u/KeelinNyx

I'm a trans woman who has been married for 13+ years and on hormone replacement therapy for just as long. My wife is my best friend and we have been ethically non-monogamous with parallel partners since before we got together. She knows that I am making this post, no she does not wish to participate (but may want to meet at some point if a more long-term thing between us takes root).

Over the years most of our friends and partners have moved away for work or family reasons. Life be what it is, ya know?

• I was asked recently what I'm into and what kind of lover I am in bed. I like to think this might help give an idea..

>...Whatever feels appropriate in the moment. If you're into it, so am I. I have a tendency of "adopting" the preferences of who I'm playing with, because the greater their pleasure, the greater my own. The energy of the situation feeds into itself and snowballs with intensity.
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>I will want to nibble on your ear, breathe out hot breath on the nape of your neck, and tenderly but firmly sink my teeth into you and listen for that involuntary gasp from as you briefly short-circuit.
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>I would want to learn your non-verbal communication. How you involuntarily respond/react to my touch and stimulation. I want to learn your rhythm to match it, how you communicate a yes while my tongue is against your clit, How you ask.. no how you beg for more. How you shift to say "no not quite that" etc.. I want to listen to the sound of your breathing, listen for the subtle gasps, and while I'm going down on you, closely pay attention for tensed up moment when you involuntarily hold your breath as you're nearing climax... then finally thrust into you as you're mid orgasm.
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That communication puzzle is the closest thing to a consistent "kink" that I have. It is a puzzle that fascinates me because it has no permanent solution. It is a puzzle that requires observation as it's solution changes over the course of several hours.

Respecting consent, boundaries, and making sure everyone involved is comfortable and enjoying themselves are all paramount to me. I'm an open book and there is genuinely no such thing as TMI to me lol. Also, please don't worry about "using the right/wrong words." You would have to be overtly going out of your way trying to be actively malicious in order to upset/offend me.

Here to have fun, make new friends, and enjoy the time together that we make for ourselves with genuine sincerity

<3

I'm a trans woman who has been married for 13 years and on hormone replacement therapy for just as long. My wife is my best friend and we have been ethically non-monogamous with parallel partners since before we got together over a decade ago. She knows that I am making this post, no she will not be participating. Over the years most of our friends and partners have moved away for work or family reasons. Life be what it is, ya know?

• I was asked recently what I'm into and what kind of lover I am in bed. I like to think this might help give an idea..

>...Whatever feels appropriate in the moment. If you're into it, so am I. I have a tendency of "adopting" the preferences of who I'm playing with, because the greater their pleasure, the greater my own. The energy of the situation feeds into itself and snowballs with intensity.

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>I will want to nibble on your ear, breathe out hot breath on the nape of your neck, and tenderly but firmly sink my teeth into you and listen for that involuntary gasp from as you briefly short-circuit.

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>I would want to learn your non-verbal communication. How you involuntarily respond/react to my touch and stimulation. I want to learn your rhythm to match it, how you communicate a yes while my tongue is against your clit, How you ask.. no how you beg for more. How you shift to say "no not quite that" etc.. I want to listen to the sound of your breathing, listen for the subtle gasps, and while I'm going down on you, closely pay attention for tensed up moment when you involuntarily hold your breath as you're nearing climax... then finally thrust into you as you're mid orgasm.
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That communication puzzle is the closest thing to a consistent "kink" that I have. It is a puzzle that fascinates me because it has no permanent solution. It is a puzzle that requires observation as it's solution changes over the course of several hours.

Respecting consent, boundaries, and making sure everyone involved are comfortable and enjoying themselves are all paramount to me.

I'm a trans woman who has been married for 13 years and on hormone replacement therapy for just as long. My wife is my best friend and we have been ethically non-monogamous with parallel partners since before we got together over a decade ago. She knows that I am making this post, no she will not be participating. Over the years most of our friends and partners have moved away for work or family reasons. Life be what it is, ya know?

• I was asked recently what I'm into and what kind of lover I am in bed. I like to think this might help give an idea..

>...Whatever feels appropriate in the moment. If you're into it, so am I. I have a tendency of "adopting" the preferences of who I'm playing with, because the greater their pleasure, the greater my own. The energy of the situation feeds into itself and snowballs with intensity.

>I will want to nibble on your ear, breathe out hot breath on the nape of your neck, and tenderly but firmly sink my teeth into you and listen for that involuntary gasp from as you briefly short-circuit.

>I would want to learn your non-verbal communication. How you involuntarily respond/react to my touch and stimulation. I want to learn your rhythm to match it, how you communicate a yes while my tongue is against your clit, How you ask.. no how you beg for more. How you shift to say "no not quite that" etc.. I want to listen to the sound of your breathing, listen for the subtle gasps, and while I'm going down on you, closely pay attention for tensed up moment when you involuntarily hold your breath as you're nearing climax... then finally thrust into you as you're mid orgasm.
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That communication puzzle is the closest thing to a consistent "kink" that I have. It is a puzzle that fascinates me because it has no permanent solution. It is a puzzle that requires observation as it's solution changes over the course of several hours.

Respecting consent, boundaries, and making sure those involved are comfortable and enjoying themselves are all paramount to me.

I'm a trans woman who has been married for 13 years and on hormone replacement therapy for just as long. My wife is my best friend and we have been ethically non-monogamous with parallel partners since before we got together over a decade ago. She knows that I am making this post, no she will not be participating. Over the years most of our friends and partners have moved away for work or family reasons. Life be what it is, ya know?

• I was asked recently what I'm into and what kind of lover I am in bed. I like to think this might help give an idea..

>...Whatever feels appropriate in the moment. If you're into it, so am I. I have a tendency of "adopting" the preferences of who I'm playing with, because the greater their pleasure, the greater my own. The energy of the situation feeds into itself and snowballs with intensity.

I will want to nibble on your ear, breathe out hot breath on the nape of your neck, and tenderly but firmly sink my teeth into you and listen for that involuntary gasp from as you briefly short-circuit.

I would want to learn your non-verbal communication. How you involuntarily respond/react to my touch and stimulation. I want to learn your rhythm to match it, how you communicate a yes while my tongue is against your clit, How you ask.. no how you beg for more. How you shift to say "no not quite that" etc.. I want to listen to the sound of your breathing, listen for the subtle gasps, and while I'm going down on you, closely pay attention for tensed up moment when you involuntarily hold your breath as you're nearing climax... then finally thrust into you as you're mid orgasm.
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That communication puzzle is the closest thing to a consistent "kink" that I have. It is a puzzle that fascinates me because it has no permanent solution. It is a puzzle that requires observation as it's solution changes over the course of several hours.

Respecting consent, boundaries, and making sure those involved are comfortable and enjoying themselves are all paramount to me. I value communication incredibly.

>With that all said, this will likely be a deal breaker for the majority if you who have made it this far but I ask to hear me out: I do test positive for hsv2 antibodies (it was passed to me at birth by my mother). None of my partners, my wife included, over the last nearly two decades ever contracted it and we have been mostly condomless the entire time. I know the early signs of what "shedding" looks like (swollen lymph nodes in groin, itchiness, sudden sharp hip/knee pain, etc..) and know that it will be a two week wait time until I can use my cock again.

I do not take risks when it involves the safety of someone else under any circumstance, no exceptions

>I know this might potentially ostracize me in certain communities or spaces, and this very well might be considered a hottake: but I sincerely believe it is possible to have a 100% transmission free sexual relationship with someone who has hsv2 if they are communicative, self aware, observant, and practice mindfulness around the subject. However, at the end of the day, any risk is still a risk and I wouldn't want anyone to feel like I'm trying to pressure them into being comfortable with something they otherwise wouldn't be. A lot of people assume that hsv2 is the result of recklessness. I never had the opportunity to make that reckless/careless mistake and would never intentionally put someone else at risk. In case it wasn't clear, I do not have a problem using condoms and I would never argue against their usage or literally any boundary for that matter.

This is supposed to be about fun and hopefully making quality friends along the way. To those of you that made it this far, I hope the week has been treating you kindly ^ - ^

I'm a trans woman who has been married for 13 years and on hormone replacement therapy for just as long. My wife is my best friend and we have been ethically non-monogamous with parallel partners since before we got together over a decade ago. She knows that I am making this post, no she will not be participating. I am Solo-Polyamorous in this regard.

Over the years most of our friends and partners have moved away for work or family reasons. Life be what it is, ya know?

• I was asked recently what I'm into and what kind of lover I am in bed. I like to think this might help give an idea..

>...Whatever feels appropriate in the moment. If you're into it, so am I. I have a tendency of "adopting" the preferences of who I'm playing with, because the greater their pleasure, the greater my own. The energy of the situation feeds into itself and snowballs with intensity.

>
>I will want to nibble on your ear, breathe out hot breath on the nape of your neck, and tenderly but firmly sink my teeth into you and listen for that involuntary gasp from as you briefly short-circuit.

>
>I would want to learn your non-verbal communication. How you involuntarily respond/react to my touch and stimulation. I want to learn your rhythm to match it, how you communicate a yes while my tongue is against your clit, How you ask.. no how you beg for more. How you shift to say "no not quite that" etc.. I want to listen to the sound of your breathing, listen for the subtle gasps, and while I'm going down on you, closely pay attention for tensed up moment when you involuntarily hold your breath as you're nearing climax... then finally thrust into you as you're mid orgasm.

>
>That communication puzzle is the closest thing to a consistent "kink" that I have. It is a puzzle that fascinates me because it has no permanent solution. It is a puzzle that requires observation as it's solution changes over the course of several hours.

Respecting consent, boundaries, and making sure those involved are comfortable and enjoying themselves are all paramount to me. I value communication incredibly.

>With that all said, this will likely be a deal breaker for the majority if you who have made it this far but I ask to hear me out: I do test positive for hsv2 antibodies (it was passed to me at birth by my mother). None of my partners, my wife included, over the last nearly two decades ever contracted it and we have been mostly condomless the entire time. I know the early signs of what "shedding" looks like (swollen lymph nodes in groin, itchiness, sudden sharp hip/knee pain, etc..) and know that it will be a two week wait time until I can use my cock again.

I do not take risks when it involves the safety of someone else under any circumstance, no exceptions

>I know this might potentially ostracize me in certain communities or spaces, and this very well might be considered a hottake: but I sincerely believe it is possible to have a 100% transmission free sexual relationship with someone who has hsv2 if they are communicative, self aware, observant, and practice mindfulness around the subject. However, at the end of the day, any risk is still a risk and I wouldn't want anyone to feel like I'm trying to pressure them into being comfortable with something they otherwise wouldn't be. A lot of people assume that hsv2 is the result of recklessness. I never had the opportunity to make that reckless/careless mistake and would never intentionally put someone else at risk. In case it wasn't clear, I do not have a problem using condoms and I would never argue against their usage or literally any boundary for that matter.

This is supposed to be about fun and hopefully making quality friends along the way. To those of you that made it this far, I hope the week has been treating you kindly ^ - ^

PS: I am free most evenings after ~8:30ish PM (20:30) (weekdays and weekends)