Got flat out rejected, don’t know how to feel
Context:
Was out today morning after my coffee. Saw a girl at the park bench reading. I did 3 second rule and went straight in, maybe I did give a smile or maybe I did not I’m not sure of the specifics but I definitely got a bit nervous.
Interaction:
Me: Hi, how’s it going?
She (confused, guard up): Hi
Me: I was walking by and saw you here, and I think youre cute
She (still guard up, confused annoyed look): Thanks
Me (already fell in her frame, nervous, mixed reaction, maybe weird face expressio lol): What book are you reading, I see you have a kindle
She (guard up, confused, not making eye contact): Yeah, its about time travel
Me (lost frame, but persisted): Oh cool, I’m reading this book (showed her my book), its about yada yada yada
She (confused, looking away): Yeah, nice, cool
Me (i know its wraps but I want to practice asking them out even though its a reject. i want to be verbally rejected instead of a regret of afterthought of would have could have should have): Can I grab your number and take you out to coffee sometime, maybe over here at this cafe.
She: No, sorry
Me: No worries, thanks
Learnings:
- Smile more
- Be more confident with tonality and approach with certainty and go in 100%
- Chill out and accept this is how its going to be like for the most part and take it easy
- Start applying more principles like push-pull and etc
- Relax and practice meditations to not fumble your words out of nervousness
I know it was a weak approach but also its been a while since I got a flat rejection of no, sorry. Instead of a “i have a bf” lol. Idk if I have to be happy or sad or just indifferent. I’m pretty proud of myself. But the slow lingering after thought and low self esteem self talk is starting to creep in, “you were a fool” “you ugly” “she rejected you flat out, forget about ever getting one” and etc etc