r/chastitytraining

I bought him his cage about a year ago and we love it I love the gentle dynamic change it made for us only have him locked every other weekend. But I think we are ready for more. I just have a hard time coming up with ways to games to play with it or punishments. He’s agreed he wants to take it deeper we just don’t know what direction to start. Any ideas would be appreciated!

My GF although a little confused, easily agreed to try chastity with me. I think I may have seemed a little too excited, as she is very anti porn. In her eyes any kink comes strictly from porn. I was so happy to be locked away; she even locked me in with the key. I told her she is in charge and I want her to know that this will be beneficial for both of us. I’m not sure how she feels. She obviously knows I have kinks and wants but I think she also sees it as an issue of being a sex addict, and not actually being attracted to her and wanting it to be about her. I will prove it to her in time.

How do I get her to want to lock me more often? I want her to tease me and make me stay locked at work, longer and longer periods of time. I struggle because obviously she is my girlfriend and not a domme. How do I get her to fuck me up and love me at the same time? ITS SO HOT.

I wish she kept me locked overnight and made me where it to work today.

I love this too much.

I'm not sure if this is a benefit or a curse, but it appears I may be too sensitive for the cage to act as an effective orgasm denial tool.

This isn't even about cheating the cage or cumming quickly from intentionally stimulating the cage.

I was with a partner the other day and was locked. I had locked that morning, and had dropped the keys with my partner before going to work that day so that we could banter and be playful throughout the day before getting together in the evening. So when we get together I'm worked up, but it's nothing crazy - maximum of 12 hours locked. She was going to peg me, so I wanted to make her cum first with my fingers. As I'm working on her, I'm getting worked up myself and I'm throbbing in the cage and getting turned on from her moans and reactions. As she is getting close to orgasm, I start to feel that familiar pressure building up, and all of a sudden I feel myself shoot a significant load out of the cage. At no point since we both got naked had either of us played with or really paid any attention to the cage. Both of my hands were occupied the entire time, so I couldn't play with it myself, and my partner was too involved in their own pleasure to be playing with it.

How can I effectively do orgasm denial when I can cum from just being turned on while fingering my partner? I've cum hands free plenty of times, but that usually includes something in my ass or something manipulating the cage. Here there was no direct physical stimulus at all.

I wanna buy my first cage, the idea of it thrills me but I can’t help but think it’s gonna hurt.
I’m not too worried about the tip, but the ring squishing my balls, which I imagine would be very painful.

Not really looking to spend more than $20 so I’ve been looking at some Amazon ones

So myself and probably you heard that you cant get hard when you are in a cage. But i do get hard. I just cant touch or use my p but it gets hard and pushes quite uncomfortably inside my body and it pushes the cage off, thats also a reason why i wear a strap.

I shouldn't be able to get hard at all right?

For me, I watched TV show called "Californication" and at some point one woman locked her partner in chastity. Left him watching porn while locked. Immediately I got horny. Started researching, going through Tumblr, Reddit etc..

Funny, if I didn't watch the show, I might have never tried it and get interested about it (and all the other kinks that developed after).

How did you get into it?

Any advice for hygiene and comfort for a first time long term wearer. Decided being locked is where I belong but want to be clean and comfy aswell

I’ve been dabbling in chastity for around 10ish years. My longest time locked has been about 1 and a half weeks. Recently we lost my second key, so we’re only down to one.

We’re trying to come up with fun ways to be risky with this last key. For example, I put the cage on yesterday, and we went for a walk and she tossed the key off the trail into a grassy area and I spent about 20-25 minutes looking for it.

She suggested we go to a shallow part at the lake and drop the key and see if I can find it. Which sounds so exhilarating.

Does anybody have any other ideas we can do with the key that might end up with me being locked forever (we are both ok with this outcome if that’s what happens)

Sometimes I feel weird, sometimes I need it too bad I just proceed with self lock. My GF is ok with me self locking (so not keyholding as she already has stress with her own keys ) although when I put it on in shower and she walked in I undone myself behind the curtains because I was too uncomfortable with the situation.. It's like she accepted it but it doesn't entirely feel accepted.

Maybe I should have walked out with cage on after all..

Communication is key, but additional communication would be like pushing it..

Interested to hear whether there are similar experiences or whether there is any advice to do push this to next level.

Sometimes I wish I didnt had this urge to wear a cage, would make things way easier...

I got my first cage and loved it but when I went to bed I woke up in the morning with intense rug burn like pain. This pain was mostly around my balls. I had to quickly unlock it and remove it. What’s a good way to stop the pain when wearing it to sleep in.

When wearing my cage (Cobra style Nano from Amazon), after a while it feels like burning where the ring sits under my balls. Did anyone experience similar sensations? What did you do to make it stop? I tried cream, didn't help. Maybe the ring is too small? Open to any recommendation:)

Hi all

My girlfriend wants to buy me my first cage for my birthday next week (using my money, of course).

We’re both really struggling to find the right first time cage. We would one day maybe go for a Kink3d one eventually, but I’ve widely read that they are not what you should go with for the first cage.

The ring should be 18.5 cm circumference (59 or 60mm diameter); and my flaccid length is 12.5cm, and I am uncircumcised.

We’ve retaken these measurements quite a few times, so I’m sure they’re accurate. It’s very difficult to find a non-bespoke cage that would fit me! 😵‍💫

We would be really grateful for any insight or suggestions! 😊

Keep trying to measure for a ring and my original size keeps coming up as 9.5, the diameter being 3.02. Every site i check the highest they go is around 2.56-2.9. Am i measuring wrong? Help please.

So I’m trans femme, and will be getting an orchiectomy (testicle removal surgery) soon. I’m getting it as permanent birth control and as gender affirming care. I’d rather get rid of them entirely than just get a vasectomy for birth control. But I am interested in chastity (haven’t done it before, as I’ve never had a partner interested in it and don’t want to do it alone) and I know that the cage fits over the testicles as the way to keep them on. Is it just completely impossible to do anything after I’ve gotten them removed? Are there any cages specific to this situation? Or would I just have to squish into a more cis female chastity belt if I want to explore this in the future? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

So recently I’ve been thinking about doing some sort of a challenge. I would make a group chat on something like discord and I would add as many locked up people that want to join. U will stay in this group chat until u unlock. The goal would be the last one still locked. It would unfortunately have to be on an honestly system but still would be fun. We could do things like picture cage checks whenever someone wants one and there would be some sort of punishment for not completing the punishment. Depending on how long this challenge runs, I might run challenges for rewards like edging ruins and nightly unlocks. But u wont come until everyone is done. If u unlock early u must ruin and if u do u must tell everyone in the group chat how little self control you have and you lose. U still must stay in the group but u will just be spectating and requesting cage checks/ giving out dares. I really want to make my sort of key holding dream come true. I think this would be so hot to try and see how it goes. We can keep it anonymous so no requesting face pictures unless previously stated that’s what u want. reply here with your longest lock up and if would want to be my little challenge sub. Also if u have any questions or suggestions also let me know.

I know it’s probably not a simple question to answer but I’d like to hear some potential pros and cons to starting chastity training with my wife (who already doesn’t desire sex). Is it a viable way to revive a dead sex life and still not push her into sex she is doesn’t want or is uncomfortable with?

Been locked for 7 days now and I am absolutely feral. Any tips on how to have a caged orgasm?

I've tried a vibrator but it just gives me blue balls and I can never get over the edge. Have tried some anal toys but no luck there either.

Please give me some advice I am busting at the seams.

Hi everyone, I've posted a couple times previously about how people got into it, etc, and I swear I'm working up to talking to my SO about it but it's been bad timing with some significant life changes lately.

But how does it all work for everyone? Obviously there's the more fetishized version where your SO literally never lets you unlock or even cum, and I have no doubt some people do some variant of that. But what else does it look like for you?

Do you cum monthly? Weekly? Biweekly? Do you always cum caged or do you unlock for some PiV or something else?

Do you lock/unlock daily? Do you lock for a week/month then unlock for a week/month? Does anyone lock just for sexy time and stay unlocked after?

How many of you engage in reverse pegging/fauxing or whatever you want to call it when you wear a strap-on over/attached to the cage to use for PiV? And how did you work up to that?

For those with children, or frequent family events, how do you handle it around them? Is it just an extra effort to keep it hidden sometimes like any sex toy, or is there any extra recommendation for dealing with that?

I've got a million and one questions for this kinda stuff because I really want to get my facts straight to bring it up to my SO.

Hello all i have tried at least 3 different cages with multiple size rings biggest was a 50mm amd it was to small anyone know where i might be able to find bigger rings? No i don’t know my measurements yet, at work now and just wondering. The last cage i tried was The man cage model 4 and the biggest ring was to small and so was the cage.