I need advice.
You guys, what are your honest opinions on long distance relationships? I’ve been chatting with an older gentleman and I don’t see it going anywhere. He had real heavy baggage and he is a lot older than me… roughly 20 years older… he has some pretty bad trauma and when we first spoke on the phone… like legit our first phone call he trauma dumped on me so bad I felt I had to talk him through it… we stayed on the phone for three hours and it ended up being a nice phone call… throughout the month it was more trauma… and the more he shared the more it felt like I had to take care of that… I don’t have to do anything but because I’m a people pleaser that trauma he dumped on me I felt the need to take it off his back but now I can’t because I don’t see it working out. He showed so much interest in me..:. Consistency was there! Every response he sent was long and meant something… now it’s he’s always tired from work. Calls twice a day and the calls are like 5 minutes when they used to be hours… we never met and he plans on coming to see me, it’s ironic… I told him I was planning a trip in the summer and then the one weekend he picks to fly out here is the weekend I chose to go on vacation… I don’t think he bought tickets or whatever I think he’s just saying all this but doesn’t mean any of it.., I mean it would be nice for a man to want to genuinely like me for me… and not use me as a conversation piece… this is just crazy! I really enjoy his conversations… but I noticed the butterflies went away and the laughing has decreased by 70 percent. Idk I’m just lost because I feel he played with my emotions after I told him I been single for over 5 years… I think I ignored all these red flags trying to be a hero… idk what should I do? Please help!