u/Glass-Government788

Me (f) and my boyfriend are both switches, but I've been struggling recently in not being able to fully submit. When he's dominant, he is less of a dom in the "commanding in Vocal tone" way and more of a "do what I say in my regular speaking tone or you'll get hurt" way. He is also only dominant in the bedroom and I'm getting stir crazy with a need for some total power exchange. How do I ask for it, or teach him how to, without offending him or making him insecure about how he doms? Or are dom styles just a compatibility issue and I need to find another way to scratch the itch?