u/DropOfDesire

How should a married woman tell her husband about wanting to open up the marriage? About wanting to experience another man?

It's almost certain to blow up the marriage.

I had an arranged marriage and can say that my husband is a wonderful man. I love him without a doubt. He has many good qualities and I've been happy except one thing. But it's a big factor.

Sexual satisfaction is low because he is not a good lover. While we have had an active sex life after marriage and fortunately we have privacy, he doesn't get me off. He tends to think that what he does is sufficient to make me orgasm and he tends to enjoy himself and then sleep. While it feels good during sex it doesn't make me climax.

I tried to guide him to improve our sex life. But it didn't lead to much improvement. I think he probably has one direction mind when it comes to sex and that's blowing his own load.

I thought many times to just tell him that he has never made me orgasm. And that needs to listen to my instructions and needs to learn how to be better. But I shy away from saying it. Subtle ways of improving him didn't work and I chicken out of saying it directly.

The thing which worries me most is that my unspent desire is projecting fantasies which are dangerous. I feel lust towards other men. While I want to have sex with my husband, I fantasise about others while touching myself.

I feel disappointed in him that he isn't able to tell that I don't climax. I feel I should not have to tell him that. He should have asked me and made efforts to care about my pleasure. I'm sorry but I judge him for this.

I am fighting with desires for other men. Men who might take interest in my pleasure and would give me what I need. It feels like a primal urge that I feel for a one of his friend's among others.

Of course I'd never cheat. I would not do anything to hurt my marriage or husband. I secretly touch myself to get pleasure. I use reddit as an outlet. I've been a horny and dirty wife in my fantasies. But I can't be that in real life.

I feel frustrated.

Anyone else feel totally like an animal when ovulating.

I want to get fucked so bad. I even get tempted by other men.

It's like all common sense goes away. Only lust is there.

It's been many months of arranged marriage. He hasn't made me orgasm. Almost every night he uses my body for his satisfaction. After he gets his pleasure he is done. He doesn't perform for a 2nd round.

I'm craving a good sex session. Fucked good by a real man till my legs shake.

I'm just watching eye candy men and getting wet in the panty. But I'm in heat and want one to bang my brains out.

Do you feel sexual attraction to other men or women?

Do you feel not completely satisfied by your husband or wife?

How do you cope with that?

Once again a short session of sex which gets him to orgasm. And after 1 round he is asleep.

I'm lying here in bed. I want my legs to be shaking. But they aren't.

He loses interest after 1 ejaculation. Doesn't do it multiple times.

Marriage is fairly new only a few months. It was an arranged marriage and things were a bit slow to start. Neither of us had any experience before.

But I want some more excitement. So far things haven't been as pleasurable as I imagined. Trying to communicate with my husband.

As of yet we both did the basic sex position only.

I'm wondering if other positions actually do enhance pleasure. Is an orgasm more likely in certain position?

I also want my husband to be more open and direct in talking about sex. He tends to be reserved and shy. If we can express desire more openly it could help.

I also want him to improve his stamina and performance.