My 26M wife 27F just declared herself free use to me
My wife and I have been together for around 8 years. We had some individual issues that really put a strain on our sex life as a married couple. We both went through some hard times but ultimately got through them with the help of therapy and a lot of hard work! We gained sobriety and cut off our old “friends” who always held us back. So it’s pretty safe to say that we’re in a healthy place now both physically and mentally. We moved into our first home together and our sex life really kicked off. There was more frequent sex and any awkward or triggering moments became few. As time progressed we both became comfortable with our sexuality. We both used to be very sexually active in our lives but we retreated due to the issues we were dealing with. After getting help, however, we are happy and unashamed of our desires and past experiences. The other night we had a long conversation about our sexual experiences with other people, and honestly it was nice, it was hot.. and there was no shame or awkwardness. She let me know a few weeks ago during some spicy texting that she wants to be my toy. I brought up the idea of free use and she was totally down. She came up with a safe word to put a pause on any free use. I don’t use her if I can tell she isn’t feeling good mentally or physically. She is still nervous about public acts, which we decided we would ease her into with small but risky acts until she is more comfortable in that area. I have used her at least once a day since she first brought it up. No matter if she’s sleeping, eating, watching tv, playing a game, or about to fold laundry. She just opens herself whenever i approach. I’ve been using all three of her holes too! Although i’m still easing into it with anal bc she’s practically a virgin there. I just wanted to share because I’m pretty excited about it and I have no idea where else our sex life will go in the future. I don’t expect there to be anyone else ever involved in our sex life, but there have been a few short times that she has said things in a certain way that might suggest she will one day be interested in talking about another girl while we do it, letting another girl watch, or something similar. I am honestly anticipating her inviting new risks into the bedroom as time goes on. I’ll update if there are any big changes! Feel free to ask questions or critique! We are both new to this and unsure of what we are doing right or what we are doing wrong/need to be doing better. Thanks guys!
Update:
All of my wildest dreams are coming true. Tonight we were lying next to each other while masturbating and she wanted to swap fantasies. I started with my typical outdoor kink and she returned with some light bdsm fantasy. Then she asked me how far is too far and that she felt like I wanted to say a fantasy but was afraid of her reaction. So she broke the ice and said that she’d be willing to have a threesome at some point. We want it to be equal so for now the plan is to have one threesome MFM and another FMF. We agreed that four people would just be too much for us right now. I then told her of my fantasy where we make videos or put on an erotic show together, to which she admitted to imagining before. We agreed that we might do that in the future when we are both fully comfortable with our bodies being “displayed”. She mentioned cuckolding, which I have thought about as well, but I would only be okay with that if it was reciprocated. She also wants to masturbate/fuck while watching porn together. I know that last one is kind of vanilla but it’s new ground for us surprisingly lol. That’s all for now!