u/Lazy_Investigator42

I am really not trying to sound like an asshole here but, I can't really understand why women get their tuberous breasts corrected if not to appeal to men/partners. Because until I met someone I liked, I didn't even think about my boobs. I'm always wearing a shirt or a bra and nobody knows. Even if people could tell, I had no one to impress so I didnt care. Then I got a crush and being deformed is suddenly all I could think about. I know you guys say most men don't care, but what my crush might think about them is all I can think about. I never once considered surgery before I felt this way about someone.

So I have no medical or scientific knowledge but from what I can see online there is no known cause of why this defect occurs? Do you guys have any theories? Lol maybe this is a crazy theory but I was getting severely bullied at school at the time I was going through puberty. Maybe stress affects development??

So I'm a 29 year old virgin. I don't want to blame my severe tuberous breasts completely, because I did have a high school boyfriend who accepted them but I didn't feel ready then. The few times I have since talked to men, I feel like they talk to me like a sex object & because I'm deformed I'm like great he doesn't realize I'm not even good enough to be reduced to an object. Those situations never go anywhere because I want a relationship not a hookup. Or the opposite happens, where a man is so respectful (disinterested?) that I'm like this one sees me like a person so I chase them (away). The last guy like this was literally the most handsome man I'd seen in my life. Tall, fit, charismatic, beautiful smile, very experienced, probably had lots of options. But he said he couldn't talk to me anymore because I'm too insecure. But all I could think about was that someone that conventionally attractive couldn't accept my very unconventional boobs so I guess I was subconsciously pushing him away to save myself from inevitable rejection. But was it inevitable? I told him I had weird boobs and he still told me I was sexy. But I didn't tell him how weird. I feel like everyone in this community gets corrective surgery, but if there's anyone that's out here showing their weird boobs to hot men let me know how that goes cause I'm too scared myself. Will I only ever be good enough to hook up with once? Could I still be girlfriend material? Are better looking men less accepting of your boobs?