More realistic view on chastity is even more exciting
I know chastity is different for everyone, but still wanted to share our perspective which maybe some may find useful or relate to.
In our first couple of years of this adventure we never really strictly focused on the cage and the locking itself. Mainly due to practical reasons, because it really took a while before he was able to wear it comfortably and reliably, but also because the dynamic always felt much deeper and richer than just the aspect of locking. For us it was the attention and role shift in the bedroom - his masculinity became controlled and denied in the bedroom, his attention completely shifted to serving, and I felt that all his sexual energy was directed on me, which was a bit overwhelming at first, but only until I realized that it was indeed his honest energy and devotion which was also making him feel happy. Since then we both genuinely enjoy the dynamic.
And of course keeping him chastity caged was a big part of it, but I couldn't really imagine breaking this dynamic only because the cage was impractical at times. It feels like a more realistic view on the kink, with chastity being like a clear sign or a symbol of his role in the bedroom, not the other way around. I mean in other words, it's not the cage that prevents him being a man in the bedroom with me. It is his role in our marriage - he is a loving devoted husband who is kept attentive, aroused, and denied, and keeping him in chastity just only naturally suits and complements his role.
So that's just our small perspective, which I think really helped us to enjoy and explore it kinda more naturally. I also think it is the reason why I was so quick to be on board when he proposed the idea, because he didn't propose the physical cage, he proposed an exciting relationship play which with time became our actual preferred life style 😇
Curious to hear whether it is relatable, and would love to hear your perspective 😊