29 [TM4M] soft sub looking for sweet but firm dom in #Minnesota
Hello! I’m a recent transplant to Minnesota from Indiana and thought I’d try my luck finding a dom in the area to meet up with.
About Me
I’ve been active in the kink community since I was 18, taking a short break to entertain a marriage that didn’t end up working out, and now I’m exploring my kinky side again as a single person.
I am a slow-burn type of person and want to enjoy the process of courting and vetting one another before settling into a dynamic and relationship. This also means that I will be slow to wanting sex, so even if I find you attractive or express interest in eventually getting to that point with you, please don’t slide into my DMs and start making demands or assume I want to see what you’re packing right away. I will stop responding if I feel that I’m being too heavily sexualized during conversation.
I’m a healthcare worker and a perpetual student, but I’ve optimized my schedule in such a way that does create more free time than one would think. However I do keep slightly strange hours and tend to be an insomniac. I currently have a BA in Anthropology, an AAS in business administration, and I’m working on a second AAS in business operations. I tend to be a very logic-driven person and rarely commit to doing something without first understanding 1. Why I’m doing it and 2. Why I’m doing it that way (this is especially applicable to situations where there is a logically easier/more efficient way of doing something, but I’ve been told to do it in a different manner that’s harder/less efficient).
Some interests I have outside of kink
hiking, camping, fishing, urban exploration, hockey, reading, hanging out at home, discovering new food, learning new things, teaching/sharing knowledge, writing, crafts (crochet/drawing), home improvement/fixing stuff/tinkering
Some interests I have within kink
mild degradation, caregiving/cgl, domestic service, chastity/edging, TPE, spanking
Some limits I have within kink
most bodily fluids, illegal activity, taboo activity, violence, “creepy uncle” behavior (I.e. people who want me to shame or degrade them for being interested in various fetishes or who lean heavily into the scandalous nature of taboo kinks), raceplay
What I’m looking for in a partner
I’m looking for someone slightly older than myself - preferably in the 30-40 range, but I’m willing to be flexible for the right person - who is confident in themselves both as a man and as a dominant. Someone who leans into their natural tendencies (when it’s appropriate) and isn’t afraid to take the lead or take initiative. Ideally, I’m looking for a guy who treats his sub like something precious - a protector/Daddy Dom who is firm and wants to help his sub be the best version of themselves, but who is just as likely (if not more) to want to cuddle on the couch and watch YouTube or read as he is to want to plan out some big elaborate scene. I’m looking for someone who asserts himself in subtle ways, who isn’t afraid to touch me or ask for affection but doesn’t have a near-constant need for in-my-skin levels of attention. Someone who pushes me out of my comfort zone, is playful, cares for his community, and who is both personally and financially stable.
I do have three cats and I adore Minnesota, so I would like to find someone who is A. Not allergic to cats (and likes them or is open to the idea of them) and B. Local within 2 hrs of St Paul.