u/Hikkopeikko

How do you do something like that well? It's hard to find equality in it so it doesnt happen to us. For me as a man it's easy even though i prefer foreplay, but for my partner as a woman she needs about 1 hour or more of foreplay. It makes it a bit hard to be spontane, a morning where i want to just eat her out, no piv, just make her feel good. But it takes a while to get there, so i touch her and kiss her all over. Then it leads to piv even though i just wanted to pleasure her, i cant say no because she'd get disappointed. Even in that it doesnt guarantee she'll come.

Similarily i just wish she'd grab my cock if she ever wanted to play with it or just make me feel good. It doesnt happen because there is little equality in that, i get aroused quickly and cum easily because it feels good. She doesnt, no guarantee she'll cum, that she'll feel good.

I have trouble bringing this up because i dont want to seem entitled or a sex pest, but sometimes it'd be nice to be touched and pleasured just for the sake of it for 5 minutes. Similarily i just want to get her to relax, touch her and make her feel good while holding her so she feels safe. No expectations

How did you all solve this kind of problem? I feel ashamed as a man i can get aroused so quickly.... It's inequal.

It helps my partner to get pleasure when she masturbates. However we've tried it like prone doggystyle with her legs together, but it wasn't very comfortable for her. She can't do that when on top since she needs her legs to you know move around and grind, since otherwise being on top is her favourite.

Anyone been there?

Why does that happen? I've never been soft during sex to the point i cannot thrust, but as title says why does that happen? Is it gravity? I must admit i get a bit tired in the body after being ridden as i have to provide a stable platform by basically doing a isometric hip thrust, or maybe i'm bullshitting myself. But then thursting also has you using your big hip muscles...

It's nothing major but i'd prefer to be perfectly hard all the time. I don't want to be seen as not-interested or unengaged.