u/DoctorPopping

Howdy. I go by Doc. I'm a soft/pleasure dom. I don't get much out of being harsh or inflicting pain. The opposite in fact. Nothing turns me on more than turning people on. So I'm looking for someone to have a little fun with.

Why me over everyone else? Well for one I offer a voice sample so you can know what I sound like before agreeing to anything. I use an actual microphone not just earbuds or my phone. Because I want people to hear me as clearly as possible. I'm also pretty confident about my stamina. For me it's not about finishing. I like to do it at the same time as my partner so I can keep it going for as long as you need.

So if this sounds like the kind of thing you're interested in, don't be shy. Shoot me a message. I prefer to use discord for voice (and it's just better as a text chat platform) so I'll probably want to move to there. And if you're not but you read this far anyway, I hope you can find someone to give you what you're looking for.

Howdy. I go by Doc online. I'm a soft/pleasure dom. And I'm looking for people I vibe with. I'm not able to get out and socialize much since I work the night shift, so hoping I can find some like minded people on reddit.

Kink is a pretty important part of my life, which is why I'm posting here and not on r4r. It's not just something I engage in with others, it's a journey of self discovery. One that I've been on for over 10 years now. I try to carry myself with a confidence gained my self exploration and people in the lifestyle have told me they got the feeling I was a dom from it before kink ever came up. I consider myself a soft dom, and by that I mean I prefer to motivate with pleasure and rewards rather than pain and threats. The satisfaction of knowing someone submits willingly because of the pleasure you bring them just cannot be beat. Probably pretty obvious why I'm a pleasure dom as well. Nothing brings me greater satisfaction than driving my partner absolutely crazy. A short and by no means extensive list of what I'm in to includes praise, light degradation (usually used alongside praise, ex. my pretty little slut), phone sex, remote toys, edging, orgasm control, spanking, light choking, and overstim.

Outside of kink I try to present myself to strangers as a hard ass grump, but once you get to know me I'm a softie. I hate people as a whole, but like individual people. Hobby wise I am very much a nerd. I play video games, board games, card games, into anime/manga, sci fi, fantasy, have a vested interest in technology. Style wise I'm kind of alt. Long hair for a guy, usually worn in a bun. Try to keep my nails on the longer side, paint them occasionally. One piercing but plan on getting more, love spiky earrings and chains. Plan on getting a couple of tattoos. My nerd hyperfixations are politics, focusing more on the criminal justice side of things, technology, and the intersection of the two cybersecurity. On that note I am pretty left leaning. If you are conservative, moderate, or apolitical we probably will not get along.

Okay but you may be wondering what am I actually looking for? That's a good question. And my answer is fuck if I know. A relationship might be nice, but I wouldn't say no to something more casual or just kinky friendship. As far as my type, I tend to be drawn to intelligence and humor. Though really, who isn't? Physically my type is alt/goth girls. Though I've had plenty of surprising connections form with people it seems like I probably wouldn't get along with. So if you feel like we might get along don't be shy and send me a message. And if you don't, well thanks for getting this far anyway, and I hope you do find what you are looking for.

Howdy, I go by Doc online. Now the astute among you may notice that that's not a real name. You'd be correct. Moving on. (This is my kind of humor, so if you didn't find that at least a little humorous I will probably get annoying before long.) Jokes aside, I'm a fairly typical nerd/IT guy. 6 Feet tall. A little on the large side (I think it's the hot kind of bear/dad bod large, but I'm biased so take that with a grain of salt), long hair worn primarily in a bun, short beard, thick rimmed glasses.
I am a soft dom and a pleasure dom. Think I've been that way subconsciously for longer than I've been aware. But I first became aware of it at the end of high school. And since then it has been an irreplaceable part of my life. I carry myself with a confidence gained through this journey of self discovery. I am unapologetically me and if people don't like that, oh well. While I do consider myself a dom, I am definitely not a sadist. I get nothing out of inflicting pain, with the sole exception being light pain/discomfort for the sake of pleasure. Stuff like spanking, firm grabs, light choking. That kind of thing that enhances the pleasure. I much prefer the mental aspects of BDSM. Prodding at someone's facade pointing out how depraved they are for liking such twisted acts being done to them. Playing dumb so they spell out exactly what they want me to do to them before I actually it. Inflicting so much pleasure on someone they squirm uncomfortably and plead for me to stop. That kind of thing.|
I'm into a lot of the stereotypical nerd stuff. Tech (I work in tech, actually), video games, card games, anime/manga, sci fi/fantasy, dnd. I love camping but haven't had the opportunity to go in years. Also been wanting to get back into rollerblading. And of course doting on my cat. She is my daughter. I don't mean that in a she is my pet and I care for her as a cat dad way. I mean She is my daughter. I gave birth to her and love her as deeply as a parent loves a child and will fight anyone who tries to tell me it's not the same. I would take a bullet for her. I love music, though really who doesn't. But I played instruments for 8 years in school so I feel like my appreciation runs deeper than the average person's. Though maybe I'm just too far up my own ass, who knows? Mostly I listen to power metal and progressive metal. But really anything with emotion can get me going. Love punk, emo, post hardcore, mathcore, mathrock, jazz. And will listen to almost anything that has soul. I have a political degree and I refuse to shut up about it because being apolitical is tacitly agreeing to the status quo and the status quo is FUCKED. So fuck trump. Fuck ice. Fuck conservatives. Fuck moderates/centrists/apolitical (see previous statement about the status quo). Fuck fascists. Fuck (and punch) nazis. Fuck israel. Trans rights are human rights. ACAB. Be gay. Do crime. Probably gives you a pretty good idea of where I stand politically. Oh and fuck gen AI too while we're at it. I hate organized religion. Specifically the religion, not necessarily the people that practice it. Organized religions have been bastardized to push an agenda. I think the further back into spiritual genealogy you go the closer you get to the truth of the world. So I consider myself a practitioner of animistic neoshamanism. Though it's probably just easier to think of me as agnostic/spiritual with extra steps.
Here's a few things some people may consider red flags/dealbreakers. I work nights so I'm not the most responsive via text during normal people hours. I tend to go out of my way for people when the vibe is right, though. Good conversation is worth losing sleep for. My previously mentioned largeness. I do have a gut and I am working on it but it's a slow and difficult process. Though I don't ever see myself being the kind of fit you see from clothes models. I like being large and powerful and think bears and dad bods are fucking hot. I am ambiamorous. For most people that is functionally no different than being poly, but monogamy is on the table for the right people. I currently have no serious partners. Just a few flirty friendships. (I will always flirt platonically with the homies.) I have no problem separating sex and feelings. I love sex. Of course it's better when it's with someone you share a deep bond with. But even without that sex is still great. So I don't shy away from things of a more casual nature or things getting sexual with someone I am in the process of getting to know. Though I don't push for the latter if that's not what they're into, of course.
So if you liked this long rambly stream of consciousness I spent like an hour on instead of work feel free to reach out. I don't bite without consent. And if you didn't, well thanks for reading this far anyway. I hope you find what you're looking for because everyone deserves happiness. Or at least some good kinky fun.

Howdy there. I go by Doc. And nothing turns me on more than bringing someone pleasure. Other than also being able to hear it. Which is why phone sex is pretty ideal for me. Like I mentioned in the title I have a voice sample on my profile you can listen to so you can know what I sound like before committing to anything. And I'm pretty confident with my stamina. It's actually pretty difficult for me to finish so I can keep it going for as long as you won't. Not going to just cum after two minutes, block you, and leave you unsatisfied. So if you like the sound of that, and the sound of my voice, feel free to shoot me a message. I don't bite without consent.

Howdy there. I go by Doc. I fucking love pleasure. Nothing gets me hotter than hearing someone's moans and knowing I'm the cause. Knowing I made you cum (hopefully multiple times) is often better than making myself cum. Which is good because it can be difficult. Though that's the opposite of a problem for you, I can keep going as long as you want. There's a voice sample on my profile you can listen to if you want to know what I sound like.
Feel free to shoot me a message and we can have some fun.