u/HardlyVonTroupe

I (M) went to Playalinda for the first time yesterday with my (F) partner. Had a great time EXCEPT for there was a black guy with dreads (I’m black as well; just a description) who followed us down the beach, set up behind us and then started pulling on himself while he was looking over. My partner flipped over on her stomach and I started looking at the guy who’d look away and the I’d see him start looking again; I even looked directly at him and put my arms up like wtf. This was ~8-9a

Eventually, we moved to the other side of our tent to block his view and then he moved down the beach behind some women who had arrived after us. I observed from a distance and I believe they got creeped out and walked farther down the beach. We stayed until ~3 pm and he was still there on our way out and even in the parking lot as we left; I actually slowed down and laid on the horn as left.

I’m not a prude and I don’t even mind sexual contact if people are off on their own, etc, but setting up and masturbating by non-consenting women is NOT it. I felt bad for my partner (who stopped me from directly intervening; I will not be listening to that direction in the future) and for the women who I believe were also affected. Everyone else was friendly and respectful; I talked to a few people who also noticed the behavior.

I was wondering what is the best course-of-action in that situation? I thought about bringing my megaphone or something like that. I don’t wish to escalate any situations but I also refuse to allow behavior like that in my presence.

We had a great time and personally aren’t deterred by a sex pest like that BUT people deserve to go in the nude without being expressly and clearly sexualized without their content. There are different kinds of nude spaces but it didn’t strike me as the kind of place that behavior is appropriate.