r/chastitytraining

Some of you may have seen my previous post about the first and only time me and my bf have tried chastity.

Since then we have had only one chat about it and he didn’t seem as enthusiastic as me.

However, I want to try it again. We are both off work tomorrow and Sunday so will have the whole weekend to have fun if he decides to say yes.

What I ask though is what should I entice him with for him to want to give it another shot as he seems indifferent about the whole kink now. I want him to be as into it as I am.

I'm at work at the moment in jeans and this is my first time ever wearing one. Don't know if I am being paranoid or not

So already hard to put the cage on when I’m really hard. But, when I finally get it on, it starts to push off with my boner. And won’t keep my dick compressed.

Hey friends. My wife and I have been exploring chastity these past few months and it’s been amazing to say the least. We are both way more connected. Horny. Loving. I noticed how much I compliment her and she loves it. How much our energy has been charged and changed.

My wife wondered if it hurt but it feels so good and right. So snug and safe in his cage. It just feels natural.

We feel there’s a deep spiritual and somatic layer of chastity and are learning how much joy and healing rests in true submission, surrender, and authenticity.

I just wanted to say how grateful we are for this wonderful practice and it’s really made our love stronger. We suggest all couples struggling to try. After being more open about it with friends we found out many of our friends are doing the same. This is much more common than we think.

So I introduced my wife to chastity and she’s actually really liking it. We’ve been doing shorter sessions, a few hours here and there, slowly working toward longer lockups. I’m loving it overall, but there’s one part that’s harder than I thought.

She wants 100% control. I’m not allowed to put the cage on unless I ask her first and she says yes. The problem is my urge to lock comes and goes super fast. One hour I’m really into it and want to be locked, the next hour I have zero desire… and of course that’s usually when she decides I should lock up.

In my head it would feel easier if I could just lock myself when the urge hits, then hand the key over and stay locked until she decides to unlock me. The whole “I have to ask permission just to put it on” thing is not something I expected to struggle with.

Anyone else deal with a keyholder who wants complete control over when you lock, not just how long you stay locked? How did you handle the mismatch between your desire coming and going and her wanting full authority?

So, i was masturbating yesterday night while being quite tired. When finished i just layed in my bed scrolling tiktok and fell asleep, when i woke up today i couldn't find my key. (propably just lost somewhere stupid lmao)

I was wondering if there is a way to leave the cage without breaking it (budget is quite low, so i cant just afford to buy a new one) or should i (and how long) be waiting for the key to be found?

I have looked everywhere that seemed logical to look, and im still looking. fyi i havent been caged for longer than 24 hours cause its purely for masterbation reasons i use it.

Please help, kinda lost on what to do

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My girlfriend and I have recently started experimenting with chastity. It’s gone from wearing a cage for just a few hours at a time to being comfortable wearing it all day. At the moment, she locks me in in the morning, and I unlock before going to bed.

The one thing I’m still hesitant about is sleeping while wearing it. I have tried it but, I wake up with an erection almost every night, and I’m worried about the amount of strain the cage might put on things while I’m sleeping.

I’m also wondering whether regularly restricting erections overnight could somehow cause damage or affect my ability to get normal morning erections in the long term.

For those with more experience: is this something I should actually be concerned about, or am I overthinking it? Do you sleep with your cage?

My wife has had me locked and denied 24/7 for two weeks officially today. Sleeping has always been a challenge but is manageable. When I wake up with an erection I just go pee and then can go back to sleep. I kept reading just give it time and you body will adjust and you can sleep through the night. After two weeks I started to doubt that. Well it finally happened! My body made the adjustment and I did not get awoken by any night time erections lastnight. Shes getting ready to let me out but now but since I finally adjusted I don’t wanna lose my progress. But either way I’m pretty pumped!

I just got blue balls on day 2 and I don’t wanna unlock or have any type of penile orgasm, be it ruined or full.
I have an anal hook which milks my prostate very well.
Will milking my prostate relieve my blue balls a bit?
I’m aware of other methods like cold compress, exercising, distraction etc. I just wanna learn more about prostate milking.

But that's not my only question. First of all, every time I try to put it on, I end up getting hard. How can I manage to do that? I even tried taking a cold shower, but nothing helps... and I'd like to take it slowly, but my girlfriend wants me to try sleeping with it on. She's researched the subject more than I have and says she's "training me," but even she doesn't know what it would be like to sleep wearing it.

I know chastity is different for everyone, but still wanted to share our perspective which maybe some may find useful or relate to.

In our first couple of years of this adventure we never really strictly focused on the cage and the locking itself. Mainly due to practical reasons, because it really took a while before he was able to wear it comfortably and reliably, but also because the dynamic always felt much deeper and richer than just the aspect of locking. For us it was the attention and role shift in the bedroom - his masculinity became controlled and denied in the bedroom, his attention completely shifted to serving, and I felt that all his sexual energy was directed on me, which was a bit overwhelming at first, but only until I realized that it was indeed his honest energy and devotion which was also making him feel happy. Since then we both genuinely enjoy the dynamic.

And of course keeping him chastity caged was a big part of it, but I couldn't really imagine breaking this dynamic only because the cage was impractical at times. It feels like a more realistic view on the kink, with chastity being like a clear sign or a symbol of his role in the bedroom, not the other way around. I mean in other words, it's not the cage that prevents him being a man in the bedroom with me. It is his role in our marriage - he is a loving devoted husband who is kept attentive, aroused, and denied, and keeping him in chastity just only naturally suits and complements his role.

So that's just our small perspective, which I think really helped us to enjoy and explore it kinda more naturally. I also think it is the reason why I was so quick to be on board when he proposed the idea, because he didn't propose the physical cage, he proposed an exciting relationship play which with time became our actual preferred life style 😇

Curious to hear whether it is relatable, and would love to hear your perspective 😊

Hey as mentioned above the question ist pretty clear.
Im at the beginning of my chastity journey and have never been a person who precums a lot.
But I get jealous and so horny when I see someone leaking in their cage.
Is there a way to increase precum?

I'm looking for a new comfortable nubcage or flat cage for Locktober. Let me know if you have any suggestions on one. What is your favorite?

I realised i dont need chastity anymore to not touch my penis except for hygiene and peeing does it mean ive beaten chastity ? Ive been going on like this for months leaving my cage in the drawer i realised it made me ultra aware of my dick and hated it

Hi i already have some cages but i want to try a metal nub, i was thinking this one is ok, what do you think?

https://amzn.eu/d/0bDCjFgr

After talking about our kinks and sexual fantasies I brought up the idea of me being locked in chastity for her. She had never heard of it, but was willing to try it out for me. I excitedly bought a cage and some other toys she wanted, but when we tried it out I feel like I got too into the subspace and she ended up crying that we were "going too fast" with it. I unlock myself, and we have a long conversation about our sexual history, porn watching habits, and her ability to cum. She didn't like the cage I had bought, said it felt "weird" for me to have on but said she's willing to try it out later once she's ready.

Unfortunate but hopefully she comes around. :(

Any insight, advice, or sympathy welcome🙏

I'm looking for guides and articles that explain chastity but in a more mainstream/ non-domme way.

For example I've seen "Male Chastity: A Guide for Keyholders" by Lucy Fairbourne. While it's a great work, it emphasizes all the great ways a woman can control her man.

I looked at "Chastity: A Guide for Vanilla Wives" by Milyssa Morrisette and it seemed closer, but even the front cover has a woman with a stick, looking domme.

the "Secret to a Happy Marriage" by ella, is a bit better. But it focuses on chastity as a way to stop masturbation.

I saw a "Men's Health" article on it once (didn't get a chance to read it), but I'm looking for more of a view of why men want this that is more mainstream -- ie, about sexual play and experimenting and helping guys stay aroused and feel turned on without actual sex or even foreplay.

Anyone have any thoughts on where to find something like that?

So, I’m looking into chastity cages and I’m hoping to get some advice on ones that are good for discretion/can be easily concealed beneath clothing.

Like what is a good type of chastity cage that can be worn under your clothing to a 9-5 office job that won’t make much noise or clink around too much if you have metal one?

I am 23 years old, locked now pretty much 24/7 with my gf unlocking me for cleaning/shaving and for sex when she is in the mood. we were living in this mode for around a year, so chastity now feels so natural, that I often forget about it.

recently I introduced my girlfriend to my family - it was a usual family dinner, a little bit awkward since she's not the super social type. We decided to stay at my parents house because we'd both had a couple of glasses of alcohol.

at the morning, when we were preparing to leave, I wanted to borrow one of my younger brothers t-shirts (we are almost same size), as I was searching through his wardrobe I found box with his personal stuff - and there was chastity cage! it was shittiest piece of aliexpres-tier garbage, I am not sure, but if we are actually similar size it won't even fit properly.

should I confront him about this? wearing such a cage can be actually dangerous for him. I feel like I should buy him a normal one, but I am too afraid to actually tell him anything 😅