The last few years I have worked really hard at getting fit. I find that this seems to impress women and I have developed friendships with several women. I am several years older than most of these women friends. I have to admit I wonder if any of them have sexual thoughts towards me or are they just being friendly.
My wife and I got sexually involved before marriage. Handjobs for me and fingering and oral for her. Part of the reason I married her I thought we would enjoy sex together. We waited to have intercourse until we were married. From day one she was inconsistent with her desire for sex and her willingness to explore sexuality. We have children.
As she got older she totally lost interest in sex. She would give me a handjob periodically but did not want any sexual stimulation of any kind. Several months ago she started hormone replacement therapy. Wow her interest in sex jumped and she started wanting and accepting sexual stimulation from me, My guess she has had more orgasms in the last several months than she had in the previous 10 years,
So here is my frustration. Even though she is enjoying sex more often she is not very consistent in her desire for sex. Sometimes she desires sex multiple times in a week and other times she will go a couple of weeks or more with no desire. She enjoys receiving orgasms thru fingering or oral. Yet other times she is willing to give me a handjob but doesn’t want anything in return even when I offer. She is very uncomfortable about talking about sex, I did however tell her that what I need is consistency and enthusiasm.
So here are my questions: How do I deal with my wife’s inconsistency in her desire for sex? She enjoys having orgasms so why doesn’t she want them more often? I would be happy to give her an orgasm every day if she would let me!