Am I too big for this?
This might be a long post, and I'm sorry about that, but I really could use some advice. So here's my issue:
I have been very interrested in chastity for years now, and I have gotten a few cages in the past. The first, I had no idea what I was getting, and ended up with something that was way too small for me, I couldn't get it on, and I actually got afraid that I got a ball stuck in it and would have to go to the hospital. Thankfully that didn't happen, but that's where I learned that these things aren't one size fits all (I was young and dumb, I know.)
I then got a second one a while later, on the bigger side. Biggest ring I could get for a reasonable price, actually. This one I could put on, but it was really uncomfortable, to the point of being painful after a few minutes. I couldn't close my legs together, and I could only walk with my legs spread and wide steps, picture an old cartoon cowboy. Obviously, that one was a no go as well.
From here, I did a bit more research on finding a cage that fits me, and I found a good page that gave instructions on how to mesure yourself properly. So I mesured myself, and for the actual cage, everything's great, I would end up with a slightly bigger than average one.
The issue comes from the ring itself. According to the mesure, I would need a ring that is around 73mm diameter. Way bigger than average, and a size that I have never found a place that sold rings that wide.
I did find a few websites that were more specialized and sold bigger rings, but those could only be matched with cages that were way too big for me, like commicaly large, I don't think I could wear that under jeans without everyone knowing at a single glance.
I did also try chastety belts, but they're not the same. They either are too big and heavy, or I get to a point where I either have to leave them really tight, where they dig in my skin and cause discomfort, or more loose, which sucks also because even when locked, I can tug them down and off with little effort. Hell, the pne I got was also poorly designed, if I want to use the bathroom in any way, I have to take the whole thing off, which, you know, not ideal.
I also know there's a couple places oine that can make custom ones for your size, but those seem to be over 200, or even 300 usd, and I don't know if ai wanna spend that much money for something that I'm bot even sure would actually work.
So am I cooked? Am I just too big to comfortably be in chastety? Should I give up on this kink, or is there something else I can try, or anything that could help me lock myself up without feeling pain or compromising with a loose belt?