u/EastCoast_Hank

For those of you who come from a family of nudists, how far does it extend?

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You see a lot of posts from newbie and wannabe nudists on Reddit that ask what being a nudist is like, what they should know, etc, and there is usually a comment that says something along the lines of “It’s exactly like being who you are now, except naked”/“Don’t do anything naked you wouldn’t do clothed”/“Nudists never do anything textiles don’t do”/etc, and while these are a good general primer for avoiding bad behaviors I think they are largely untrue statements.

Over time, especially time spent with the same people, being a nudist lends itself to different behaviors and comfort levels that non-nudists would never do or don’t have, and no, I’M NOT TALKING ABOUT SWINGING/EXHIBITIONISM. 

Examples:

Shared showers - Many nudists have no issue comfortably sharing a shower, private or public, with another nudist they know, sometimes multiple, friends and family alike, because seeing them nude is no longer an issue. To a non-nudist, the idea of sharing a shower with someone other than a partner or for a medical reason would be hard to imagine. 

Comfortability with touching specific areas with sun tan lotion/aloe/etc - It is common, I have observed, for nudists to be okay with someone else who is not their significant other applying sun tan lotion to their rear end, groins or possibly their breasts when at the beach or the pool. Non-nudists would never even think to do this because those areas are covered by a bathing suit, but as nudists, we desexualize these areas of the bodies are therefore touching them in a non-stimulating context is acceptable to many. 

Male arousal becoming a non-issue - I phrased this one in a particular way because it’s a particular thing. Although obviously male arousal is considered unacceptable at family resorts, it has been essentially a non-issue in every nudist circle or friends group I’ve ever been a part of that hangs out often in personal residences. This would never be the case in a textile home or setting. If you walked out in front of a bunch of family or friends pitching a tent in your boxer shorts or swimming trunks, everyone would be telling you it’s inappropriate or at the least, look away from you. However, when everyone is nude all the time, most people don’t care as long as you ignore it and in fact, will probably get used to seeing it over time to the point where it is barely acknowledged.

Higher acceptance of comments from others on the body - This is probably the least common of all, but it does happen. Most non-nudists, especially women, would likely find a comment, even a positive one about something like their rear end or their overall figure extremely inappropriate coming from a friend or family member, but let’s say they’ve been going to the gym and the difference is noticeable - an encouraging or complimentary comment from a friend or family member who is used to seeing them nude might land softer and be seen as a nice affirmation. Additionally, something like comfort with conversations with friends and family about piercings on nipples or genitals or about pubic grooming situations probably never happen at all amongst textiles in any context, but in a nudist home, might be more acceptable whether complimentary, simply referential or otherwise.

Nudists are textiles are not “exactly the same, but naked” like many like to say. There is a different amount of comfort that becomes unlocked when you spent a lot of time nude with other nudists. I think that the phrase “Don’t do anything naked you wouldn’t do clothed” is more a reference to things are agreeably inappropriate to any peoples like unwanted sexual comments, staring, and unwanted touching and I sort of wish people would stop saying this.

Do you agree? Can you think of other example of things that are unique to the nudist world that would simply never occur for textiles/non-nudists?

I got a lot of traffic to my page today due to a comment I left recently regarding my brother's ex girlfriend being my gf and I's roommate and the fact that we are all nudists. Many people are DMing me asking how this happened, what the experience is like, etc, so I will explain in a summarized post and open the floor for others.

To make a very very long story very short, she moved in with my brother and I 5 years ago when I was the only nudist in the house. It turned out that she had her own interest in nudism independently and after accidentally catching each other walking around nude at night, we just decided to dive in to the lifestyle to make it easier for everyone and this is how the three of us lived for over 3 years until she and my brother unfortunately broke up (for reason I will not include, that have nothing do with me or nudism). I actually documented this over the course of many posts over the years.

At that point, my brother decided to move in with our father who is elderly and ill, and my girlfriend, also a nudist, took his place in the house. His ex did not want to move back to her family home because she did not feel she could be nude there comfortably. My gf and my brother's ex are very close friends and I consider her like a sister. She's also friends with my cousin and her boyfriend who occasionally come for extended visits so she feels like part of the family. Going nude with her all the time is never awkward in any way and the fact that she's my brother's ex girlfriend is basically irrelevant. We are all extremely comfortable here and our bond through nudism has allowed us to be very emotionally and intellectually honest with each other over the years, which is part of why she's so dear to me as a friend. Nobody has anything to hide and there is never any jealousy.

I am curious if any other nudists here have had similar positive nudism experiences they would like to share regarding a sister or brother in law, or the significant other of a sibling or other relative of any kind that helped strengthen their bond. It's a particular kind of relationship to have with someone as a nudist but it's a wonderful thing when it happens.

My gf and I of 4 years took a visit to my father's house this week because he's been very ill and in and out of the hospital. Just wanted to give him a pleasant surprise.

She has been to his home many times and even though my brother and I are nude, and his ex girlfriend and our cousin both went nude there, she prefers to keep her bottoms on when visiting his home. To be clear, I'm not shaming this or trying to tell her what to do. I find it interesting. I've asked her why and she says that with him, it's "just different", which I sort of understand. Different bodily autonomy around different people based on relationship and comfort level. Even though he has seen her full nude before she continues to wear underwear or bikini bottoms around him for her own personal reasons.

I've talked to a large amount of people about their family situations here on nudist Reddit over the years and this seems to be a common pattern -- nudist or nudist-participating women still retaining some of their textile ways around their father-in-law or their significant other's father. I am endlessly fascinated by the psychology behind this.

I am curious how nudist women think about this. Nudist women, how comfortable are you nude around your FIL/SO's father?

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Look, I have as high a sex drive as anyone else and I understand that there's basically nothing to be done about Gunnison being a hub for swingers and LGBT men that love to cruise (not being derogatory...that's what happens), but with everything I hear/read/see about Sandy Hook in general losing funding, the amenities at Gunnison being neglected, and attendance being lower than in past years, folks need to understand now more than ever that Gunnison is, after all is said and done, a family friendly beach.

I know it's difficult for some to comprehend the idea of going with family/in-laws, etc, but some people, nudists or otherwise, do indeed do it, such as myself. This includes parents who bring their underage children with them. One or two more instances of unsavory characters acting inappropriately that the authorities get wind of and the National Park Service can shut it all down if they really want to, or at the very least take away its designation as a clothing optional place.

I'm a very sex positive nudist and personal in general and I don't really care what anyone does in a private space. If folks want to meet others on the beach and then go back to the hotel and have a circle jerk, more power to you, but please keep it all off the beach, *NOW MORE THAN EVER*

And yes, this includes wearing cages and plugs

I was thinking about this tonight due to a comment I left on another thread where I was remembering a woman I knew in college named Drea, who would host her house for nude game nights my ex and I would attend. She was in her 50s and she apparently came from a large extended family of nudists. In the year or so I knew her I literally never saw her wear a single article of clothing and literally everyone who knew her saw her naked - family, friends, mail man, repair service people, coworkers that came over, in laws, any visitors, everyone. She was truly dedicated to nudism.

As deep in it as I am, even I am not like this. I usually dress at least for repair service people and mail men, and some selected friends. Have you ever known anyone like this?

Who was/is the most fearless, dedicated nudist you've ever known?

I have lived in my house in upstate NY USA for 5 years and we are very lucky that we only have a neighboring house on one side of the house. For 3 years our neighbor was a disabled elderly man and his adult son and they never gave us any issues. Myself, my brother, our girlfriends, our other family members or any other guests we had were able to use the pool and the back deck in the nude without any issues from the son, who would occasionally give us a wave or a thumbs up, but never bothered us. They then left the house, which was later under municipal ownership for a year or so because it had mold and needed remodeling.

Now, after being on the market, I am told by the realtor it has been sold and there is a family moving in - two parents, a son and a daughter. I didn't ask their ages because I didn't want to come off as a creep, but now I am worried about our backyard becoming a problem.

My fence is already pretty high and I legally own my property, which gives myself and my house mates (my girlfriend and our roommate, her close friend) protected legal grounds to be nude, but going into the summer I am anticipating potential conflicts with this new family.

Any advice on how to deal with the situation as civilly as possible will be appreciated, or if anyone has a similar story you can share, thanks in advance!!