r/SexPositive

So i tried butt plugs recently, glass ones to be precise because from what i know those are ideal for hygiene. Now I should say know the general idea of how to do anal like lots of lube, realxing your ass and all that. So with that in mind i threw that all out the window and used nothing but pussy juice and went for it. With this in mind, can someone tell me how on earth i managed to fit the largest out of three plugs, which was about four inches long and pretty wide into my butt first try no prep other than cleaning my ass lol. Maybe i was just super relaxed but it didn't hurt at all just slipped in like nothing.

My partner loves to cum on my face and i really enjoy pleasing him, but the problem is i keep breaking out on my chin. Even when he just slaps his dick on my face (i know he's very clean, and i trust he's not sleeping around), I break out pretty bad.

I wash it off right after and do a full, thorough skin care routine when I get home. I usually apply glycolic acid after these sessions, OR differin. Still break out. Doesn't happen on my cheeks, or anywhere else. Just my chin. Advice is really welcome. I just want to be able to please my dom without feeling insecure after :/

Okay so this has never happened to me before and I’ve done anal my fair share of times, I’ll try to give as much detail as possible.

Yesterday I (F) had anal sex with my partner of 3 years, we’ve both never been with anyone else so I doubt it’s an std but not completely closed off to the idea. He didn’t ejaculate anywhere near my genitals but we didn’t use any contraception.

After getting home and having a nap, I felt very thick discharge coming out and thought it was just discharge mixed with vaginal fluids so didn’t think much of it. Went to the bathroom and the discharge was brownish reddish and milky, it all 100% came from the vagina. It didn’t really have an unusual smell either.
I just chalked it up to some scratching during fingering but I didn’t really feel any of that.

Come the next day and I’ve gone to the bathroom to find thick booger-like discharge thats slightly milky but mostly clear. I’ve never had anything like this before so I’m quite concerned, especially cause a lot of google searches are leading me to “early pregnancy” pages. This discharge also does have an odour, not a fishy smell but I can’t really place it, it’s not extremely strong but not pleasant either.

I don’t have access to a sexual health clinic until 2 weeks from now, I’m wondering if anyone has experienced anything similar or can pinpoint what the likely cause is? I’m on day 1 of ovulation today and the sex was yesterday. Any help is greatly appreciated.

I just remembered that for about a second, after the penis was removed he did brush it against my clit but it was no longer than 1 second and did not reach the opening + I wiped it (honestly, not very thoroughly) down when it happened. Thought this might be useful information. He also probably did use the same fingers vaginally and anally now that I think about it

going to try asking again.

I am not from the UK. I am in NA. There is a show "Pleasure Island" Channel 4 I think. Is there any other place to stream this series?

I love this kind of sex ed, exploration stuff. Any guidance would be appreciated.

Overall, society feels more progressive and open-minded than at any point in recent history. Yet when it comes to talking openly about sex or accepting nudity as normal, it seems like we’re actually moving backwards. People appear more insecure and self-conscious about their own bodies these days, and there are fewer spaces where anyone can be nude without it being a big deal. I get the sense that many are genuinely sex-positive in theory, but in practice they still treat sex like something private and slightly embarrassing. Curious to hear what others think about this contradiction.

Ever since I started being sexually active with someone else, I completely stopped prioritizing my own orgasms. I had always masturbated the exact same way and figured I didn’t need toys or to switch things up.The problem was that my body had become so wired to that specific routine that I literally couldn’t finish during sex. The way I used to do it, especially the leg position, had trained me to only respond in one very particular manner.So I made a conscious decision to retrain myself. I started masturbating with my legs spread open, focusing just on clit stimulation in a way that could actually happen during partnered sex.It wasn’t easy at first—my body had to completely readjust and relearn how to feel pleasure. The pressure, the rhythm, everything felt different. The very first time took me almost 20 minutes (when my old method usually took just 3), but I still came, which gave me hope.With practice, I got much better at it and my body started adapting faster. Then today… holy shit.I’m now able to finish really quickly, and the orgasms are on another planet. They last a full five seconds of pure intensity. My old orgasms were always super short and sharp, but these I can actually savor and ride out. And the craziest part? I’m still turned on afterward.When I go for a second round… oh my god. It’s pure bliss. I stay in that intense pleasure zone for way longer—easily 15 minutes or more—and the second orgasm hits just as strong.I’m genuinely so proud of myself for making this change and reaching this new level of pleasure. I can’t wait to experience it with a partner.

It seems like you can't have it both ways unless you put in tons of effort to find the right people in seemingly limitless numbers of others. I like meeting people and talking to them and am interested in exploring sexual stuff more, but I don't just want to mindlessly exchange NSFW stuff and then get ghosted. It seems like where ever I go online I either get one or the other. Good conversation and some connection but no interest in sexual stuff or people who only care about the NSFW and only talk enough to get off then leave forever once they've had their fill of it. It seems like I rarely find someone who sticks around for a good chat after that. There must be others looking for the same, but where are they?

So yesterday I was cuddling and making out with my new partner in my car. Everything was so exciting for me. It's been way too long since I've been this close with someone...then again, no one could even come close to how well things are going between me and them. I was getting hard and leaking so...I wanted to see what they were capable of doing. They gave me a hand job but...during the process, even if I was hard and leaking and feeling sensitive to their touch...I wasn't feeling anything. I wasn't feeling that slow build up to orgasim. Not that I wanted to finish quickly but...it just felt like it was taking a bit. So then they tried sucking me off and that did feel good but...nothing was still happening. I felt like my mind just went blank. I am big, so they couldn't deep throat me, but they got a good length of my dick. So since nothing was coming out I thought maybe I should suck them instead. Holy shit they were big. We were the same length but theirs was much thicker. I was impressed. So this was my first time sucking dick and dispite my teeth creeping in a few times, I think I did okay. I couldn't fully get down all the way so I was mostly trying to do tongue work with the tip. However, nothing came out of them either and maybe when they were about too, I kept gaging when I tried going deeper. So then we both decided that the moment passed and we just stopped. Thankfully they didn't make me feel weird about it. We cuddled and talked and admired each other's bodies and played around with them a bit. However after the fun day we had I was wondering...what the fuck?! I've waited to do this again for a long time and It took long for me the cum again? The first time I had sex with someone it did take me a bit cum but I eventually did and so did the other person, but I had to think of something to make myself cum. I've never been penetrated by a real person nor have I penetrated a real person. So both of experiences involve hands on dicks with the second one involving blow jobs. I knew my first time wasn't going to be amazing and was going to be a learning experience for what I want and what I like...I just didn't think my second time would be worse than my first one. I did tell my new partner that I like people to be gentle with me, but I guess they were kinda rough. But I thought, hey maybe they've got a trick I haven't felt before. But even if I tried to enjoy it, for some reason I couldn't focus on the pleasure. My mind was kinda blank when it all happened. And then I did ask them what they like but maybe I didn't hear it or maybe they didn't tell me just exactly what they want me to do. When we were cuddling we talked about using more foreplay next time, because the things that got me hard was making out with them, them giving me hickeys, and just them touching me. They massaged my ass, that felt good. Because we both agreed we love the build up to sex...maybe I should have asked more about what they like too. We also agreed maybe my car wasn't the most comfortable place to do it. I also had an idea to send them a video of me masterbaiting so they could mimic my hand work. The video also made me find out how long I usually take. 5 minutes. But it's weird. How come I'm much better at pleasuring myself and being relaxed and in the moment than during sex? And how come the advice I give to myself "ask what your partner likes" it didn't go through my head during the act? Is it because I'm so used to just pleasuring myself, psychologically my mind is like "Holy shit, uh...uh...fuck how did we get horny again"? Is because of my endless consumption of porn every since I was younger? Is it because of the constant stress I feel for living? Or is it because I make sure not to cum too fast my dick is like "guess I'm not cumming at all"? I was also very ticklish when this all happened. Am I that starved of touch my body like "Oh my god it's happening, stay calm...I SAID STAY CALM"?

What could possibly be wrong that dispite me being horny...nothing happened?

I genuinely find it soooo hot to hear men moan, grunt, dirty talk, anything really, yet seemingly so few men are actually vocal. Why is that?

I've been seeing a tattoo artist off and on for a while now, he's genuinely the greatest sexual partner that I've ever had. Because of my BC and previous sexual experiences, I've always had a bit of a hard time cumming without being intoxicated on some level, it helps to quiet the noise in my head so I can focus on what's in front of me, but with him, the best experiences are have been when im sober. He's able to get me wet before he even touches me below the neck and his fingers alone are enough to make me gush. On the rare occasion that he can't get me there, he's happy to try for as long as I'll let him. Before I met him I was beginning to lead into my dominant side, but with him I want nothing more than to fully submit and cater to what makes him feel good (probably because I know that he's going to take care of me no matter what).

Now that you get how important his pleasure is to me, here's the current predicament. He's given me two tattoos now, and after the last one we had an impromptu play session that was on another level, even for him. The next day we were texting and he made a comment about being excited to keep giving me quirky tattoos and making me cum. I half jokingly asked if that was a secret kink of his and he said "lol I don't know, maybe?" I wasn't sure how to proceed with that or how serious to take him so I pivoted.

Basically, I'm curious to know if i should bring it back up to him at some point? And if it turns out that he's serious and it is something he's genuinely into, is there a way to cater to that withoutttttt getting a million tattoos? Are there any kind of alternatives that people with this kink are into? I like the process of it, I do find it very meditative when I can get comfy and let him work his magic on me, but I've never been one to want to be covered in tattoos. Any and all suggestions would be appreciated here!

Specifically do I need dating apps or can in person dating lead me to the kind of relationship I want? I'm looking for long term relationships because mutual intimacy and respect matter to me. I love Women who are kind hearted, have a love for animals, aren't interested in children, etc.

I feel like most guys are so vanilla and I have these fantasies that I need to satisfy…

Even though I’ve never felt great about my body, I’ve started taking tons of photos of myself lately. I really enjoy playing around with different angles, lighting, and poses—it’s surprisingly fun. I’ve shared some of them on Fetlife. I like posting there more because it feels safer and more low-key, and I don’t end up comparing myself to every other woman as much. I’ve also been sending them to guys I’ve connected with on dating apps and Fetlife. It’s given me such a huge confidence boost!

I've noticed this about myself. I love playing with people on Reddit, sharing nudes doing tasks. Role playing if they add tasks to it. Once things become ongoing then they become a friend and I don't want to play with them anymore. I can't be alone here

We thought 1 hour of foreplay was enough, but for her to get properly ready she needs 2 hours. that's grand but at some point i kinda lose focus, because i'm a man and while foreplay is nice i am kinda ready as is. of course i keep going manually because well she deserves to get warmed up. so the wait ends up pretty long.

but yeah, it feels shameful that i can get ready so quick because i'm a typical man. it feels shameful i kinda get internally a bit bored or lose focus because you gotta focus that long on foreplay when i just wanna lick her down there already but it's a long time until that happens.

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I [F33] have only had very few partners. Like, count on one hand. Unfortunately none of them really explored kinks with me outside of one of them liking feet. How do you find kinks when you don’t have kinky partners? I’m open to things for the most part, and at times I feel a little inexperienced for my age due to my strict religious upbringing before being more sexually open with myself in my later years.

I watch porn from time to time but im trying to reduce the times i masturbate. But whenever I imagine a woman that moans softly I just get hornyy af and start finding porn where a woman moans softly rather than hearing her scream or whatever.