Any other sides that are or have been in relationships with non-sides?
38 y/o here, have been in three prior LTRs. The last two relationships were with guys who were versatile and the first was with a guy who preferred to top. The sex was good overall. However, I often wanted to spend more time with foreplay, body contact, kissing, jerking off, and oral. I started to identify as a side around 2019-2020 because I realized I preferred, and was fully sexually satisfied, getting off with the above mentioned while my bf at the time was not, and felt that without anal, something was missing.
One of the things I enjoy about side hook-ups is that they feel more reciprocal. When it comes to anal I gravitate towards being vers, but even then, anal sex can feel lopsided at times. I like that with side hook-ups whether is frotting, jerking off, 69, etc it feels mutually corresponding.
The issue is sides are hard to come by, and while it would be ideal to be with another side, I’m not completely opposed to dating someone vers again. Who else can relate?