r/gaybdsmpersonals

As the title says.

Looking for something specific, playful, and fun.

Are you tired of being you? Do you want to be transformed into something different? Dorkier, more submissive? 🤓

Looking for a sub that wants to experiment with giving up control of his identity in a unique way. Maybe you're subtle, casual, not super nerdy, but you want to be in someone else's control. That's where nerdification comes in. Slowly your clothes get replaced: those jeans become khakis, those tees become button-ups, those boxers become tighty whities. Your hobbies are forced from sports to video games and reading. You start begging for tasks, or "homework."

Buying new clothes gives you the experience of financial domination while still keeping your purchases. You'll get increasingly more humiliated as your everyday uniform changes. Before you know it, you're starting each day with a wedgie and a wet willy. And you'll be trying not too get too excited about it.

Sounds like a submissive ifestyle play you want to try? Message with any questions you have or interests of your own. Send more than just your age and location. Act interested if you truly want to be controlled.

Otherr kinks include:

* blackmail

* chastity caging / keyholding

* bullying/ wedgies/ swirlies

* degradation / humiliation

* cnc

* ball busting / cbt

* pet play / furry treatment

* chores / houseboy expectations

* uniforms

* manners (yes sir, thank you sir)

* and more.

This is blackmail, ownership, and transformation. You will become an owned nerd, a toy. It means providing damning proof of tasks. You must not be scared to show face. Otherwise what is there to blackmail you with and hold you accountable haha. If you're going to ghost or delete your account once you get nervous, don't bother messaging.

Looking forward to hearing from the sub interested in handing his life over to become a new and dorkier version of himself 😏

Dominant, thoughtful man here who likes being the dad/big brother/mentor to a lad.
Life isn’t all about sex, it’s about all of you, and your need for a man you look up to, a man who holds you to account, a man who expects you to improve and who excites you. Living in Australia: it doesn’t matter where you live, what matters is a good attitude, and knowing who you are and the sort of man you need.
I like normal lads: often people might describe you as masculine, or comfortable in your own skin. Capable, you still know that you need a man who is above you.

Next step? Is up to you

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Hello potential subs,

I 36 year old, bear, white male nerd dom seek long term submissive. I do enjoy knowing my sub personality, and have dated previous subs. Im very open to the nature of different relationship to be discussed on an individual basis.

I am looking for a single sub to cultivate in my perfect sexual submissive, see below.

1. Local perfered, if long distance, you best be worth my time.

2. Age range 22-40. If under or older a face pic must be sent when asked no excuses. I dont want to waste our time.

3. Face pic exchange is a must at one point well befor a meeting will be discussed. If you will never share do not answer, you're not my sub.

4: when you apply, you will tell me about yourself. Basic information age, location and what your looking for.

My likes:

1. All types of men, gay preferred, straight curious my least liked, but hey, maybe you can change that.

2. Race, very open.

3. Perfer someone who can also host. Not a deal breaker if cant.

4. Someone sane, clean, kinky and ready to commit to a dom.

5. Love small cocks.

If this fits you, why the hell have you not chatted me already.

A little about me:

I am 26 and based in the United States. I will show face and myself as you deserve and as I choose. CST based and while I don't have any issues with conflicting times and schedules, I do want the time difference to be known. I enjoy control, edging, Cum play, underwear, public, piss, toys, and rules/tpe.

What I'm looking for:

I am looking for a fit, slim, or muscular sub or slave. You should be very obedient and like to show off and play with yourself for my pleasure. Be able to folow rules. One of your first will be a daily check in picture. I expect you to follow this consistently. You can probably tell by this point that am looking for more of a long term situation. If you have any questions or are interested, hmu with your asl and be ready to send a pic.

I prefer to see my boy's face

Hello guys!

I'm looking for a confident, dominant guy who would like to build a real connection and see where things naturally go. I'm not looking for something quick or superficial — I'm much more interested in a long-term bond, getting to know each other from the beginning, building trust and creating something meaningful together. A friendship, basically.

I'm still quite new to this world, so I'm hoping to find someone patient and understanding. This can be a pretty complex world with a lot of rules, expectations and things to learn, so I would love to meet someone who can be a little bit of a mentor too — someone experienced who can guide me, teach me, and help me feel more comfortable while we discover what works for both of us.

I can be shy and nervous when I feel pressure (sometimes my brain just stops working and I become a complete mess lol), but I'm always willing to communicate, learn and try my best.

A little about me: I'm from Spain, 26 yo, gay, sub, respectful, nerdy, a twink and kinda dumb lol. I can be a little silly and naive sometimes, but I promise I have a good heart and I'll always try to bring fun, affection and good energy.

I love videogames, travelling, chatting for hours, memes, dogs, sweets and meeting people who make everyday life more interesting. My timezone is Europe.

I'm looking for someone confident and masculine, someone who enjoys taking the lead but also values kindness, patience and genuine connection. Someone who can appreciate a little chaos, a little innocence, and a lot of enthusiasm.

If you think we could click, feel free to message me. I'd love to know more about you too ❤️

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What you should be willing to do:

Chastity

Cum control

Photos as proof

Tasks

Anal

Training

Long-term

You want to put your sexuality in capable hands.

Firm Rules

Contract

Punishment for Misconduct

We'll also talk about your kinks and maybe even act on them.

I'm not some object you can use to jerk off, and I won't act like one either. But I'll help you get your sex drive back on the right track.

First, we'll talk and get to know each other. I'll ask you some personal questions, and I expect honest and direct answers.

Are you unhappy with your current situation? Are you starting off your first year of college with an overwhelming amount of newfound freedom? Just got dumped and want to get hot to make your ex jealous? Whatever the reason, I'm accepting applications for anyone who wants to get whipped into shape.

I take this role very seriously so if you're just here for a quick nut so you can go about your day, this is not the place. You're better off to just open your browser and go to pornhub. I'm looking for serious people who are willing to do the work. I'm talking about hitting the gym, fixing your sleep schedule, eating right, and all of that fun stuff. If you're interested, you can find the sub application in the pinned post on my profile. The more effort you give, the more interest I'll take. Talk to you soon.

My ideal evening with a submissive would be cooking together, cuddled up on the sofa watching a movie and then winding down with a few hours of you tied to the bed being edged until you've forgotten your own name, but I'm not looking for a one-off anonymous thing. Ideally, I'm looking for a longer-term arrangement with somebody who is consistent and available.

I'm based in Manchester/Salford, able to host, and looking for something that develops over time. I'm 185cm/6'1" and 90kg so a bigger bear-ish build (slighty blurred SFW pictures). I work from home, which means I make a point of getting out as much as I can; going to gigs, meetup groups, live comedy/music events, and the gym a couple of times a week. When I'm inside, I'm into D&D, gaming, TV, films, and endlessly scrolling through YouTube.

I'm an experienced dominant, in-person and online. I'd ideally prefer something in-person with somebody who is nearby to Manchester or able to regularly travel to it, but I am open to chatting with people online if we're otherwise a good match. My style is primarily affectionate and rewarding, rather than super-aggressive.

You'll be older than 20 and under 40, single, slim to average build, and politically left. You'll be able to hold a conversation, and interested in meeting to spend time together beyond hooking up. I'd enjoy regular contact, shared activities like gaming or streaming, and with somebody who isn't afraid of sharing pictures/videos/etc. I won't ghost if we don't click, and I'd appreciate it if you returned the same kindness.

I'd like you to be happy sharing your thoughts, feelings, and body - somebody who is comfortable with pictures, videos, and voice calls. There's a kinklist on my profile for more detail, but I'm essentially open to most kinks and fetishes.

Message me and introduce yourself, include your age and location, a bit about yourself, what you're after in a dynamic. Please be prepared to share pictures of yourself too.

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Heyyo slut.

Do you have an ass that can stretch, better yet, do you got a loose hole you want permanently gaped, how about a gag reflex you've been wanting to get rid of... or make worse~, I'm your man!

I am looking for a slut who can train there ass, throat, and balls, damn near everything. Be kinky

I plan on gagging you until you are breathless, gaping you until you have a pussy instead of a asshole, busting your pathetic cock and balls until even thinking about them hurts.

Im very kinky, and am also looking for someone kinky as well. Im a sucker for public, sex toys, facefucking, and loose gaping holes. Any other links as well

If you feel like you need a master to ruin you, mold you into the perfect sex object, hit me up

Older is prefered, dildos and sex toys are a requirement, the more the better. Pups/furrys are desired as well. Hit me up with your age, body type, kinks, limits, and any toys you have in the first message. Message me "train me coach", as well as how hard you mant me to break you, how strict i should be with training, and a list of your toys in the first message. If you tell me your a bear or into public, you'll be concidered first! Let me know if you want a mean dom, or a softer guiding one as well

We both have lives, i don't expect 24/7 serving, and also don't respond 24/7... unless you really do want to dedicate yourself only and all to me~

About me, all you need to know is im 22, somewhat athletic build, pup and furry, vers, very kinks, and also on occasion bottom. I have a wide variety of toys, and love making my subs desperate to serve

I usually give tasks and rules rather than live sessions. I also respond slow, if you like a tease or to stew in horny anticipation, im the guy!

See you on the other side, my new sextoy

Good evening. 28. M. Dom. #EU. Looking to recruit a new long term submissive. I am looking for someone who wants to willing submit, both casual and professional. I am looking for someone who wants a reminder every day that are controlled, and in service.

Someone who enjoys make the lives of others better by performing tasks, completing orders, showing off, and satisfying their partner.

This will be a dynamic built on long term evaluation of need, want, and the moulding of a good submissive boy. Someone to be trained. Sculpted. Build, brick by brick.

If you are interested in discussing further, please contact me. Include your age, location, details about yourself, and your cravings - what is it that you need to feel wholly submissive. To beg and moan. To plead. To want nothing more than to serve on your knees.

I’m waiting for you.

I’m a 22 year old Arab dominant looking for a sub who wants to be used, broken in, and turned into a proper fucktoy. I want a slut who melts for alphas someone who gets off on being degraded, controlled, and gradually rewritten into my property. I’m not looking for a casual play partner. I’m looking for a literal slave who’s ready to submit fully and serve in every way.

What I’m into: Domination & control • Verbal abuse • Raceplay • Humiliation & degradation • Praise (when earned) • Feminization • Slow, deliberate mental and physical breaking until you’re completely mine
If the idea of being owned, reshaped, and used on my terms turns you on, message me saying Peach and asking about my other kinks so I know you have read my post. Be ready to show you’re serious

I’m an experienced Master with over 2 years of experience in domination, both online and IRL.
I’m looking to create a group with 4–5 slaves and myself as the Master. The goal is to build a harem of loyal sluts who serve me while also having fun together. There will also be competitions within the group to determine who proves to be the best slave.
The group will have rules, tasks, and structured programs, including competition guidelines.

Application Requirements
NO CHUBBY. ONLY MASC
I’m into masculine slaves. Straight guys are my favorite, but DL guys are welcome too.
My ideal type: tall and masculine. My favorite body types are muscular, toned, athletic, or beefy.
Twinks and hunks are also welcome.
If you fit the description, feel free to apply.

I’m also looking for private, long-term slaves, not just group members.

My Kinks
Posing, humiliation, CBT, spanking, ass play, degradation, spit, puppy play, feet, socks, and sneakers.
I enjoy submissive, slutty subs who don’t ask unnecessary questions, follow instructions, and know their place.
I have plenty of other kinks as well—these are just the main ones. I’m open to discussing others.

Dom here, looking for hunky, well-built submissives who crave guidance and know how to show off what they are working with. I want to see your confidence, your physique, and your willingness to surrender to my control.

My style centers heavily around deep, sensual domination and intense JOI (Jerk Off Instruction). I enjoy taking my time, directing your pleasure, and pushing your limits using just the power of my words.

If you are a sub who loves being praised, commanded, and proudly shown off under a dominant's eye, my inbox is open. comment down below YES

Heyy

I’m 28 and a quite experienced submissive looking for a long term dynamic.

I’m into gooning, verbal humiliation and degradation, feet, shoes, socks, bondage, and the feeling of being owned.

I respond well to someone who enjoys taking control and shaping the dynamic over time rather than just playing casually.

Hard limits are extreme stuff (no blood, scat, heavy breath play, permanent damage, etc.).

Everything else is open to discussion as trust builds.

im specifically looking for a long term ownership style dynamic, something consistent with clear structure, ongoing control, and real investment from both sides.

Online is fine to start, and I’m open to it developing further if the connection is right. If you’re a Dominant who likes the idea of owning a dedicated, experienced sub who gets off on gooning, humiliation, and foot/shoe/sock play, feel free to message me. Tell me a bit about yourself and what kind of dynamic you’re looking for.

Face is a must.

I’ve been sitting on this idea for a while, but I’ve finally decided to stop thinking and start doing.
You know those group chats with friends where you talk about the latest show you’re hooked on, or plan a night out at the pub? That’s exactly what I want but instead of TV and pints the thing bringing us together is kink.

I’m looking to build a space for open-minded UK kinksters who want something like “kinky friends.” Think of it as a close-knit group chat where you can actually talk about and express your kinky side, without judgment. Ideally, we’d also plan real-life meetups too, whether that’s smaller, more intimate play sessions with 2–3 people, or a full-on kink party with the whole crew.

Right now we’ve found only bites we’ve gotten have been subs so we’re hoping to bring in some doms who are willing to balance out the dynamics a bit! Midlands is not required but honestly preferred!

There’s no limit on what you’re into as long as you respect others’ boundaries and are cool with people liking different things than you do. I’m a proud nerd myself, so fellow nerds would definitely be a bonus but definitely not a requirement.

If this sounds like your kind of vibe, let’s chat!

Daddy seeking bottom boy who wants to please and hand over control to a real man.

Kinks: Chastity, structured routine, anal training, body writing, TPE, device control, bondage, spanking.

Age matters less than attitude. Not particularly into larger guys.

Tell me which of these is most appealing to you when you DM and be able to hold a conversation and bring your own ideas and desires.

Not online 24/7 so don't expect that of my sub.

I do expect you to be willing to open up. Genuine submission is built on trust.

Hey you submissive little toy.

I am a 21 yo Dom searching for a new submissive man. Im a young looking guy, with normal body type. Im 80kg and 190cm. I look young, friendly and calm, which reflects me in a good way. Besides that, do I not promise a friendly or forgiving attitude when I'm your dom. In that case I will be understanding, strict, and will demand good routines between us.

Im looking for a guy 30+. Usually I don't really care about the body type, as a connection is what im seeking. But I do want someone healthy looking that actually cares for yourself as well. This includes good eating routines, workouts and a good mindset. (again, I do not demand a bodybuilder or fitness model - It is simply just not that deep for me)

Not looking for sissy or someone way to inexperienced

Im looking for someone available and obedient. You need to have a "yes sir" attitude, where you're willing to do whatever I ask, to please me and my needs. What I look for in you, is that you get turned on by pleasing me. Of course we will also have normal conversations, get to know each other and have fun talks. But I will demand respect and that our needs are met.

My kinks are mainly underwear and underwear control, chastity, tease, edge, long sessions, piss, leather, bondage, light pain, humiliation and degration. I also have some lovense toys, and im very into lovense related toys. A session with me could be everything from me choosing you underwear before work/ clothing you're using that day, to a 4 hour long session having fun, exchanging photos, videos and meeting our sexual needs together.

Im in need of a submissive and willing guy who wants to see me as their superior, and be willing to do it all for me, as well as someone down to earth, into chatting, longer conversations, and someone who wants to get to know me, and let me get to know you. You also need to be willing to figure out this together, be open for learning as well as actually be willing to make time for me.

You should be looking for a strict, and beautiful dom, and should find pleasure in having parts of your daily life controlled. I'll offer you good training to become an obedient sub, and a long term relationship.

I'll take good care of you, and make good use of you. Send me a DM with some info about you, what you find interesting with this post, your kinks and a photo.

Best regards

Hello,

I am into very specific thing; TPE to be exact. TPE stand for total power exchange. In an essence, you lose your autonomy, any decision making power in your life and give it to me.

That's what I am looking for. A slave, sub, plaything, my personal toy. But also a friend, conversations partner and trusted person.

Obedience and trust is built, not demanded. The only thing I demand is that you will be certain what you are doing and have common goal with me.

About you: age between 18-45, certain, kinky, enough free time to commit, height-weight proportional, open minded, willing to push your boundaries.

About me: 37 year old, experienced dom/owner with almost 15 years of experience in BDSM world. Managed subs both irl in online, sadist, kinkster, master.

If you want to know about my kinks, vanilla me or what plans I have for you, my inbox is open. Don't forget to tell me your favourite colour, as a sign you did read it all.

See you on the dark side

PS: I will require you to send me your face pic.

I'm looking for companionship and submission but more importantly to shape your life into something better than it was before me.

I want to make being desired and pleasing others not simply a pastime but essentially the main thing you do. To achieve this I'll guide you to becoming an adult content creator. I don't say this lightly though and I will work on your career (and indeed your training) like you're my most prized possession that I'm the most proud of.

The goal of course is financial freedom achieved through repurposing your life to become sexually desired and gratifying people with the content you make.

And of course I want to support you emotionally as well. To take care not only of your training but your mind too, for as devoted as such an arrangement would require a sub to be, I will be as devoted to you as you are to me.

And yes, I do have quite a but of experience working with adult content creators.

If this sounds like something you've always wanted (even if you didn't realise it till now) please do send me a message.

Thank you for your time.

30m dom here, usually more of a sub but I've been getting much more into switch play recently, and have been wanting to try out a dom role for a while now :)

I'm very into anon/cmnm, so my ideal setup would be you showing off for me while I communicate primarily via text chat, maybe the occasional pic/vid as a reward for good service ;) Huge fan of underwear and gear, and open to roleplay setups like doctor/patient stuff.

Could be long-term or short-term depending on what you're interested in, we'd come up with some ground rules for you to follow and then either one-off or ongoing tasks, depending what you're looking for. Very interested in working with the sub to come up with something we're both interested, so definitely lmk if there's anything you want to explore :))

Kinks are cmnn, exposure, exhibitionism, public, embarrassment/humiliation, underwear, dares/games. But, like I said, open to exploring more besides that :) Big limits are no piss/scat/blood stuff. Not so into feminization or intense degradation stuff