u/AjKuro

Where do you stand? I am a single mom of two teens and been pondering. I've heard some nos, but overwhelmingly I have been hearing yes, this is a modern sex positive parenting approach. I'd say the argument against it is having the importance and ability to learn your body through your own pysical touch, etc. But is quality and intensity of orgasm more important? Personally, I have a Hitachi and can't live without it. Where do we stand on this?

I remember back in my teen years a giant stuffed teddy bear my family had given me that was won at an amusement park. Long story short, I fucked that thing silly for years (I found ways to wash it, don't worry). As a girl, I would grind that thing like my life depended on it. Poor teddy bear... Anyone else grow up with a toy or something they had used? Do people still do this now or have we moved on from this as a society?

Not me, but others. Like how did you go from feeling guilty about your sexuality, to accepting and confident?

Sometimes the answer is time. Like for me and porn amd masturbation. I used to feel so much guilt and shame. I just kept doing it and doing it. Now? Every day, multiple times a day. Proud of it, and proud supporter of it. Was time the answer for you? Some sort of exercise or ritual? Share your story. I'm a 42 year old single mom with 2 kids btw.

Can anyone fathom a world in which porn didn't exist? Like I literally can't imagine not watching porn every single day. Now I'm not saying I wouldn't be able to survive, but I literally can't imagine not having access to it. I'm a mom, 42 years old, single mom, and watch porn daily. Usually a few times a day. No it doesn't get in the way, but a normal part of my daily routine to keep me grounded and focused. I understand that it doesn't work that way for everybody, but just talking about myself. Like I grew up not with cells phones as accessible as they are now and internet like it is. It was different early on, feels like a different life.

Life as a sex positive mom has me feeling like I'm living a double life. Anyone else experience this? Like I try to instill sex and body positivity in my upbringing of my kids (single mom, 2 teens), but in my community I feel like I can't be open with anyone IRL. It's my own issue I suppose for fear of judgment, but I don't want anyone concerned about my kids if I were to be open with some of my values with other moms. Not that i'm doing anything bad obviously, i just feel like it's such a taboo subject in my community that I need to pretend to be against stuff I'm not. Can anyone else relate or give advice?

I heard from someone in that community that it is "essential" for discovery and validation. Can anyone chime in with their experiences on how essential porn has been for validating their identity?