Sex is a conversation not a negotiation
Rather recently I read a topic on here or another subreddit discussing how a lot of beginners in kink would start by introducing themselves with a list of their kinks and limits.
An experience that I guess has been building up for months has me thinking about the conversation vs negotiation aspect of that this morning.
A few months ago I met someone at a work conference and we really hit it off. We've been talking back and forth mostly every day. Occasionally wandering onto the topic of sex and what we're into.
We've never used any real "scene" terms. Just laymen stuff, and occasionally sent a video or two of something we found hot. This week we had another work conference, and we ended up back in her hotel room.
I'm fascinated by how naturally it felt like the tone of the encounter shifted. We just made out like for what felt like forever, which I haven't done in like 15 years, and at some point she pushed me on my back, and sat on my lap.
Without either one of us discussing it, from that point on I wasn't allowed to touch or kiss without asking. It was honestly amazing, and I don't know how else to describe it.
It was a conversation between our bodies, and she naturally talked me into sub-space.