Keyholder wants full control over when I lock up
So I introduced my wife to chastity and she’s actually really liking it. We’ve been doing shorter sessions, a few hours here and there, slowly working toward longer lockups. I’m loving it overall, but there’s one part that’s harder than I thought.
She wants 100% control. I’m not allowed to put the cage on unless I ask her first and she says yes. The problem is my urge to lock comes and goes super fast. One hour I’m really into it and want to be locked, the next hour I have zero desire… and of course that’s usually when she decides I should lock up.
In my head it would feel easier if I could just lock myself when the urge hits, then hand the key over and stay locked until she decides to unlock me. The whole “I have to ask permission just to put it on” thing is not something I expected to struggle with.
Anyone else deal with a keyholder who wants complete control over when you lock, not just how long you stay locked? How did you handle the mismatch between your desire coming and going and her wanting full authority?