Recent play teasing unlocked something
I want to start by saying not much actually happened in this interaction, this is more about my reaction to it.
My wife has put on a little weight recently which she is mortified by, and has not been feeling herself. Honestly most of it has gone to her chest so I’m hardly complaining. Anyway she has been suggesting things that might boost her confidence because she has not felt like herself- things like taking boudoir shots for us.
We were working from home together and she was messaging a distant colleague on zoom. It was towards the end of the day and he began getting flirty- deniably flirty not quite crossing the line but very flirty anyway. And she began teasing me saying oh should I flirt back? He seems to like me? We began a game of chicken where at one point she took a topless pic and asked if I should send it to him and, to my surprise, I said “I wish you would “
Now at that point she chickened out and deleted the photo because it was too close to home. However afterwards between us was amazing. So I’ve realised that if she wanted to be had I’d probably just let it happen. But also I’m not sure how to explore this while she isn’t feeling good about herself and of course I don’t want to cross her boundaries. It is not impossible she’d do it just to please me but honestly I don’t want that- I want her to be pleased. I want to see her inspire men or women (she is bi) and feel good about herself but it would just take one arsehole to ruin her confidence forever. Like this has really unlocked something in me and I’m not sure what to do.