u/HoldOnLuisito

Ok, so this was sexting, not irl. We were both so horny and having a good time, and just when he was about to ejaculate he said something like: ''Oh I wanna hurt you so bad, I want you to feel pain. I want to bite you, beat you, make you cry'' and I was like ??? He later explained to me that all of that was just a kink and that we don't have to do it irl.

I want to be open minded guys, I'm getting to know him and I want to know if one can have desires like that in your mind without ACTUALLY wanting to hurt your partner in and out of the bedroom? (cause I wont' participate in that). I really like him, and he's the sweetest so far, so that's why it's hard for me to separate his horny self to his actual personality if that makes sense...