u/Dry-Equipment-7608

Hi everyone, my name is Josh (28M) and ive been with my wife (28F) now since 2015. We have a very traditional relationship, lots of friends, great jobs, etc. We are conventionally attractive, in great shape, and so I think shes worried about other peoples possible perceptions if our friends and family found out. The sex is good when we have it but at times theres long gaps between our sex. We lost our virginities to eachother back in high school so she has a level of comfort with me that I think shes afraid she wouldnt have with anyone else. Lately ive been contributing to that lack of sex because i have been hoping the lack of sex might push her closer to the idea of finding a ‘Bull’. We have discussed this a few times before, ive openly discussed my fantasy of her getting consistently great sex with her and the first time i brought (about 5 years ago now) this up she was very surprised but supportive. She said she thought the idea was hot but not something she thinks would be smart to try actually. I accepted her answer for a few years but about a year ago i brought it up again and similarly she was supportive but reiterated she didnt want to fuck anyone else. I have been consistently getting off to this idea for a half a decade now and I feel its time to start accepting who I am. Any advice?

Here is some background: i (28M) have been with the love of my life (28F) since we were 16 years old. A lot has changed in those 11 years, most notably we got married about 4 years ago and ive since got into the idea of my wife being a hotwife. From the start it had nothing to do with me fucking other women or anything like that, I am completely fine with the idea of her being open and myself monogamous. These feels began to develop around 5-6 years ago. I’ve always been into submissive things, most notably feet. Ive always had a foot fetish and so that has led us to experiment here and there with some femdom type of play. Around the time we were getting married, i first brought up the idea to her and she found it hot but also was clear that its not something she thinks would be good for the relationship. At that point i pretty much excepted that was it but its been years and its still one of the only things I think about sexually. Just looking for some advice