I(f) asked my partner (m) to add another female to our relationship...
I have soooo many questions and don't know where to begin. I approached this first. Not him. I'm bisexual and have been a long time now. He knew that when we got together, we have been dating going on 3 years now. I completely trust him, but have several trust issues with women. When talking about it he stated he's okay with it but there has to be equality. So more like a throuple I guess? I told him I wanted a girl to come have sleepovers with me, crafts, dress up, and sex occasionally. I stated I didn't just trust anyone so I wanted to build a friendship with someone first. I'm confused how to go about any of this. Idk what any of the "rules" to being a throuple are. I don't want them doing stuff behind my back right away as that makes me mad uncomfy but he's right I can't go putting a bunch of rules and regulations on it or then it's just me wanting to sleep with women. And in a way yes, but also I do want to share I just have so many fears and worries but no one with any experience in these types of things to voice that with.. If it doesn't work out I don't think it'll be then end of my partner and I, but I'd love a girl bestie to help keep me motivated, do girly things with, and help raise our kids together. I just don't know how to go about any of it and if anyone has any pointers please let me know! I just don't want anyone to get hurt. I don't want to be hurt anymore and I don't want to hurt anyone else. I've expressed all my concerns with my partner and he says he understands but the more I think about it the more I'm unsure if I'll be able to handle it emotionally or how can I begin to?