u/Inevitable_Secret186

Too many times men match with women on dating apps, both people feel a bit horny late night and start sexting / sending pictures.

Soon after, the woman no longer wants to meet, goes cold, and stops responding entirely. She seemed fully DTF at the time, so what gives?

For a woman to hook up with a guy, two things are necessary:

1. Wanting your validation

2. Sufficient sexual tension

Sexting gives both away for free. She knows you want her. And by the time you go through all the "this is I want to do to you," all that sexual tension evaporates as well.

She knows exactly what you'll expect when you meet (sex, obviously). So nothing left for her imagination. Often women will get some remorse afterwards and will find it awkward to meet the man she spent all night with sexting.

So if you haven't met her yet, don't sext. Save it for in person.

This happened to me A LOT back when I was new to approaching and it cost me more interactions that I can care to admit.

I'd come over and say hello, the interaction goes well, but then you can see her go from warm to a bit skeptical to "ok, what does this guy actually want?"

From her POV, unless you make your romantic interest unambiguous there's still that question in the back of her mind. Even if it seems obvious to you, smiling chatty, teasing, SHE doesn't know that.

Paradoxically, when you say "I stopped you because I thought you were cute," she can relax more because now she knows you aren't some salesman/religious person/weirdo/creep.

It also makes your read of her much more accurate. Until you drop your interest explicitly, and go for the number, the feedback you get is ambiguous from your side too.

Smiling and eye contact and being friendly is consistent with being into you.

Smiling and eye contact and being friendly is also consistent with someone just being polite.

Dropping your interest isn't a sure-fire way to weed out her interest (nothing is), but its much better than not doing it, and sometimes you'll learn exactly where you'll stand.

I do day game street approaches also malls sometimes shop

I will say "Hey, excuse me," to get their attention, so she processes someone is actually talking to her specifically and not someone else. Clear loud voice and eye contact.

Then "I want to meet you real quick. I'm John. What's your name?"

Then the crucial part: "I stopped you because I thought you're cute. What are you up to today?"

The crucial part is that she will wonder why you are talking to her, are you a salesman, a religious person, doing a survey? She will wonder why this dude is talking to her until you make it explicit.

If she's nervous I'll say "Yeah it's pretty crazy meeting someone like this, anyway.." then go off on what im doing why im there, "waiting for a friend" whatever.