r/Affairs

Hi there. I’m sincere, caring, contemplative, have a fairly striking face (if I do say so myself) and sexy curves, and fall somewhere between introspective and a little too self-aware for my own good. I’m genuinely warm, witty, love absurd humor and sarcasm, love dogs and kids, and was once called The Grammar Goddess. (While a bit of a grammar Nazi, I strenuously disapprove of other kinds of Nazis (except soup,) so I’m not interested in meeting Republicans/MAGAts/“libertarians.”

The past few years have been challenging. I refer not only to the state of our crumbling republic but also to my own life. I really crave that high - someone who makes me feel all the feels to give me some respite and excitement, and also share a genuine caring friendship. I guess what I’m looking for is a “boyfriend” who I can enjoy and care for - and vice versa.

Importantly, I’m not going to dress this up as something ethically acceptable. I’m a typically-ethical person doing an unethical thing, and so are you all (at least the second part; hopefully you’re usually more ethical.) I’ve made a temporary peace with this contradiction. If you need me to pretend otherwise to protect an easily-dispelled fairy tale you’re telling yourself, it won’t work. If you can meet me in the complicated middle, it could.

What I’m looking for: Ideally someone with a genuinely handsome face. I’d rather say it now than waste your time. Kind, emotionally intelligent, quick with banter, self-aware, sincere. 30s to early 40s, or close enough in appearance: I do all I can to look like I’ve resisted the inevitable passage of time work and I’d like someone who looks to be in the approximate same age range. Height preference is 5’10”+, but a great face moves the needle.

Emotional maturity and self-awareness are critical. I’m not interested in a purely physical arrangement though I’d love someone sexually compatible, who has a bit of a kinky flair. Want to take it slow with someone who’s really into me and vice versa. Eventually want an exclusive (aside from current partners) relationship. In turn you get a hot woman who has strong opinions about most things and a deep awareness of her own flaws. (I’ll happily share them but not here.) Let’s find something a bit magical to sustain us through these dark times.

This is my third attempt to find a genuine connection on this platform. Third time is the charm…at least, that is what I am counting on.

I have been tempted to lower my expectations, but my refusal to settle always wins out. So, if you are an attractive, tall, well-mannered, and intelligent man with a fit, muscular physique and a deep voice to match, and you have the time, means, and desire for an extracurricular connection with an affectionate and attractive woman, I would like to hear from you.

You must be attached, discreet, serious about this, and have a particular appreciation for slender women.

If you recognize yourself here, I would be glad to start with a simple conversation.

Curvy, cute, fun, and caring blonde with bluish-gray eyes looking for local man to have fun dates with and see where it leads us. Ideally, I want a long term, exclusive partner.

I am a married woman who has been called classy and dignified.. I pride myself on that. While I have flaws, I do like to present myself in that manner. I have many things missing from my marriage. A deep emotional bond, communication, and yes- the physical part. I do want to make it clear that the physical part of any relationship should come after a foundation of trust, closeness mentally and emotionally, and caring is laid. So dick pick jerks or those who just want to talk about what I am wearing or about sex need not apply. I am more than that and expect my boundaries to be respected.

I am a little over 5’8” and I am curvy. I have worked hard for over several years to better myself. Though I am a work in progress, I am learning to love the skin I am in and be proud of my accomplishments. I continue to work on becoming a better version of myself each day. I am blonde with bluish-gray eyes.

I am looking for a gentleman. A man of worth. A man who has an amazing sense of humor (sarcasm is always a plus), a man who can carry on conversations about an array of topics. I want someone who has a solid career and life they are proud of. This man should still have time for me. Locals to Raleigh and wanting a real, in-person relationship is what I am needing.

I need a man who will keep me and what we have safe. Physically and emotionally. A man who knows they want this relationship and won’t back down on the days that we are needed the most. I need an honor among thieves where the man is exclusive to just us and does not wish for multiple women. Protecting me and us in that aspect is crucial and well, just mature and showing their worth.

I want this man to be proud to be by my side, sees me as someone they desperately want and appreciate. I know what they give they will also receive from me.

⁠My new friend needs: 1)Availability to meet and see each other whether it is for coffee, lunch, drinks, dinner, hotel time, etc, etc. Know now if you can get away for “us” time. 2) An account that your SO does not have access to. 3) Emotionally available. That is what makes this worthwhile.

Lastly, I want to say - for now - that these relationships have to have some strings if they are worthwhile and meaningful. Why risk this and everything we have not to have some strings attached? I know I am worth every bit of it. Worth the risk, time, and all the things that come with this relationship.

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Hello 👋 happy almost Friday! I hope this message finds you well. I am a 36 f married mom of two. Stay at home mom (I homeschool the kids).

I'm going to bare it all here.... I'm a marriage where everything is uhmazing ... except one area. Its not a dead bead room situation. Its bland, vanilla, think "Groundhogs Day". I'm 5'4, BBW Curvey,reddish hair, brown eyes, latina, tattoos, i swear like a sailor too lol.

I'm what you call a cake eater lol ...

I miss the excitement of a good Sir/Dom. Flirting, someone that can keep up with my drive and silly bratty side, and even keep me in line with just a look heehee. I need a gentleman that understands my house affairs come first before our pocket fun.

I crave the connection that comes along with trust and communication, and a simple yes or no and no judgment if we don't align.

If you're still with me and my random ramble send me a dm and tell me a little bit about you.

I do skip messages that just say hey ...

If this ever leads to in person I don't drive . . .

P.s. please be older than me (36)

Xoxo Bunni.

The perfect meetup is finding you in the airport, knowing we’re about to spend the next few nights together, escaping into another world together, filling each other’s tanks with sex and intimacy and good vibes. We’re these sexy little besties who’ve been flirting for weeks and finally get to meet and throw down on all the shit talk we’ve been doing 😉

Leading up to this is all the flirting, texts, quick video chats when the times line up, steamy pics, voice notes, etc. I don’t want an AP, I want a boyfriend to crave and linger in my thoughts.

I found lightning in a bottle once and so I’m trying this again. For as many times as you’ve boys been burned by scammers and bots, I’ve been fooled by flakes, ghosts, flashers, and brokedick men who have zero capacity to give attention to an affair or make actual meetups happen.

Distance isn’t an issue for me, I prefer that our meetups are deliberate. I travel both in and out of the US. We can meet on work trips or “work trips.”

I’m successful. I’m tall, dark, and pretty. I rock yoga pants and a sports bra, but also perfume, silk blouses and heels. I talk like a sailor, can land an airplane, and I know how to pair wine. I’m positive and happy and (I’d like to think) I’m pretty funny. I’m attentive, engaged, and generous in every part of intimacy.… I have so much to give and I want to direct it all to you.

Who I’m holding out for:
• Confident and clear about what you’re doing here. (Please please please don’t waste my time 😔).
• Seeking a single, exclusive connection.
• 5’11” or taller (I’m tall).
• Fit and someone who takes care of himself. I’m drawn to strong chests.
• High sexual drive. I want a partner who can keep pace—not just physically, but with presence and enthusiasm. Stamina is a must.

I wanna be your Sally ~ the woman who is bold, honest, sexual, and enjoying life. Sometimes these relationships require 50/50 contribution, other times it's 80/20. We all have our days.

I've done this a few times - I've learned what I like and what I definitely can live without. I hope you have too.

I'm bbw in body type - confident and comfortable in my skin. If you know how to make your partner feel desired, engage her mentally and crave phone sex when being together physically can't be as frequent as we'd like, I'm your girl!

I prefer men over the age of 35. Employed. Smoke free. Status doesn't matter as long as my marriage is respected.

If you wanna wrinkle some sheets, send a message. I will not respond to "hey"!

I’m looking for connection. Spark. Excitement. Someone who thinks about me during the day and sneaks away for a few messages at night or on weekends because they genuinely want to talk to me.

I’m not looking to change anyone’s situation, and I’m not looking to change mine either. I just miss chemistry. Effortless conversation. The kind where the banter is quick, the flirting is natural, and somehow hours disappear without either person forcing it.

I’m cute. Curvy. Smart. A little weird, but the fun kind of weird. I laugh hard, care deeply, and I’m equal parts chaos and soft girl energy. I love wit, teasing, emotional intelligence, and people who can hold a conversation beyond “wyd.”

I’m not interested in carrying something on my own. I want mutual energy, mutual curiosity, mutual intention. If I’m making time for you, I want to feel like you’re making time for me too.

I’m a little bit of an attention whore and a little bit of a lover girl, which honestly feels like a dangerous combination. But if you get it, you get it.

Hi there!

If you’re anything like me, you’re not too content in your marriage. Things might be good, the connection is there, the intimacy is consistent…you’re just a little bored…and maybe a little greedy 😈

I think I'm cute. I'm curvy, weird but the good weird I'm not crazy. I love playful banter, quick wit, and conversations that flow effortlessly. I’m not interested in carrying something on my own. I want mutual energy, and intention. I’m a bit of an attention whore and a soft lover girl too.

And yes… I’m looking for a bit of spice, but I like someone who knows how to flirt without being obvious about it.. That’s why I’m here. But please—FOR THE LOVE OF GOD—please don't waste my time by having Al write for you \*\* NSFW. I’m not an OF girl, just a real woman who wants a little trouble.... The fun kind; with someone who makes me actually excited to check my phone. I crave someone who is mature, honest, and
unapologetically filthy. I have no issues sharing pictures and videos. You should also be willing to share some or all of these things.

I might be looking for something long-term or just a one time play. If this resonates with you, send a message. Be authentic…and if you can make me wet right off the bat, I promise I’ll return the favor 💛

If you message me please tell me:
YOUR AGE
WHERE YOU ARE FROM
and a lil something to snag my attention to chat with you

I’m in a very dull marriage. We get along for the kids, but I want to feel desired. Have someone to talk with about my day and have them actually care.

I am 42, married, and a mom. I have a mom-bod, cute and curvy.

I am looking for a man, aged 40-55, preferably local, who will be attentive both online and in person. Age is not negotiable!

I would like to get to know someone who has a great sense of humor, doesn’t take life too seriously but can have intellectual conversations. I’m located just north of Albany.

Hey! I’m 30, F and married from Wisconsin. Disclaimer before you read the rest: I am not a skinny girl. I’m quite thick and curvy (I like to think in the right places but 🤷🏼‍♀️) if that’s not your thing, do not message.

Okay back to normal programming. I am a mom to 2 kids, have a job that I like most of the time but can be hard and stressful as hell. Looks wise, I’m 5’6, curvy/thick (like I said earlier), long blonde hair and hazel eyes. My hobbies mainly revolve around my kids these days but do enjoy some reality tv and checking out different bars or wineries.

I I really want to find someone who can meet up in person for the physical aspect of an affair (would only be able to meet up about once a month) but I want to also have an emotional connection. I want to be able to talk about anything and feel wanted and seen. Want the little voice messages and pictures when we miss each other. Want to have the butterflies when I see you messages me. Would like to catch feelings. I just want someone who ACTUALLY cares about me and is slightly obsessed with me.

I prefer you to be older than me but not older than 45, have kids as well (easier to connect), have a decent job, have enough time to devote to this and live near or can travel to southern Wisconsin.

Looks wise, I have no real type but do typically go for men with beards and that have more of a dad bod or bigger built.

Excited to hear from you!

Married, 5’4” strawberry blonde, blue eyes, active female looking for discretion while in town for a couple of days. Currently in a dead bedroom situation.

Connection is key, I am attractive, dress well, and care about my appearance. I am a white color professional who extended a business trip for a few days to have some fun and unwind. I like a man who is a natural leader and owns a room with his presence. I prefer confidence over arrogance. Someone who is also active, clean, and fun! But chemistry is everything.

I’d love to chat and see where it goes, discretion required.

A lot of people I’ve talked to have said that I seem to know what I want and what I don’t want and that’s very true. I’ve done this long enough ( not bc I love doing it) but long enough to know what will make me happy.

About me: I am often told I look younger than I am. I’m confident enough to say that I’m attractive and have a spark in my eyes. I’m a mom with a career that I am well respected in. I love some good banter but I also have a soft heart. I love the outdoors, working out at the gym and some good binge shows. But, obviously I’m feeling very unfulfilled at home.

What I’m looking for: A genuine, strong man with values. An outgoing personality. An attractive, clean man with an edge. I’m not interested in competing for your time with other women (aside from the obvious). I need someone romantic that wants to dive deep into our lives. No secrets. I don’t take a single ounce of trust for granted and I’d expect the same in return. I want someone that can make jokes about the most random things to make me laugh. Being interested in sports is a big plus. And a gym goer is kind of obvious, because I need to feel that safety net.

I’m a great person that is ready to fulfill someone’s life. To make them feel like the only man on earth. I’ll treat you like a king if you treat me like a queen.

Married professional… dipping a toe into the unknown and seeing what kind of connections might be out there. Life is complicated sometimes, and despite putting real effort into improving my marriage, things have felt stagnant and unfulfilling for a while now. So I’m hoping to meet someone genuine, emotionally intelligent, and easy to connect with — maybe someone who understands that life doesn’t always fit neatly into a box.

A little about me: I’m active, adventurous, and happiest outdoors or trying something new. I love good conversation, cooking for people I care about, spontaneous plans, learning new things, and laughing until my stomach hurts. I’m laid back personality-wise, but ambitious, motivated, and full of energy.

Not putting pressure on anything or forcing a label — just curious to see if there’s someone out there who feels like a natural fit for my situation… and vice versa.

If you message me, skip the “hey” and tell me:
How did you spend your last Sunday? And what’s something you genuinely find attractive in a potential connection on here?

Southern belle with a soft heart and a curious side. I’m sweet, kind, and genuine. 5ft, mixed race with long dark hair, dark eyes, freckles, and a curvy build. I’ve only ever been with one man, and I’m ready to explore something new with the right person. I’m currently married but looking for some magic in my life with someone new.

I’m looking for a discreet connection with someone who values chemistry, respect, and emotional safety. I lean more vanilla but love passion, deep kisses, and lots of affection. I’m a cuddle girl through and through, and I want to feel comfortable, cared for, and a little spoiled. very much princess energy 💕

If you’re attentive, patient, and know how to make a woman feel safe and desired, we’ll get along just fine.

I am married and not looking to change anyone's situations but need help in a dead bedroom.

I would love someone 45+ that understands the Dd/bg dynamic without me having to explain everything. I am not a Little, I just love the power play and dynamic of the roles. I was introduced to the Dd/bg situations years ago and have been wanting to get back into that kind of relationship but have had no luck.

I am not just looking for a fuck buddy, I want good morning and good nights, asking about my day and vice versa, maybe telling me what to wear for the day, etc. ( Think Secretary with James Spader and Maggie Gyllenhaal.) I understand life will get in the way at times but i found that if you really want something you make time for it.

I am a submissive looking for the right Dom without having to get into the mess of other apps. I also enjoy fun banter, with conversation and feeling butterflies when I see a message from you.

If you have read this far, I compliment you because many do not read at all and many will ignore my age desires that I said in the beginning of this message.

Hi! As the title suggests I’m a 34 year old woman. I have three youngish kids, and I live north of the city.

I’ve done this once before and found a relationship with a truly wonderful man on this subreddit. We broke up because he’s trying to save his marriage, and I still miss him, but while I might still glance back at that door from time to time, it’s closed. When someone chooses to leave my life willingly, no matter how noble the reason, I take that choice seriously and move on. That being said, I would like to take things slow because of that recent heartbreak.

Outside of all the normal activities that come with being a soccer mom in the suburbs, I also love Harry Potter (bonus points if you look like Draco Malfoy), wine, strength training, going to concerts and out with friends, and playing devils advocate whenever possible because banter is fun and intelligence is sexy. I work a professional job with loose ties to the political climate so if politics aren’t your thing, you’ll probably get annoyed with me fast as I love to complain about our president.

One big thing I’m missing at home, is physical attraction. I’m petite and in shape and probably would describe myself as cute? But im super open to sharing photos early because one of the things I loved about my ex was how physically attracted I was to him. Chemistry and mental compatibility play a part in that too of course but wow was it fun to just look at him and be like okay you’re hot lol.

Related to that, I’m also interested in dom/sub dynamics- inexperienced, but interested.

Cheers to hoping lightening strikes twice for me in this sub. 🥂

Hello 👋 happy Tuesday night. I hope this message finds you well. I am a 36 f married mom of two. Stay at home mom (I homeschool the kids).

I'm going to bare it all here.... I'm a marriage where everything is uhmazing ... except one area. Its not a dead bead room situation. Its bland, vanilla, think "Groundhogs Day". I'm 5'4, BBW Curvey,reddish hair, brown eyes, latina, tattoos, i swear like a sailor too lol.

I'm what you call a cake eater lol ...

I miss the excitement of a good Sir/Dom. Flirting, someone that can keep up with my drive and silly bratty side, and even keep me in line with just a look heehee. I need a gentleman that understands my house affairs come first before our pocket fun.

I crave the connection that comes along with trust and communication, and a simple yes or no and no judgment if we don't align.

If you're still with me and my random ramble send me a dm and tell me a little bit about you.

I do skip messages that just say hey ...

If this ever leads to in person I don't drive . . .

P.s. please be older than me (36)

Xoxo Bunni.

Let’s face it: affairs are about fantasy. I’ve tried, REALLY tried, to be open to all possibilities, but in the end I just end up disappointed and unsatisfied when deep down I know what I want but am afraid to ask for fear of being thought unreasonable. 

So I’ve decided I’m just going to put it all out there and describe my ideal candidate. I know it’s not likely I’ll find him on Reddit, and I’ll probably delete this quickly, but fuck it, what do I have to lose??

My ideal man: 
*35-50 age range
*Doesn’t need to be perfectly fit, but I adore  muscle-y arms and chest 🙈
*Full head of hair
*Clean shaven
*Great at conversation and subtle flirting, with a sharp wit—FYI, constantly being sarcastic or mean isn’t the same thing
*Has kids
*Centrist to leftist but absolutely no right-wing conservatives
*Has flexibility and independence in their life; able to maintain a regular meeting cadence

A little about me: woman, mom, 5’2, 130 lbs, brown hair and eyes. I like coffee, books, really spicy food, all different sorts of music, airports, and I kind of really want to get into birding 😅. I hate seltzer, because I don’t want to waste my time with a drink that almost tastes like something but also doesn’t give you the courtesy of tasting like nothing. DM me for more super hot takes that are actually boring AF 😂. 

St. Cloud, MN area only. Business owner looking for a professional or fellow business owner who’s intelligent, charismatic, witty, and respectful.

Discretion is non-negotiable and extremely important. I appreciate good conversation, sarcasm, quick wit, ambition, and someone who understands boundaries while still enjoying the thrill of connection.

Physical chemistry matters too, so let’s be adults and trade pics early. Not rushing anything. Let’s talk first and see where it goes.

I’m realizing lately that I want to be able to connect and have things in common with my AP, talking about work and politics only goes so far. So, here’s what I’m into:

Video games, like Civ6, league of legends, and recently Pokopia

Music: punk, emo, alt rock. I’m a millennial, so Blink182 still has a place in my heart. Anyone listen to Capstan or Microwave?

I just became a plant mom, so if you know how to take care of a tomato plant, hit me up.

Sarcasm, tattoos, nihilism, cute animals, Netflix series that have not yet been cancelled, and gallows humor. I posted recently on a different sub but didn’t get a lot of people that seem to have similar interests as me, but maybe some of you on this sub might?

Physical stuff: white/HWP/dark features/fairly short. Attraction is important to everyone so we can exchange pics early to not waste each others time

And yes married as per the subreddit requirements 😌

My post history isn’t hidden so take a look 🤷🏻‍♀️