u/Icy_Rip_3760

It's quite easy to be seen, doing it over places like we see often over here does not interests me. For me personally, I like something riskier and safer at the same time.
Let me explain with a few examples, like being in micro bikini on a public beach and just putting a translucent shrug over - risky and safe at the same, or may be something subtle, a halter neck top with huge armholes that can expose most amount of side breasts and more - it may look like a dress malfunction but again kinky imo, I have seen something similar hence mentioned. Then a few of my personal experiences which includes getting a bikini wax by a male at decent place where things are completely under control and safe, it's fun when you're in a compromising position but that is completely normalized.

We often see people asking suggestions for how to convince their wife or girlfriend for hotwifing/cuckolding, but I've barely seen any female asking the opposite, like suggestion and help to convince her boyfriend or husband.
So, I am going to ask that. How can I convince my partner into hotwife/stag/cuck dynamics without adding any element of humiliation or disrespect or any sense of making him feel low.
What I want is a little mind play, moderate amount of manipulation, like normalizing the taboo out of it, making it look like its normal and people does it more than we see. Most importantly I want to see him having a third as a 'need'. I know I am sounding crazy but if I want him to step into it, I'd want it this way only.

I am 25 F and in a healthy relationship, but it's a fact that my libido can't be satisfied by a single individual. I knew this since when I got to know about sex. My boyfriend is aware too but not serious about it. I don't entirely blame him. I think the main flaw is in me. Whenever I am horny, I am fantasizing, things just appear too good in my mind, but when I am calm, thinking about it normally, I just find it a bit weird. Like IDK how to explain but I make things complicated or maybe I am coward. I don't blame anyone for this.
I wish to have healthy physical relationship with multiple men, not just random one-night stands, but for long term with men who understands me, my body, my pov and most importantly respect me and my relationship. It need not to be cuckolding all the time. However, when I think of taking things into reality, something stops me, IDK what that is. It's not like I've never met anyone outside my relationship; I have but not for the actual sex. I have met a well-known male content creator a couple of years back, with whom I been on a coffee date to check the vibes as well as being naked in the private space, though I did not tell this to my boyfriend and we did not have sex, it was my call, I made this clear straightforward.

I'm 25 F, not new over here. I have been here for last couple of years. What I have felt and what I feel is that being an overthinker makes everything boring. I started to feel like sex is boring, it's just a natural act and stuff. I don't what exactly I am trying to explain, and you people will understand through it. It's just I have started to lose my libido quickly.
I feel things are boring and everything is just the hype. Earlier I used to be pretty much active, used to post myself (judge me if you wish but it is what it is), interact with people, all in all I used to have good time over here. Now I have started to feel like I'm in a loop. Everyone including me is doing the same thing. Same bodies of different shapes and sizes, same people commenting. It's like I have understood the pattern. I know what post will get more interaction and what will not.
Honestly, this very over understanding of things has ruined it for me. I don't feel excited to come here. I don't even feel the same excitement during the masturbation. I feel like I am not properly turned on and it's not because of any person, place, thing or anyone, it's just something about myself. My orgasms do not feel like before, the intensity I'm talking about. Also, this has nothing to do with my relationship. It's all on the track and me and my partner enjoys our time together, but I get this feeling once in a while around him as well, that sex is just a basic thing, which eventually didn't let me turn on/get wet when were about to do things, and I just over think around it. Maybe I have started to become less kinky after figuring out how things work or IDK what it is.

Just a small experiment, let's see how it goes.

I honestly never imagined myself being a Sugar Baby. I joined it over here just to explore and check what goes on. I had no need to be a SB and depend upon it since firstly I am a white collared employee, secondly, I am also in a relationship, although this is my little secret that I have kept from him.
So around 3 weeks back I make a post about looking for a virtual sugar dynamic, I receive multiple dms and I talked to a few but finally shortlisted one based upon our compatibility and aim.

I don't really provide GFE because I can't fake it, as a girl friend who has been in relationship for last 6 years, it's hard to act. So, our dynamic is like we talk about kinks, experiences, I buy dresses (obviously from the sugar hehe) and watches me stripping through it, I do dares latest being a softcore balcony exhibition, also he's married and his wife is unaware/vanilla, but he has cuckold fantasies, so I love to humiliate him as a cuck with the scenarios involving me and his wife, which he loves. He guides me for things I should do when I meet my BF, I follow and record that. There's much more, this is just a glimpse.

All in all, it has been a kinky experience, and I have been enjoying being a sugar baby.

I’m 25F and have been very good friends with a girl the same age as me. We went to the same school. She considers me her best friend, but I’m more of a listener. I don’t really share much about myself with her.

She’s been dating a guy from her office for the last 2.5 years. I’ve met him, he’s well spoken, confident, intelligent, and fit. Overall, he seemed like a decent guy. I was genuinely happy for her.

She’s someone who really loves sex. Her libido is much higher than mine. I suspect one reason is that she grew up in a very conservative family. I’ve been to her house; her parents don’t even let her wear shorts. Once she moved out, she wanted to explore as much as she could.

Before she started dating this guy, she got into some weird dynamics with a couple of guys. They were interested in her, but she was mainly just satisfying her physical needs while dropping a few hints. After about two years she switched jobs, moved to a different company, and met the guy she’s dating now.

For context, I’ve been in a relationship for the last six years. Before that I had a FWB situation. I told her about it a long time ago including all the details of what kind of stuffs I have done with him. I’m still in touch with that guy in the sense that we follow each other on social media, but we don’t actually talk.

A few weeks ago, she texted me saying she wanted to hook up with someone else because she was craving sex and her boyfriend wasn’t around. I don’t support cheating, but I didn’t want to sound judgmental or create any distance between us, so I just asked what she wanted to do and how I could help. She said she wanted me to help her find a guy who could please her well.

I mentioned my old FWB, he was good at it, lived in the same city as her, and could be trusted. She knows I don’t talk to him anymore. She was okay with it because she’d seen him before (we were all at the same school; he was three years older). So I texted him and explained the situation. He said it would be better if she contacted him directly. I gave her his Snap ID and they started texting. I didn’t ask for details.

Here’s the interesting part: her boyfriend was never actually away. She met my FWB three times. Firstly, in public, with her boyfriend present then in private, where they had a threesome and another time involving cuckolding/hotwifing.

She never told me any of this. I only found out from the guy. He said she told him that I already knew they were going to do all of that. I was surprised by the details like they were very passionate about it. It did not feel like they were doing it for the first time. The guy was equally enjoying as much as she was.

What I have felt during my journey is that being kinky, being naught, being fun comes when you're doing well in your general life (at least in my case). I feel like things can never become permanent. There will be times when you feel like leaving everything and just start living like a normal one. I think I am at that point now. I feel like its easier to explore when you're at your best, when you're happy. For a person who feels a lot, its tough, its a tough journey. If you're curious, then focus upon your real life, make yourself happy, make yourself stress free, then I think it would come out naturally.

How do you guys ensure the safety? I will take an example, let's say I wish to have a massage in front of my boyfriend. We travelled to a different city, then what kind of property should we book? Bnb? Hotel? Which one is the safest option without leaving any obvious hints for others? Secondly, how do you ensure that the other person is not a creep or does anything suspicious? What all are things that a first timer should ensure and take care of before taking any step further?
Edit: I neither drink nor smoke, and I am not 420 friendly either, so is this kink really possible for me? I have heard people telling me that they are not into this mindset until they are high. How true is that?
Please tell me in the comments since my inbox is a bit messed up.

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A lot of people have been asking about this after reading my “about me” post, so I thought I’d share the story. This started back in 2023 when I got my first job. I moved to a new city and started living alone in a small 1RK apartment on the 17th floor. At first, I was pretty conservative. Being 22 and suddenly living alone in a new city felt both exciting and overwhelming.

Before moving out, I had lived in a joint family with all the typical restrictions you can imagine. So, when I finally had my own place, something shifted in me. I started loving the freedom, being lazy, doing whatever I wanted, and especially coming home after a long day and just chilling in my underwear. That quickly became my daily routine.

My apartment had a decent sized balcony (big enough for a clothes stand and to sit comfortably), and it was caged by metal wires for safety since it was on the 17th floor. At first, I’d only step out at night to bring in clothes or water the plants. But slowly I gained the courage to go out even during the day.

Eventually, I started going onto the balcony in just my bra and panties, sipping coffee, taking calls, reading, or just finding random excuses to be out there. It felt incredibly thrilling. At one point, even if I was fully dressed inside and needed to do something on the balcony, I’d purposely take my clothes off first just for the rush.

I don’t know if anyone ever saw me (there were several buildings around), but by then I had gained a lot of confidence and become much more kink positive. I even met a well known content creator on Reddit around that time, but that’s a whole different story.

It was a fun phase. That was the time I knew it is for me. I don't live in a similar set up anymore. Hopefully I will enter that phase again.