r/Throuplesonly

Howdy beautiful people, hope everyone’s summer is going well.
Hoping I’m in the right place, I (F40) and my partner(M41) have been looking for our special someone(F25-45). We’ve tried dating sites and such but nothing so I thought I’d try here.

He works long hours a lot and I work in a very labor intensive environment. We are not super fit but average to slim build, or so we think lol. We spend a bunch of time with family as well but we don’t get out enough to meet people either lol.

We are in western Canada, if there are any ladies out there looking for us as well

Hey everyone,

My partner and I have recently decided to explore non-monogamy. We’ve agreed that she can have another boyfriend alongside me, and I can have another girlfriend alongside her.

Honestly, I’m pretty confused about how to approach this. We’re both new to it, and while we’ve talked about being open to the idea, I’m not really sure what the next steps should look like.

For those of you who have experience with non-monogamy:

• How did you get started?
• What should we discuss or establish before either of us starts dating someone else?
• How do you deal with jealousy, insecurity, or comparing yourself to your partner’s other relationship?
• As a guy entering this for the first time, is there anything I should specifically be aware of?
• Should I actively look for another girlfriend, or just let it happen naturally?

I’d really appreciate advice from people who have actually been through this. We want to do it in a healthy and respectful way rather than jumping in without knowing what we’re doing.