u/Expert_Imaginary

For context: my gf unlocked a findom and foot fetish in me just over a year ago and we’ve been playing with it since. She was initially quite tame with it, but is coming more and more into the role, and pushing boundaries.

So I’ve posted recently about how I suspected that my gf had told her bff about our kink life, but was unsure about the detail, based on different interactions etc. but last night it was all confirmed.

We were out drinking and my gf was joking with her friend and talking about some things her bff’s bf had bought her. To which she started to actively encouraging her friend to take up findom with her bf.

She specifically used me as the example.

Her words ‘I think he would be into it just like <mine>’.

They both looked at me and I heard it, and she was just smiling and then just openly said it. Saying specific examples and laughing at how my gf would buy stuff and just send me the receipts demanding the money and I would send. And they just talked about me like I wasn’t there. Anytime I would interject, she would just play me down and tell me how I love being the ‘credit card’ and they’d laugh.

I was kinda torn on it. Like… don’t get me wrong, it was hot, but this was very public and I’m not really ready to share that with everyone. But I don’t think anyone else heard it other than the 3 of us. So no harm done, but I think I need to have words with my gf.

However, they were both into it. And this is what I can’t get out of my head. Do I lead conversations with, ‘you kinda crossed a line, but I liked including your friend in the dynamic’ or just not mentioning the friend part and asking to not discuss openly when other people are around.

Not sure if this is the right place for ideas, but for context: my gf and I have playing with findom for just over a year. We do go on shopping trips and I buy her all sorts. We live together, have a normal vanilla life, and have talked about each of these different concepts in isolation but not played much with them.

Lately money has been tight, and findom play slowed down as a result. She has still comments on things I should buy her, and I do buy her a lot still, but it’s more sporadic and less structured with little RP.

So my idea was, come next payday (and every payday after) we set a date and a budget. And that money is specifically for findom play. We have a shopping day out, she can buy whatever she wants in that budget, but we have to stay in character (dom/finsub). To help reinforce that, we will get a chastity cage for me. And this will symbolise when play starts (ie she will have the cage for me, and instruct me to wear it/put it on me to begin at a moment of her choosing). And during play I have to do whatever she wishes of me and buy whatever she wants within that budget.

Im over thinking a little and was unsure whether this is just too strange and specific, and feel like im ‘topping from the bottom’ for a lack of a better term. What are your thoughts/experiences?

Me and my GF been playing with findom for about a year or so, and I recently proposed a fun game that we can play during our fun time. We’ve not played yet, but I’m excited to.

When we get to the end of playtime, and she’s satisfied enough and wants me to finish, then we play a little game.

She has 10mins to make me finish. Using whatever she wants, in whatever way she wants me to. If she succeeds, I have to pay her 100. If she doesn’t, I get to worship any part of her I wish in anyway I want and finish there, but I only have 5mins. And if I don’t finish, I have to pay her 200 and I don’t get to finish (or play again if she wants to). She can edge and start the timer whenever she wishes, as well as do whatever she wants to discourage me finishing in my 5mins if we get there (apart from stopping me worshipping) - ie verbal/cbt etc. And to sweeten the deal, if I do finish in my 5mins, I take her out for a nice date or her choosing.

What do you think? Think this is a good idea?

My recent posts have talked about how I suspected that my GF’s best friend knows about our kinks, and she was saying things that were kinda on the edge of confirming it.

Well my GF has confirmed she talks about our kink life with her BFF, as it gives her more confidence herself.

To caveat, I’m ok with this as we’re all good friends anyway.

Well, recently we were all sitting having a drunk. My GF was kinda drunk and openly teasing me about kink and how I like to be dominated etc. and started actively telling me to refer to her as queen in front of her friend.

And later in the conversation, she started talking about how I should buy her something. Specific emphasis on ‘SHOULD’.

Then her friend turned around and said the same, ‘don’t forget me, why don’t you buy me it too’. My GF never really said anything, and I just sorta looked at them both like … is this happening? And sorta played it off, to see where it would go. It didn’t go further as no-one really pushed it (and we were all drunk).

So I think it’s confirmed now, she knows about my findom kink, and my gf seems to be okay with her saying ‘riske’ stuff.

I do wonder if they would take it further or not. But I’m not going to push for it, as I do think it would be fun if my GF made me simp for both of them, but that’s very much her call not mine. And I’m not gonna cross that line without instruction. But I feel like it’s gone from a zero probability event, to a non-zero probability event.

Home alone for the next few days and wanting to spend most of it in my alter ego. Had a pretty stressful few weeks so really wanna let loose.

Already have ideas for dressing up, playing and chastity for most of it, but any other ideas always fun.

Does anyone have a link to a good shopping guide too? I feel like I need new stuff

Home alone for 5days after tomorrow. Had a really stressful couple of weeks so really looking to let loose and absolutely ‘ruin’ myself in so many ways.

Looking for tasks, things to buy, things to do to myself.

Kinks: Humiliation fetish/Sissification/Anal/degradation/femdom/findom/feet and so much in between

Current toys: Chastity, plugs, inflatable plug, dildo, various restraints, gag, femine clothes

Open to purchasing new toys (depending on price)

Have fun with it

So just over a year ago, my gf unlocked a findom and foot fetish in me, and we’ve been exploring it a bit since.

The last few weeks have been a bit crazy, but last night we had a few drinks and the topics came up.

She informed me, that from now on, minimum payments generally are going to be 100. I explained to her that this is fine, and would like to explore more ways for her to ‘control me’ when she’s taking money from me. She was receptive to this (and seemed excited)

We talked about different things we could do. Specifically, i said it would be fun if she teases and denies me more, when she’s demanding money from me. She loved this idea and suggested that next time she’s out with the girls, she will do this and then I have to pay for her night whilst I’m at home.

And then I took a bit of a gamble (Dutch courage and that), and suggested it would be hot if she got me a chastity cage for some of these times. She was interested, and said herself it would be fun if she locks me up and takes the key with her, and I would have to wait for her to come back.

I also confessed to her how I want to take her shopping more, and her to be ‘meaner’ with me and more forceful. And she said this would be fun.

For anyone not following my story, my gf unlocked a findom fetish in me last year, and we’ve been exploring it since.

So this weekend we’ve been at a festival with one her friends. In my last post, I talked about my gf how I suspect my gf might have told her bestie about the findom, and I think this weekend has all but confirmed it.

So for the entire weekend, my gf and her bestie have been ordering me around, sending me the bar, getting them food, carrying all their stuff, buying them souvenirs, whilst simultaneously being extremely bossy.

Her friend specifically, has been really pushing it. And even indirectly, referred to one of the staff as a simp, but I think she was watching for my reaction.

They’ve been occasionally buying me something and then expecting me to be extremely appreciative of it.

They also keep referring to themselves as both ‘my gfs’ and how both of them are ‘my responsibility’ now.

I’m so torn between how hot this is and how expensive this is getting. And the spectre of doubt is always there just making me think ‘what if it’s just in my head’ and if I do anything over the top to simp, it won’t go down well with gf.

Just a small update from my ongoing story as me and my gf explore findom and other kinks.

For anyone that’s not seen my story before; my gf unlocked a findom fetish and foot fetish in me and we’ve been exploring it for the past year.

So for the past week my gf has been denying me, keeping me horny, as she knows it makes me more submissive.

Today, I’ve been doing the garden whilst my gf and her friend have been enjoying the sun. Normal stuff. And after finishing I sit down with them to have a drink and they are both sitting there, drink in hand, barefoot (not sure if intentional) but very much keeping them in my eye line.

As I sit down, they are talking about her friends dating life, and how she’s currently got a guy spending a fair bit of money on her and she’s not used to it. But they actively joke that I’m not normal in how I spend a lot of money on my gf. (I don’t know how much my gf has discussed our kink life, but I think they talk somewhat)

They continue to talk and just stop occasionally to (and both of the girls btw) just bark random orders at me. Things like, topping up their drinks, fetching them various things from the house and even as far as how I should drive them both places because they are ‘queens’.

I don’t know if it’s my denied brain just reading more into it, but having both of them ganging up on me and serving them both is making my head spin. I’m just gonna keep doing what I’m told and not push for anything, but the scenarios running through my head make me want to drop to my knees.