u/Existing_Phone9129

my boyfriend is a masochist, he loves a certain amount of pain, but his problem is that he has an extremely low pain tolerance. he really wants to be able to take more, but his problem is that he really cannot take a lot

to demonstrate, were buying a new flogger since him using our current one full strength on my back is way too little for me, and i would say i just have a slightly above average tolerance. me hitting him in the same areas with about half force veers towards the edge. (there is a strength difference between us, with me being stronger, but not anything super big) the only flogger we found while shopping around that seems like it would be easier on him was made of faux fur, which i have a feeling wouldnt be painful at all, though we can buy and try it if people suggest it

i want to know if anyone has built up pain tolerance through impact or flogging, so we know if we should keep going with it or move onto other ways. were both each others first in-person kinky relationship, so were both still learning new things we didnt think to research before

me and my kitty are planning on moving in together pretty soon (SO excited), and part of our plans after we get more settled in is to advance our dynamic from shorter scenes and fantasizing together to a more consistent 24/7 dynamic. part of what im doing is setting certain rules for him for his self-care

1. he must eat two meals a day, ~a sandwich or more, not much. if he willingly does not, he will have to eat three full meals at times that i set

2. he must lay down in bed or his cage by X time, put away all devices by Y time, and then put away any other activities hes doing by Z time, so that he can settle down for sleep. if he disobeys, then before we get our cage he will be tied up, and after we get it he will be caged with nothing to do inside except for sleep

all rules very flexible of course, in case hes ever too sick to eat properly, he has plans that will bleed into his bedtime, in case he just forgets, etc

im also planning on making one more for his hygiene, to make sure all the basics are covered. were pretty low protocol, so we dont have too many plans for rules or anything. but it got me curious of what other people have their subs do so i thought i would ask here! :3