Most guys optimize themselves out of actually ever taking action towards getting laid, because they’re too busy figuring out what the “optimal strat” is for meeting women.

Spoiler alert, all of them work. Your brain is just in information overload from thinking and reading about this too much.

In my opinion, the following formula is the best way to figure out what you actually need to focus on right now to get laid and start getting consistent results.

And yes, I did structure it like a sales funnel because I’m autistic as fuck. 

1 - Top of funnel

Goal: Be in a situation where you talk to a real human female woman and get her contact information so you can keep talking. 

You can do this with:

Dating apps, bars, clubs, hobby groups, friend groups, work, school, social events, cold approach, cold DM’s on Instagram

All of the things I listed above WORK. All of them. If you are able to interact with a woman, you’re able to build attraction and ask them on a date. 

 Anyone that tells you cold-approach is dead is selling you an online dating course. Anyone that tells you dating apps are dead, is selling you a cold approach course.

The most important thing you do here is pick the ones you’re most naturally inclined towards and stick with learning them.  

If you’re extroverted and love to drink and party, learn to cold approach and run nightgame.

If you’re introverted and get burnt out from cold approaching or getting shitfaced at clubs (like me), dating apps, friend groups and hobby groups are your best bet. I focus mostly on the apps. 

All of these “methods” will have slightly different things and skills you’ll need to learn and focus on. 

Again, all of them work. The only way to guarantee no results is if you switch what you’re doing every couple of months because some retard on reddit promised you it’s the best way to get laid.

2 - Middle of funnel

Goal: Set up a time and place for meeting a woman 1-on-1, making romantic and sexual interest clear to her. 

Middle of funnel is arguably the hardest part of game for most guys. In this stage, your job is to get the woman interested enough in you to go on a date. 

In reality though, if you can just not be weird as fuck and seem kind of confident, you’ll be above average in this step. 

This part is nowadays mostly done through text, either on a dating app or once you’ve gotten a girl’s number. 

Everytime a guy says “why bother learning text-game”, I know they’re most likely hoeless, since this part of the funnel can’t be skipped in 90% of cases in modern times. 

If you’re going for one night stands from clubs, then this part takes place in person, but most beginners shouldn’t try to do that yet.

Why?

If you’re inexperienced with women, a mix of booze and sloppy sex with a stranger will usually end with a limp dick and destroyed self confidence. You’ll also destroy your health and wallet. Just my opinion though. 

Some tips for text-game, I have more in-depth stuff on my other posts:

• Don’t be needy and blow up her phone.
• Don’t be weird and overly sexual.
• Push the conversation forward towards a date and make your intentions clear.
• Match her energy, if she sends one word responses, don’t send paragraphs. 
• Tease her and say anything else than “how are you” constantly.

 

3 - Bottom of the funnel

Goal: Have a successful date with a girl. Whether that means a hookup, fwb situation, kissing her on the date, is up to you and your current progress.

This is part is dictated by how you behave on the date. For the most part, you just need to go on a lot of dates. When humans do a lot of something, they start seeing repeating patterns in that thing and learn it. My first 10 or so dates went dogshit, but you get used to it and learn.

Nowadays I legitimately have about a 90% success rate in fucking a girl after the first date. It’s not because I’m super charismatic or hot, I’ve just gone on a TON of first dates. 

Besides just doing it a lot, here are my top tips for making sure a date goes well:

• Venue should be chill and laid back. No dinner dates EVER. My go-to is a coffee shop, or drinks at a nice bar. I literally have 1 coffee shop where I take 90% of my dates. I know where to sit, how to order, what to order so I don’t have any autistic moments. Even small things like this will make you less anxious, since you’re going into a familiar environment. 
• Sit next to her, not across. This sounds weird to all beginners but once they try it, they get it. Less awkward and “interview-like”, you can peoplewatch and comment on random shit around you together, and it’s more natural and easier to touch her.
• Touch her. When you meet, hug her. When you go in, put your hand on her back. Touch her hand, shoulder, graze her thigh when you’re talking, stay close to her. If you feel anxious, great. That’s sexual tension, you just aren’t used to feeling it. This is the most critical piece of advice I can ever give. Touch builds attraction.

 

Your looks, confidence, status, height and all that other shit we love to complain about will either amplify or suppress the effectiveness of each of these steps.

But the reality is most guys have all these steps fucked up, so none of the other stuff matters at all. I’m skinny like an auschwitz prisoner and have a receding hairline, I can tell you that shit matters a lot less than you think. I get way more women now than when I had a full head of hair lol. 

Go through the funnel above and figure out where you’re fucking up right now. Do them in order, there’s literally no point in worrying about what to say on a date if you aren’t even talking to women.  

If you aren’t actively talking to women, you need to solve step 1 of the funnel. Figure out what method is most natural to you and learn it. 

If you’re actively talking to women but can’t go on dates, you need to fix step 2 of the funnel. Learn text game or in-person game for clubs etc. 

If you’re going on dates but they always go shit, you need to fix step 3. Start doing post game reviews with yourself after every date and try to identify what you’re fucking up.  Develop your confidence, personality and a strong identity. Yeah, that shit actually works, it’s not just cope. 

Most likely if you’re having nice convos on the date but they just “don’t feel chemistry”, you’re probably sticking to safe topics and not touching them. Be brave and start experimenting.

This is my way of solving 90% of dating issues, hopefully it helps some of ya’ll unfuck your brain and take some action.