u/CollarCherry

I am a very submissive person, most of all when it comes to sex. My deepest fantasies and favorite moments come from following instructions, being pushed around and desecrated or defiled. All my kinks are based around this too, I think. I like chastity, bondage, praise, humiliation, and being the one being fucked or ridden. I can be dominant, and my girlfriend likes when I am, but I still feel like I'm only being dominant to please her. But I've been thinking and I think that feeling expands to all parts of my life. I am an all-encompassing people pleaser. I work in the service industry, I get the happiest when I'm told I'm good at something, and I really am the most driven to do something when it's to please others. I don't know how or when all of this started, but I do think I'm wired to be submissive in all aspects of my life. Not sure why I'm typing this out to the void either, I just want to hear if anyone else feels this way, or thinks I'm crazy lol.

After talking about our kinks and sexual fantasies I brought up the idea of me being locked in chastity for her. She had never heard of it, but was willing to try it out for me. I excitedly bought a cage and some other toys she wanted, but when we tried it out I feel like I got too into the subspace and she ended up crying that we were "going too fast" with it. I unlock myself, and we have a long conversation about our sexual history, porn watching habits, and her ability to cum. She didn't like the cage I had bought, said it felt "weird" for me to have on but said she's willing to try it out later once she's ready.

Unfortunate but hopefully she comes around. :(

Any insight, advice, or sympathy welcome🙏

I am a very submissive man when it comes to sex. My deepest fantasies and favorite moments come from following instructions, being pushed around and desecrated or defiled. All my kinks are based around this too, I think. I like chastity, bondage, praise, humiliation, and being the one being fucked or ridden. I can be dominant, and my girlfriend likes when I am, but I still feel like I'm only being dominant to please her. But I've been thinking and I think that feeling expands to all parts of my life. I am an all-encompassing people pleaser. I work in the service industry, I get the happiest when I'm told I'm good at something, and I really am the most driven to do something when it's to please others. I don't know how or when all of this started, but I do think I'm wired to be submissive in all aspects of my life. Not sure why I'm typing this out to the void either, I just want to hear if anyone else feels this way, or thinks I'm crazy lol.

I am a very submissive person, most of all when it comes to sex. My deepest fantasies and favorite moments come from following instructions, being pushed around and desecrated or defiled. All my kinks are based around this too, I think. I like chastity, bondage, praise, humiliation, and being the one being fucked or ridden. I can be dominant, and my girlfriend likes when I am, but I still feel like I'm only being dominant to please her. But I've been thinking and I think that feeling expands to all parts of my life. I am an all-encompassing people pleaser. I work in the service industry, I get the happiest when I'm told I'm good at something, and I really am the most driven to do something when it's to please others. I don't know how or when all of this started, but I do think I'm wired to be submissive in all aspects of my life. Not sure why I'm typing this out to the void either, I just want to hear if anyone else feels this way, or thinks I'm crazy lol.

I am a very submissive person when it comes to sex. My deepest fantasies and favorite moments come from following instructions, being pushed around and desecrated or defiled. All my kinks are based around this too, I think. I like chastity, bondage, praise, humiliation, and being the one being fucked or ridden. I can be dominant, and my girlfriend likes when I am, but I still feel like I'm only being dominant to please her. But I've been thinking and I think that feeling expands to all parts of my life. I am an all-encompassing people pleaser. I work in the service industry, I get the happiest when I'm told I'm good at something, and I really am the most driven to do something when it's to please others. I don't know how or when all of this started, but I do think I'm wired to be submissive in all aspects of my life. Not sure why I'm typing this out to the void either, I just want to hear if anyone else feels this way, or thinks I'm crazy lol.

After some fun kinky conversation my girlfriend has agreed to try out chastity. I, more than anything, want to be locked up by her long term, but she was kinda confused at the prospect of chastity and didn't even know why I'd like to try it in the first place. My cage is arriving tomorrow, is there anything I can say or do during to make her more likely to enjoy locking me up?

...without her anymore, when would a good time be to ask her about chastity?

After we just had sex she liked how much more horny I was after not jacking off for 5-6 days- would it be a good idea to bring up chastity soon? or would letting it sit for a while be better.

Also- would it be better to follow her instructions about not jacking off anymore, or should I intentionally find myself cumming on my own to convince her than I need to be caged?

Let me know your advice and experiences!