u/LLTB4822

42m here. I know there are a lot of guys who would happily at a minimum show off their biceps and calf muscles, and plenty that show their abs. Are there any guys like that that are the same way about their dicks? I come from a pretty conservative background when it comes to any sort of body exposure, even just taking shirts off. I’m curious how far things can swing any other direction for some people and if there are people for whom nudity is so normalized it’s no different then rolling up a sleeve and flexing.

If there’s any area where I feel like I’m broke as a guy, it’s on the subject of what gets me hard. It’s most glaringly obvious when it comes to the subject of receiving BJs I feel like I’m the only guy who is indifferent to receiving them. But that extends to any one way touch. I read guys describe what they enjoy in bed and it’s inevitably a lot about what their partner does to them and especially their dick.

I know I’m a partner pleaser. I’ve been reading a bit and beginning to think I’ve found my I’ve got a soft or pleasure dom kink. I don’t want to be degrading. I don’t want to be called sir or daddy but nor do I want to be treated as a sub either. I just want to give my partner the most important most possible and feel like they’re sharing themselves with me

I truthfully don’t care what happens with my dick. Yes I love to fuck but even when I’m sticking it in with intercourse, its role and function is the pleasure it gives my partner. Otherwise there’s nothing a partner could do on their own to get it hard. Not Jerking sucking or teasing.

Dry humping and frotting is about it. Dirty talk can but even then it’s based on their pleasure and them wanting me to pleasure them. “Give me that big dick” doesn’t work. “I want to feel you deep inside me” does. If I was to tie someone up it would be to have free rein to please them, not use them for my own.

Am I broken? Does anyone feel this way? Disclosure that I’ve left off intentionally till now: Im gay. Tried to keep this as gender neutral as possible to see how universal this feeling is and maybe if it’s more of a gay than a straight thing.