to see where things go. I am attracted to taller men, HWP, takes care of themselves.

I am pretty, easy to talk to, and generally positive. I love to be outside, reading, cooking, trying new things, but also love a night in. I work part time, so I have time to meet up if the stars align.

I am looking for someone who isn’t going to ghost, puts in time and effort, is fun to be around, positive, funny, wants to pursue a woman.

Maybe we chat for a day and never speak again. Maybe we fall in love and sneak off to a hotel and spend the weekend together. Let’s find out?

Here we go again..

As much as I want to avoid it, I somehow always end up getting sucked back into this world. I was on AM and I have had success there in the past. But the app is trash and truthfully it has become a giant cesspool of bots and desperation. So here I am posting on Reddit for the first time.

I am looking for a real connection, one that could maybe last for years if we played our cards right. A situation based on friendship and mutual respect. In my humble opinion, sex is great but it is so much better when it’s meaningful. I am instantly turned off by unsolicited dck pics and when the conversation immediately turns sexual. So please spare me. A little goes a long way with me.

I am a professional with a very demanding job. I have a family that I care about and my schedule is typically very busy. However, with advance planning I am intentional with ensuring that I make time for the right person. If I am going to take the risk and put in the effort, I need to make sure that the person is worth it. I am very passionate and treat this just as I treat any meaningful relationship in my life. I am one who will give my all (within limits) if you catch my interest and I would hope that is reciprocated.

With that being said, I love daily conversations, phone/video calls and all of the back and forth that comes with being into each other. I want to meet someone that I can’t stop thinking about and vice versa. In the past, when I did find “the one” and felt comfortable with him, it truly was a magical experience that I am still trying to recreate. I am very careful and do my best to screen and get to know a person before I fully let my guard down. Discretion is very important to me and it should be important to you. I’m married and plan to keep it this way and you should be married/committed as well.

If this resonates with you and you are interested in a real life adventure where we stimulate each other in more ways than just sex, send me a message! Happy Sunday!

I think that’s the simplest way to put it, I want a damn crush, the kind where I see your name on my phone and immediately smile, where we send voice notes back and forth, stay up way too late talking, and somehow spend 40 minutes discussing a rock before accidentally getting into whether life has any actual purpose. I have a whole life already, marriage, kids, responsibilities, and people constantly needing something from me, and I’m tired of being needed, I want to be wanted. I want my own secret little world with someone, I want you to be clingy, because I’m clingy, double text me because I’m gonna quadruple text you, tell me the dumb thing that happened at work because I’m gonna complain about how my coworker keeps stealing my snacks, call because you have ten minutes and wanted to hear my voice, because I will call for two seconds just to hear you say hi, and annoy the hell out of me in a way that makes me smile, because I’m definitely doing that. I never want to wonder whether you actually enjoy talking to me and I never want you to wonder if I enjoy talking to you. I want communication too, so if you’re going to have a busy day, it takes three seconds to say, “Babe, I’m going to be super busy today, I’m not ghosting you, I’m just busy, and I’ll get to you when I’m free.” It’s not hard, it’s the bare minimum. I want intelligence, humor, curiosity, emotional depth, and consistency, so please, for the love of God, have a personality beyond your dick. If your preferred method of ending a connection is spontaneously evaporating into the atmosphere, we are not compatible. Also, completely unrelated, but if you actually made it this far, work the phrase nice rock into your first message somehow. Don’t tell me why. I’ll know. If you just want to think with your cock, there are a million different women on Reddit who want exactly that, but I want your brain first. I want to be excited by the way you think, your humor, your perspective, and the way you make me feel when we talk, and maybe later, if your brain excites me first, we can see where the rest of the chemistry takes us. I want attraction too, and I want to meet eventually, have elaborate dates, steal afternoons together, and find excuses to dress up. I want to feel like a teenager with a boyfriend again, except now we have adult money and can go somewhere considerably better than the mall. So you gotta be local and you have to be sure this is what you want, I don’t wanna set up dates and plans only to be ghosted because it’s suddenly too real. I don’t want cold feet because I’m sure of where I am. And we’re both here looking for something. I’m not looking for someone to rescue me or rearrange my life, I just want a corner of it where I feel ridiculously alive.

After a shorter hiatus than I would have liked, I'm back to this place. Each experience teaches you more and shows me what I'm really looking for in a man.

So, starting off with saying that I'm not looking to change situations. I'm married and you should be too. I'm looking for someone I can build a physical, emotional and mental connection with. I think honestly and trust are huge in these types of dynamics, so I'm looking for someone who values the same. Think...sexy best friend. With benefits. Talking daily, sending pics and meetings 1-2 times a month (ish).

I tend to match energies and efforts. I think conversation should be fairly easy, not a game of 20 questions. If you share things about yourself, that generates the wonder and wanting to know more. Attraction is also important- I like traditionally attractive. A nice smile, strong arms. I don't care about abs or height honestly. I just don't want a belly that would crush me, no boobs that are bigger than mine and stronger than me. Age between 20 and 45 would be best. I also like voice and video calls. I have a 30-40 minute commute each day, so during that time would be great. I also have availability during the day.

I'm 5'3, long brunette hair, mom bod that is being worked on now that I'm done having babies. I get the most compliments on my eyes. The feedback I generally get is that I'm cute mom next door, genuine and smart. I tend to get along with men who value my mind (and body) most. I don't have a lot of time for hobbies. I work a lot and the rest of the time I'm momming to 3 kids. I do garden, workout, and the occasional art project, cook. I have a good group of friends I enjoy seeing as well.

I lead a fairly busy life, so I really prefer to not waste anyone's time. I'm honest if I don't feel it, or if someone else catches my interest. I'm looking for a place where the stresses of everyday life are just...gone. It's just you and me, and happiness and good times.

I only want one person ideally, within two hours of the Chicago area. I don't have the bandwidth to juggle multiple, nor do I want to add to any risks.

Do you think we'd be a good match? If so send me a message! I'll respond to anything thoughtful generally. Please be patient because...sometimes inboxes get flooded.

47, married mom, living the good life in Central NJ, family, career, all the boxes checked but emotionally and intimately, something's missing. I'm not looking to blow up anyone's world, just hoping to find a connection (mental and physical) that feels exciting, easy, and just for me.

I'm a sexy brown skinned black woman. I’m 5'5", 150 Ibs, slim but curvy, very feminine, and pretty fit. I have dark brown shoulder length hair with a few grays I've grown to love. I take care of myself and value someone who does the same. I'm flirty, open-minded, and love a good conversation that turns into something more.

I'm looking for a man who's tall (6'+), 40+, attractive, fit, emotionally intelligent, and funny. I don’t really have a type but I’m mostly attracted to silver foxes. I have a preference for Black, Italian or Latino men. I’m also a sucker for a full beard. 😉

You should be open-minded, progressive, non-conservative, non-MAGA, and know how to flirt, listen, and keep things light but meaningful. Central NJ or NYC strongly preferred as I’m looking for someone local. Discretion is a must.

I'm not into games or drama. Just looking for a genuine connection with someone who gets it, where we can laugh, flirt, and feel that spark again. If you're curious, send me a message. PLEASE DO NOT message me if you do not meet my requirements.

I'm not really sure why I'm posting this, but I've been feeling lonely lately. I'm married, but my husband and I have been ldr for about a year because of circumstances and financially. We talk, but it's not the same as having someone physically around. Some days are okay, and other days the silence just feels really heavy. Im mostly looking for people who understand what its like to be lonely, whether you're in a relationship or not. I'd love to chat about everyday life, hobbies, movies, games, or whatever comes up. I'm not looking to replace my marriage, just hoping to connect with kind, hot or dadbod guy and have genuine conversations. If you've been through something similar or just feel like talking, feel free to leave a comment or send a message. Hopefully we can meet in the future or maybe tonight lol. Or Hopefully your from USA or something part of Europe and not Asia

So I have been at this for some time .. answering posts .. posting my own . And I gotta say it’s just disappointing here. I think I may have chatted with idk 100 people and maybe 5 could hold a conversation. Is it me ? I really feel I have a ton to offer . I’m fun, energetic, employed , educated , I work my ass off at the gym . A Reddit 25 guys in case you were wondering . Anyways …

Married mom here again… blah blah blah . Hoping to find that needle in the haystack , diamond in the rough , and any other stupid cliche you can think of here in the depths of Reddit hell. “ Not here to change your situation or mine” .. but I kinda am .. I’m gonna make your day a little brighter, those nights a little less lonely and if all goes well your bed a little less cold.

Few things I’m asking for … have your shit together , don’t be in need of therapy ,take care of yourself ( I hate the phrase dad bod)or that you’re working on it .. come back when the work is done . Don’t look old ,have time for this, but don’t waste mine . If your wife tracks you like her Amazon packages , this is not for you . If you can’t leave the house without being asked why are you dressed like that .. just keep scrolling .. for everyone else .. god fucking help me … HERE…WE…..GO
I’m jumping in the ridiculously notabot bandwagon.